But anyways, I was writing a reply to Why are people always hating on Rarity?, when I wrote a bit about a dream I had, and how Rarity symbolized the "girliness" of the show for me at the time.
Okay, I'd love for some knowledgable folks like Pencils and Kyronea to sorta "peer-review" this, because as much as I'm interested in psychology, I'm still a total ameateur who mostly guesses, but here I go:
So, I actually, or, a part of me, kinda understood haters for a little bit...
Okay, so here I go, don't be afraid you'll offend me or anything, and I'm not "opening up", this is purely an objective (as much as possible) analysis so that we can learn some really useful information, and kind of serve as a case study for the psyche of a hater, as well as me offering some really deep advise to some people who might be facing similar situations.
I've seen all kinds of thread topics suggesting that there's people in the community who need to read this. So here it is:
It started with analyzing the symbology of a dream.
Here's the background for the dream: I'd just discovered how much I like MLP, and I was very confused about it. I didn't even question the confusion, though! (This has just stood out to me) I was just wondering why I liked the show.
The dream goes like this: I met Rarity, and I really enjoyed being around her. She's loving, kind, gentle, sweet and caring, and very innocent. Mike walks up, and walks off with Rarity. Later, I found out Mike murdered Rarity in a horrible way, then killed himself, because afterwards he realized what a horrible thing he'd done, he realized what a gentle, loving, caring, innocent creature Rarity was. After that, me and the other Mane 6 planted a garden to remember Rarity by, and one of the plants grew indescribably beautiful, it gew huge very quickly, in just moments. It was a show of how powerful and strong her kindness and love carried immortal, past her death It was very sad, but much more than that, very peaceful and just beautiful.
Anyways, what this post is about is Mike and Rarity. I understood Mike. I think Mike represented the "hater" side of me. I suspect, that people define themselves as something, but also they define themselves as what they aren't. When someone defines themselves as good, they also define themselves as "not bad", so they immediately hate bad things like stealing. If someone wants to be strong(strong in character), then they define themselves as strong, and also define themselves as not weak. And so in a way, when someone sees what they think is a girly little kids' show, they define themselves as someone who isn't "into" that, because they're not a little girl.
This is why we see people make terrible, violent parodies of things like Barney, where he rampages and eats the kids. Objectively, it's horrible, but we find it hilarious, because part of us "grew up", so we define ourselves as "not little kids", and so we are the opposite, or oppose, "little kid things", and violently killing Barney's friends is definitely the epitome of opposing Barney. Better yet, Barney himself does it, which symbolizes loss of innocence and "growing up", which means the psyche gives bonus points in "funny" if the horrible thing that happens happens within the realm of the show's canon. (Like for example, Pinkie Pie is the antagonist in Cupcakes, not a self-inserted author or OC.)
I think the reason Mike hated Rarity, is that she was a threat to how others would think of him (which is the basis for your entire social life), and the fact that he liked her was a terrifying threat to the very basis who he defined himself to be.
And he was right to be scared, too. Because once Mike died, and I fully accepted the show, it really did cause a big impact on my self-image, and a huge re-examination of who I was, which led to questions about purpose of life and everything. Who you are, especially when the portion of who you are that was destroyed ("not a girly little kid") was something established a long time ago, is very foundational to our entire emotional lives. Throw this into disarray, and emotions and everything will go chaotic. A perfect example is "What is the purpose"-type questions.
That finally came to conclusion when I've just kinda decided "life is a party". Rainbow Dash is an excellent example of savoring every moment of experience, and just enjoying the thrill of being alive. I love Pinkie Pie, and her attitude of "why be unhappy when you can be happy!?", and to turn every moment of life into an enjoyable, fun one. Because life is really about being happy. And, don't forget it's always very important to take care of the future, but often I've found myself so concerned and worried about the future I've forgotten to enjoy the present. And we shouldn't forget the future, but life's always in the present, so be a Pinkie Pie and make the current moment a good one!
(As long as it's not at the expense of the future. I.e., don't slack off until the night before the final exam or do something you'll regret later.)
So, that's my hypothesis of why haters hate, mixed in with a lot of other deep things. Anyways, I doubt haters consciously realize any of it at all, but a part of them is terrified of liking the show, because the very foundation of who they are to themself rests on the fact that they're the opposite of the show, that they're "a big boy" now that is the opposite of "little girly things".
Never try to say this to them, though, when something complex like this happens, it comes out as feelings that don't make any sense to the conscious mind, which makes them angry because it's confusing. The best thing to do, I think, is either to brush/laugh it off as no big deal, or just "love and tolerate the crap outta you".
If you're very skilled, you might want to try suggesting that MLP isn't a threat to masculinity. Not exactly IRL, but on Youtube Comments I've pointed out how manliness is about being of strong character and reliable, someone a family can depend on and can push through hard times, and even carry others with him at the same time, and MLP has nothing against that.
But just recently today I saw some hate firsthand for the first time to Dr. Who. This analysis even sheds some light on that, and it really makes a lot of sense now; because the hate is irrational and powerful. This finally explains why, at least IMO.
Edited by EASA - Dr. Braun, 14 February 2012 - 06:49 PM.