Reasons why having first love experiences at a late age sucks

[Dattebayo 2,850]

 

I think this is boiling down to RainbowMau not wanting to get older.

I mean god damn, do any of us really?

[Malinter 3,064]

I mean god damn, do any of us really?

 

Yes, death is a part of being born, you'd be born with webbed hands and legs if the skin between them never died. Every 3 or so years your entire body as refreshed its cells as the old ones die off. The limit on cell devision is a defence against cancer, if it fails, cancer is the result as the cells become immortal and divide forever till they stress the system and kill you.

[Dattebayo 2,850]

Yes, death is a part of being born, you'd be born with webbed hands and legs if the skin between them never died. Every 3 or so years your entire body as refreshed its cells as the old ones die off. The limit on cell devision is a defence against cancer, if it fails, cancer is the result as the cells become immortal and divide forever till they stress the system and kill you.

I'm all good with death, it's the "growing up" part that bothers me.

[Malinter 3,064]

I'm all good with death, it's the "growing up" part that bothers me.

 

You'lll manage somehow, we all do eventually.

[RainbowMau 291]

RainbowMau, let me ask You something. Why did You make this thread when only thing You do is talking nonsense or even trolling?

To vent, or do you think i'm having fun typing what i'm saying and reading what people is replying? I've been depressed with this for years and it hurts to deal with it.

Edited September 1, 2014 by RainbowMau

[Sir Hugsalot 8,621]

To vent, or do you think i'm having fun typing what i'm saying and reading what people is replying? I've been depressed with this for years and it hurts to deal with it.

Then do something about it. I am all for venting, but things You say here are not truth yet You keep insisting they are. You outright judge people by age and that is not a thing for which depression may be treated as an excuse. If You are depressed then talk with specialist, seek help, do something instead of making Yourself look bad here. Listen to what others say because they make much more sense than You think. 

[~Master~ Button Mash 2,307]

Someone showed me this video a few days ago, it was extremely powerful. Made me do an about-face.

 

 

To count, this is a man who:

- Had nearly every bone in his body broken as he was being born

- Never grew to over three feet tall

- Is wheel chair bound

- Has no teeth

- Has to be washed and taken care of

 

And he's VERY successful. In life AND with women (well he's a one woman man now, since he's married )

 

If he can do all that, and your only excuse is "Bah I'm in my upper 20s"...then you have no real excuse.

 

Watch the video.

Shut the fuck up.

Stop being a little bitch.

Put your big boy pants on.

And suck it up and just go date.

[Here No Longer 5,270]

Well, I wouldn't know if it does because I was 21 when I had my first romantic and also my first sexual experiences (both with my current boyfriend).  And age doesn't matter all that much. At times my boyfriend is more romantic and more sexual than even I am, and he's 6 1/4 years older than I am...

Edited October 7, 2019 by Spider Demon

[Lucky Bolt 34,914]

I wouldn't know either. My first relationship happened when I was 16 and then...well, I was 17 when I had my first kiss and...other experiences.  But I don't think there's anything wrong with experiencing love late personally. 

[Early Sunsets 2,106]

Assuming we're talking about not finding love until after high school, you miss out on all of the fun, risky stuff of young romance, like hiding under your s/o's bed when their parents walk in or something like that. I think my high school love experience was more puppy love than anything considering me and my ex never even kissed after a year and a half of dating (entirely my fault, I'm about as assertive as a sack of potatoes).

[Dreambiscuit 8,024]

It doesn't suck at all experiencing love at a later age. I never had much of a love life until I met Mr. Right and got married. I didn’t want to fool around or mess with meaningless experiences for quick gratification; which seemed to defeat the whole point. By waiting until I knew what I was doing and what to expect I enjoyed it more and found a man who is more grounded and interested in making us both happy. And by being more selective I avoided a lot of pointless heartbreak and other mistakes that often come from rushing into something with someone who isn’t the right someone just because it was convenient, hormone-driven, or out of some desperation on my part. I waited and it was worth it.  

[The Historian 515]

But, like, I'm in my mid-30s and haven't lost any of that with my boyfriend. Admittedly, he's a fair bit younger than I am, but we're both acting like silly teenagers deep in love. I haven't lost anything due to age. OP sounded like he was stereotyping because that's sure as hell not how my relationship works. Heck not even my parents are like that! You don't have to give up childlike fun as you get older, which is what the OP sounds like he's compelled to do.

Trust me. Don't. Your soul won't be crushed as easily...

[Rarity Gemstones 189]

The propositions posted by the original poster are absolutely ghastly and preposterous. Many of his initial claims that are supposedly negatory qualities are in fact quite positive in nature. A good example is that concept of dating in your middle years means the brain is fully developed. I legitimately can not discern how one could view this as a negative aspect as when a woman or man is fully developed in the mental region, they are more informed and keen on what they desire from a romantic partner. This means less "games" as many put it and more commitment.

[TBD 17,228]

There are some people who are actually under the impression or under a pressure that they need to find love before they reach an "old age". I know some people who are like that. Some doesn't mind and some do.  I for one, don't care either way and chose not to rush.

Edited September 23, 2019 by TBD

[Jon the VGNerd 842]

Man, IDK what to say. I wish I'd experience first love, though it feels like every missed opportunity because they're either uninterested in me or I'm generally unconfident in approaching them without being too off-putting. Hell, I wish I had that chance back in high school though I was too uncomfortable, and have no confidence in being approached without getting myself nervous. Even in college I didn't do much and didn't really broke the ice around others. I guess it's because my interests were completely different than theirs, though that's just me.

[ExplosionMare 18,007]

You don’t have to make it all about sex. You can still experience emotions and love and all that at an older age (ask any adult going through a struggle I’m sure they still have lots and lots of emotions). 

If a relationship you’re in is all about sex, then it’s probably not a good relationship. It’s fine to have it, I’m not saying take it out of the picture, but let it be an occasional thing and focus on just spending time with that person and just loving them.

2 hours ago, Rarity Gemstones said:

The propositions posted by the original poster are absolutely ghastly and preposterous. Many of his initial claims that are supposedly negatory qualities are in fact quite positive in nature. A good example is that concept of dating in your middle years means the brain is fully developed. I legitimately can not discern how one could view this as a negative aspect as when a woman or man is fully developed in the mental region, they are more informed and keen on what they desire from a romantic partner. This means less "games" as many put it and more commitment.

Not everyone agrees on committing, though. 

[Brony Number 42 9,926]

I have to agree with the original post. Seems like everyone else here disagrees. There comes a point where a motivational speech becomes patronizing. Like telling a person they can win the lottery because someone else did, so keep buying those tickets! Sure, it may be technically possible, but you need to be realistic. I never had a gf, I kissed 1 girl when I was well past 25, and that has been a long time ago now. I have seen people around me get gfs in high school, serious gfs in college, then marriage, then have kids (which I don't want).

I definitely see that there is a difference between being 18 and having a gf for the for the time and being almost X

Spoiler

I saw Back To The Future 2 in theaters 

and having a gf for the first time. How many women my age are 1) good looking 2) not married and never been married 3) don't have or want kids 4) want to watch cartoons all day? The up side is I get to spend all my money on myself.

[Rarity Gemstones 189]

46 minutes ago, ExplosionMare said:

Not everyone agrees on committing, though. 

I have found that persons of the older persuasion are more likely to be keen on commitment than their younger counterparts who seem more interested in the short term and sexual encounters. Mostly because the older we all become, the more we start to recognize how important our responsibilities are and we wish for the companionship of those who share the same desire to take care of responsibilities rather than those who are essentially more "care free" as the term goes.

[Brony Number 42 9,926]

@Rarity Gemstones but that is exactly the problem! If I'm a guy who wants a gf, and I never had one, I see what all the guys in their teens and 20s got to have: girlfriends with no care about the future, not worrying about marriage, just having fun dating. But I'm supposed to date a woman in her 30s who did all of that and now wants a guy who has a job and a house and a 401k.

I have a good job and a 401k and no debt, and if some woman in her 30s wanted to date me, I would say "where were you 10 years ago? I wasn't good enough for you then but I am now? Mr Football Quarterback and Mr Bad Boy don't have good jobs so now you come to me? You missed your chance."

[Rarity Gemstones 189]

22 hours ago, 2nd Amendment Brony said:

@Rarity Gemstones but that is exactly the problem! If I'm a guy who wants a gf, and I never had one, I see what all the guys in their teens and 20s got to have: girlfriends with no care about the future, not worrying about marriage, just having fun dating. But I'm supposed to date a woman in her 30s who did all of that and now wants a guy who has a job and a house and a 401k.

I have a good job and a 401k and no debt, and if some woman in her 30s wanted to date me, I would say "where were you 10 years ago? I wasn't good enough for you then but I am now? Mr Football Quarterback and Mr Bad Boy don't have good jobs so now you come to me? You missed your chance."

Consider this as a point of advice but perhaps you're thinking about this in a way that is disadvantageous to yourself? Your spite toward such a woman and thus turning her down for not being there 10 years ago gives you only the instant gratification of feeling vindicated for the past, but your ultimate reward is you turn down a chance to not be alone.

In layman's terms: perhaps it's time to let go of the past?

[TBD 17,228]

On 9/23/2019 at 3:31 PM, ExplosionMare said:

 

You don’t have to make it all about sex. You can still experience emotions and love and all that at an older age (ask any adult going through a struggle I’m sure they still have lots and lots of emotions). 

If a relationship you’re in is all about sex, then it’s probably not a good relationship. It’s fine to have it, I’m not saying take it out of the picture, but let it be an occasional thing and focus on just spending time with that person and just loving them.

 

Exactly. I always rolls my eyes whenever someone opens their mouth and say “I don’t want to die a virgin let’s fuck” Get a grip. Forcing or pressuring yourself to sleep with someone is less dignified than to die as a virgin. 

[Latecomer 438]

I clicked on this thread because I'm turning 30 within the month and have never had any kind of relationship. I'm glad that the consensus in this thread is that this doesn't mean I can never have a fulfilling marriage or the like, and feel sorry for the OP who is mostly wrapped up in an ideal that probably wasn't even there when I was 20.

[Emerald Heart 24,560]

Honestly I never experienced "young love" either.

I'm 20 rn, and in college.

Imo, "young love" doesn't mean what you think it means these days. In hs, all it was was making out in the hallway.

I feel like they just dated to date, not because of feelings. 

I've never had a boyfriend or kissed someone before.

 

On 9/20/2019 at 6:09 PM, Lucky Bat said:

I wouldn't know either. My first relationship happened when I was 16 and then...well, I was 17 when I had my first kiss and...other experiences.  But I don't think there's anything wrong with experiencing love late personally. 

I've never dated anyone or kissed anyone before 

[Brony Number 42 9,926]

20 minutes ago, Bas said:

(I guess 401k simply means 400.000 $ a year?)

401k in the United States is a retirement plan. Employers put money into it and you put money in. Then you have it when you retire. I wish I make $401k a year!

[Sherem 4,807]

On 7/26/2014 at 2:07 AM, RainbowMau said:

Sadly at my age I have to resign to this:

 

- I'll never experience young love, by the opposite I forcedly have to start by going through those horrible adult relationships

- No more young-looking crushes, I'm not allowed to that anymore, my first GF will look like a mature woman

- Dating a girl (or should I call her a WOMAN?) is like dating my mother, and I bet a girl who thinks like me thinks the same about guys

- Brain fully developed, that means no emotions when in love

- No more sweated hands and no more butterflies in stomach, those years are over and I didn't experience them

- People won't see my GF as it but as a WIFE

- No more dates to cons

- No more passing papers to tell her I love her

- No more innocent love, it's all about disgusting sex

- Money, cars, carreer are more priority than feelings in adult stupity

- Maturity, that fucks up everything

 

So what are your reasons?

Let me Share some really personal thoughts on your logic, point by point


- Don't be a wussy and take it XD

- WROOOOOOOOOOOOONG! you can have young looking crushes and partners only if you have the best moves around

- ahhh...if you are seeing everybody like it was your mother, we better call for psychiatrist and PROTO!

- no more emotions? I think you are taking the wrong angle here?

- Don't be a wussy and take it XD

- Don't be a wussy and take it XD

- I would be glad that would be over with

- Disgusting? let me quote a pirate here "Sex is like Sailing, do it wrong and you'll be sick, do it right and it's the greatest feeling in the world"

- it's called good ol' life IT SUCKS!  you're gonna love it!

- Don't be a wussy and take it XD

 

again, personal opinion