Well you are nice and kind but it seems you need something that you like let's say something you want to do I don't know what it is but everyone's got something they want to do so I say go and do it.

Well you are nice and kind but it seems you need something that you like let's say something you want to do I don't know what it is but everyone's got something they want to do so I say go and do it.

I got nothin bro

You are nice and kind. When I read this I get the feeling that you are a very careful person. That you try your best to not to hurt other people. However, that can not really be avoided. People are always hurt, be it big things or small things, even when it is not your fault. Making a decision can be hard, however, if you want to do the other thing, then do it. If you are afraid that it might hurt the other person, then do what the other person wanted. If you think that would hurt the other "other" person then you should suggest something else. Something that would make everyone happy. 

By devoting your self by being so nice and helpful is good and all, but if it is getting in the way of making you happy, if it is making things difficult, then you should try to give some slack. You can not please everybody, no matter how hard you try. If you can recall the episode "Too many Pinkies" where Pinkie did not want to have to choose between her friends. You might want to watch that episode again. And all the other stuff I have said is from experience. I have had to face tough challenges. 

You remind me kid I knew back when I was in Middle School (I knew him from 7th to 10th grade). He was very different from everybody else. Had different hobbies and interests. Wanted to please everybody. He got bullied very often (ok more then often, all the time). It was very painful to watch someone who was always just trying to please everybody getting so bullied. Got me mad, so I started defending him. Anybody who wanted to mess with him had to go through me. Sadly, I feel I failed, however. Our last year in Middle-School (10th grade) was perhaps the toughest for him. Did not show up at graduation. What I am trying to say here, be careful. I would not want the same thing, happening to you as happened to him. 

I hope I am being helpful here. 

Here I had all this stuff to say but instead my mind feels as though it were rolling around in the mud.  Anyways, you need to look inward more often and consider yourself and your own happiness for once instead of trying to appeal to everyone else.  

I can't claim to be all knowing on this subject but nobody is going to be perfect, they're going to have their ups and downs and sometimes you need to leave people to sort out their own issues.  You're spreading yourself thin at the expense of trying to make others happy and that just makes you feel like this because you're ignoring your own wants.  I'm not saying that you should completely ignore the happiness of others, just try to consider yourself once in a while.  You're not going to be able to please everyone and you just need to accept that.

If you can't take the criticism of others, how will you become a stronger person?  Yeah I know, it hurts sometimes to receive negative feedback but sometimes that might be needed in order to improve as a person, getting up from the rut in the road and moving on.  Some people don't intend to insult you when they criticize you.  Though when you say criticism, I'm not quite sure what you're talking about specifically, so forgive me if I'm assuming too much.

Nothing's wrong with being alone, sometimes it gives the mind a breather and gives you time to contemplate.  There's nothing wrong with enjoying something on your own, even if someone else may not like it.  Some people hate bronies, but here you are on a brony website, nothing wrong with that.  Just because someone else is interested in something doesn't mean you have to be.  I might say, "Well I enjoy playing skyrim," does that mean you have to be interested in it too?  Absolutely not, you may not like that game in particular, don't force yourself to like it just because I do, you know?  Though again, I may be assuming too much and for that I apologize if I offend you.

You are nice and kind. When I read this I get the feeling that you are a very careful person. That you try your best to not to hurt other people. However, that can not really be avoided. People are always hurt, be it big things or small things, even when it is not your fault. Making a decision can be hard, however, if you want to do the other thing, then do it. If you are afraid that it might hurt the other person, then do what the other person wanted. If you think that would hurt the other "other" person then you should suggest something else. Something that would make everyone happy. 

 

By devoting your self by being so nice and helpful is good and all, but if it is getting in the way of making you happy, if it is making things difficult, then you should try to give some slack. You can not please everybody, no matter how hard you try. If you can recall the episode "Too many Pinkies" where Pinkie did not want to have to choose between her friends. You might want to watch that episode again. And all the other stuff I have said is from experience. I have had to face tough challenges. 

 

You remind me kid I knew back when I was in Middle School (I knew him from 7th to 10th grade). He was very different from everybody else. Had different hobbies and interests. Wanted to please everybody. He got bullied very often (ok more then often, all the time). It was very painful to watch someone who was always just trying to please everybody getting so bullied. Got me mad, so I started defending him. Anybody who wanted to mess with him had to go through me. Sadly, I feel I failed, however. Our last year in Middle-School (10th grade) was perhaps the toughest for him. Did not show up at graduation. What I am trying to say here, be careful. I would not want the same thing, happening to you as happened to him. 

 

I hope I am being helpful here. 

I end up doing things that I don't want to do because of others tell me to do it. I'm just a total pushover .

And I know that I will hurt people thats why I never voice my opinions and deny their existense because I feel im hurting people even if I think bad about them. And it is the reason I don't talk to people and my anxiety isn't helping it. 

I feel that I'm a tool. When I was in earlier grades people always came over me and copied the answers on me and their homework tooo i was just used . I even trusted criminals and gave my info on them and then they charged money from me and used me .

I seriously have no life 

Here I had all this stuff to say but instead my mind feels as though it were rolling around in the mud.  Anyways, you need to look inward more often and consider yourself and your own happiness for once instead of trying to appeal to everyone else.  

 

I can't claim to be all knowing on this subject but nobody is going to be perfect, they're going to have their ups and downs and sometimes you need to leave people to sort out their own issues.  You're spreading yourself thin at the expense of trying to make others happy and that just makes you feel like this because you're ignoring your own wants.  I'm not saying that you should completely ignore the happiness of others, just try to consider yourself once in a while.  You're not going to be able to please everyone and you just need to accept that.

 

If you can't take the criticism of others, how will you become a stronger person?  Yeah I know, it hurts sometimes to receive negative feedback but sometimes that might be needed in order to improve as a person, getting up from the rut in the road and moving on.  Some people don't intend to insult you when they criticize you.  Though when you say criticism, I'm not quite sure what you're talking about specifically, so forgive me if I'm assuming too much.

 

Nothing's wrong with being alone, sometimes it gives the mind a breather and gives you time to contemplate.  There's nothing wrong with enjoying something on your own, even if someone else may not like it.  Some people hate bronies, but here you are on a brony website, nothing wrong with that.  Just because someone else is interested in something doesn't mean you have to be.  I might say, "Well I enjoy playing skyrim," does that mean you have to be interested in it too?  Absolutely not, you may not like that game in particular, don't force yourself to like it just because I do, you know?  Though again, I may be assuming too much and for that I apologize if I offend you.

I don't really consider myself because my life sucks my health is bad and I have mental and social problems interacting with people. I only consider myself when other people praise me but only for little time. And I know I can't please everyone but it isn't that easy to just step out of it when I've lived my entire life like this.

I'm weak and I have accepted it I don't see reason why I should improve myself when I can work that time helping others which is far more important than my own well being. I know it shouldn't be like that but I can't change it by just like that

I have denied all my interests and suppressed them too because I don't want to be interested in something that other people hate. But here I've been improving a little because of this community I can share my interest on ponies. If I was alone i would quit ponies maybe like everything else i did quit.

I end up doing things that I don't want to do because of others tell me to do it. I'm just a total pushover .

 

And I know that I will hurt people thats why I never voice my opinions and deny their existense because I feel im hurting people even if I think bad about them. And it is the reason I don't talk to people and my anxiety isn't helping it. 

 

I feel that I'm a tool. When I was in earlier grades people always came over me and copied the answers on me and their homework tooo i was just used . I even trusted criminals and gave my info on them and then they charged money from me and used me .

 

I seriously have no life 

With the criminal thing. That is pretty serious. You should either let your parents know or the police. But that is your choice. 

If you do not voice your own opinion, you are just hurting your self and by not voicing your own opinion you might be hurting the person (not intentionally, remember what I said. People will get hurt over anything). Perhaps your opinion could help a person. 

By denying your opinions existence, you are basically denying your own existence. Our opinions are what define us as human beings. That is what makes us human. We are all different. 

Trying to please everyone will not really help, given what I have heard how you are treated by others. I once tried to help everyone. Got beaten pretty badly down by the world. Now I feel like I don't owe the world a thing. I only help those who deserve help and really need it. But that is just me. 

There are ways of course that you can please your self without hurting others. You can deny other people, asking you to do stuff that you don't want to do. It really does not hurt people (unless it is something very personal). 

With the criminal thing. That is pretty serious. You should either let your parents know or the police. But that is your choice. 

 

If you do not voice your own opinion, you are just hurting your self and by not voicing your own opinion you might be hurting the person (not intentionally, remember what I said. People will get hurt over anything). Perhaps your opinion could help a person. 

 

By denying your opinions existence, you are basically denying your own existence. Our opinions are what define us as human beings. That is what makes us human. We are all different. 

 

Trying to please everyone will not really help, given what I have heard how you are treated by others. I once tried to help everyone. Got beaten pretty badly down by the world. Now I feel like I don't owe the world a thing. I only help those who deserve help and really need it. But that is just me. 

 

There are ways of course that you can please your self without hurting others. You can deny other people, asking you to do stuff that you don't want to do. It really does not hurt people (unless it is something very personal). 

The criminal stuff is handled  I went to police and I didn't pay them anything but they know all info on me and could follow my every step.

And I know all that stuff I just cant do it or don't know how to do it 

I don't really consider myself because my life sucks my health is bad and I have mental and social problems interacting with people. I only consider myself when other people praise me but only for little time. And I know I can't please everyone but it isn't that easy to just step out of it when I've lived my entire life like this.

 

I'm weak and I have accepted it I don't see reason why I should improve myself when I can work that time helping others which is far more important than my own well being. I know it shouldn't be like that but I can't change it by just like that

 

I have denied all my interests and suppressed them too because I don't want to be interested in something that other people hate. But here I've been improving a little because of this community I can share my interest on ponies. If I was alone i would quit ponies maybe like everything else i did quit.

By not improving your self you are not helping people. It is by improving your self you can help people. When you improve your self, you are able to help more people and deal with more and new problems. If you don't improve your self, you won't be able to help others.

Example: A man hurts his leg. A medic comes and helps him with his leg because he knows to fix legs (my English is not perfect. Sorry to anyone who is reading this). Then a man hurts his head. The medic can not help the man because he only knows how to fix legs. He has not improved his skills. 

By denying your own interests and suppressing them you are only hurting your self and sometimes when people hurt them selves, other people get hurt as well. Your happiness is important to us here on mlpforums. We are here for you 

By not improving your self you are not helping people. It is by improving your self you can help people. When you improve your self, you are able to help more people and deal with more and new problems. If you don't improve your self, you won't be able to help others.

 

Example: A man hurts his leg. A medic comes and helps him with his leg because he knows to fix legs (my English is not perfect. Sorry to anyone who is reading this). Then a man hurts his head. The medic can not help the man because he only knows how to fix legs. He has not improved his skills. 

 

By denying your own interests and suppressing them you are only hurting your self and sometimes when people hurt them selves, other people get hurt as well. Your happiness is important to us here on mlpforums. We are here for you 

I tried to be interested in things but I got bullied because of my interests and then I just didn't want to fight back anymore.

Second reason I gave up on my interests was that I had no friends who had same interest I was alone lonely then I gave up

One main reason I help people is that I don't want them to end up like me. or feel like me. and that realates to criticsism thing because I never give criticsism I always praise people and only note the good things. and I do that because:

1. I don't want to hurt them

2.I would like people to do same thing to me

3.Positivity keeps you going forvard negativity suppresses you

I don't really consider myself because my life sucks my health is bad and I have mental and social problems interacting with people. I only consider myself when other people praise me but only for little time. And I know I can't please everyone but it isn't that easy to just step out of it when I've lived my entire life like this.

 

I'm weak and I have accepted it I don't see reason why I should improve myself when I can work that time helping others which is far more important than my own well being. I know it shouldn't be like that but I can't change it by just like that

 

I have denied all my interests and suppressed them too because I don't want to be interested in something that other people hate. But here I've been improving a little because of this community I can share my interest on ponies. If I was alone i would quit ponies maybe like everything else i did quit.

By not improving yourself, you remain stagnant and that isn't healthy.  Everyone has problems yet they seem to be able to manage, I'm sure you're capable of doing so too.  You're not a weak person, you only set yourself back with that talk.  Your own well being is important too, how can you care for others if you let yourself remain weak?  I highly doubt you're as weak as you say you are.  These things take time and practice, be patient with yourself.  Go by the beat of your own drum, don't let people dictate what beat you play.  

By not improving yourself, you remain stagnant and that isn't healthy.  Everyone has problems yet they seem to be able to manage, I'm sure you're capable of doing so too.  You're not a weak person, you only set yourself back with that talk.  Your own well being is important too, how can you care for others if you let yourself remain weak?  I highly doubt you're as weak as you say you are.  These things take time and practice, be patient with yourself.  Go by the beat of your own drum, don't let people dictate what beat you play.  

Because I'm weirdo and my own problems are too big for me to handle on my own that is why I've given up on them and I use my resources helping others so they wouldn't have to suffer like me.

I have this anxiety eating problems back issues. and depression. I can't handle them on my own I need support that I don't get from people around me and I gave up on them 

I think I know what you mean, I'm similar in a lot of ways. Living to make other people happy isn't always a bad thing, though not to the extent of sacrificing yourself. What I do is just focus on being there for my closest friends.

I think I know what you mean, I'm similar in a lot of ways. Living to make other people happy isn't always a bad thing, though not to the extent of sacrificing yourself. What I do is just focus on being there for my closest friends.

Closest friends are something I don't have I want everyone to be equal in my books or atleast try and not raising anyone higher than other because everyone deserves help if they need it.

Because I'm weirdo and my own problems are too big for me to handle on my own that is why I've given up on them and I use my resources helping others so they wouldn't have to suffer like me.

 

I have this anxiety eating problems back issues. and depression. I can't handle them on my own I need support that I don't get from people around me and I gave up on them 

This is kinda harsh (not towards you but to some of the people you are trying to help) but you should not help those who don't need help. If people are dictating what you do, you are not really helping them by giving in. You are doing the exact opposite. If they are forcing you to do something you don't want to do then they themselves are not going to improve their own personality if you go through with it and they will keep on hurting other people. 

Help only those who really need it (or who deserve it). That is far easier and much more fair. You wouldn't give billionaire 5 dollars if you could give it to someone who is poor. It is far easier to live like that because you're not doing anything wrong. In fact you are doing the right thing. 

You have not given in. If you had, you would not be commenting here. The fact that you are posting how you feel is proof enough that you have not given up and that you still have hope. 

Closest friends are something I don't have I want everyone to be equal in my books or atleast try and not raising anyone higher than other because everyone deserves help if they need it.

You have said it your self. Everyone deserves help if they need it. I doubt everybody need it. So you should give yourself some slack 

This is kinda harsh (not towards you but to some of the people you are trying to help) but you should not help those who don't need help. If people are dictating what you do, you are not really helping them by giving in. You are doing the exact opposite. If they are forcing you to do something you don't want to do then they themselves are not going to improve their own personality if you go through with it and they will keep on hurting other people. 

 

Help only those who really need it (or who deserve it). That is far easier and much more fair. You wouldn't give billionaire 5 dollars if you could give it to someone who is poor. It is far easier to live like that because you're not doing anything wrong. In fact you are doing the right thing. 

 

You have not given in. If you had, you would not be commenting here. The fact that you are posting how you feel is proof enough that you have not given up and that you still have hope. 

You are correct I don't help people who try to insult other ponies and make them feel bad. but if they regret their actions I will give them always a chance. I don't know why I do it .

And I don't think its correct that you choose between people who to help. I can't put people in any order and I want help everyone that I can help.

Because I'm weirdo and my own problems are too big for me to handle on my own that is why I've given up on them and I use my resources helping others so they wouldn't have to suffer like me.

 

I have this anxiety eating problems back issues. and depression. I can't handle them on my own I need support that I don't get from people around me and I gave up on them 

Everyone's a little weird, there's nothing wrong with that.  Don't give up on yourself, never give up on yourself.  Reach out for help, a school counselor or a parent.  You need to speak to people about your problems, else you're just going to get stuck in a hole you've dug for yourself.  These are issues that shouldn't be left on their own.  

Trust me, people do care for you on here. I wished I had that kind of attention but whenever I post anything how I feel, I usually just get insulted. Every status update I see you post, I see many responses. When I do that, even if it's supposed to be funny, I get nothing. People do seem to be attracted to you. I've made plenty of enemies on here because I retaliate and I'm defensive, but I have my reasons. Being hated on is something I have experience with, total strangers have bad things to say to me all the time. There's a difference between being too kind and being too honest. I would rather have the truth than a sugar-coated lie. If someone doesn't like me, I would rather them tell me then just pretend to be a friend. That is why I push people away, it's happened so many times, so many lying friends I've dealt with. If you aren't compatible with someone, there's no reason to keep a friendship maintained. Some aren't just meant to be and you can't help everyone since you have to put yourself first over others in order to help them. I've been in therapy (as a patient) for years, because of the cruel experience I've had. I wasn't made this way, it's because of isolated-lonely-oscillation-seclusion. Not that a soul cares about what I say and I'll probably be bashed for posting this.

Everyone's a little weird, there's nothing wrong with that.  Don't give up on yourself, never give up on yourself.  Reach out for help, a school counselor or a parent.  You need to speak to people about your problems, else you're just going to get stuck in a hole you've dug for yourself.  These are issues that shouldn't be left on their own.  

I know but I'm scared to talk to them I tend to lie when I'm in tense situations like meeting with doctor or something like that. I tell the that ok I do everything you said and then I really do nothing

I know how you feel. I can oftentimes feel like this, trying to please everybody. what you have to understand, is that people won't hate you for voicing your opinion. they hate you for the way you present your opinion, and from the way i've heard you talk about it, the way you would show your opinion is in the nicest, kindest way possible, which is the right way to voice your own thoughts.

the second thing that you have to understand, is that someone will hate you no matter what you do, and that's ok. it's the same way about how you can't like everybody or everything. just as long as you make it clear that your opinions are opinions, than you should be perfectly fine .

You are correct I don't help people who try to insult other ponies and make them feel bad. but if they regret their actions I will give them always a chance. I don't know why I do it .

 

And I don't think its correct that you choose between people who to help. I can't put people in any order and I want help everyone that I can help.

Choosing between someone who needs help and someone who does not is pretty important. If you choose the one who needs the help then you are helping. If you choose the other, you are not really helping since the other one does not need it. He can handle himself. 

Trust me, people do care for you on here. I wished I had that kind of attention but whenever I post anything how I feel, I usually just get insulted. Every status update I see you post, I see many responses. When I do that, even if it's supposed to be funny, I get nothing. People do seem to be attracted to you. I've made plenty of enemies on here because I retaliate and I'm defensive, but I have my reasons. Being hated on is something I have experience with, total strangers have bad things to say to me all the time. There's a difference between being too kind and being too honest. I would rather have the truth than a sugar-coated lie. If someone doesn't like me, I would rather them tell me then just pretend to be a friend. That is why I push people away, it's happened so many times, so many lying friends I've dealt with. If you aren't compatible with someone, there's no reason to keep a friendship maintained. Some aren't just meant to be and you can't help everyone since you have to put yourself first over others in order to help them. I've been in therapy (as a patient) for years, because of the cruel experience I've had. I wasn't made this way, it's because of isolated-lonely-oscillation-seclusion. Not that a soul cares about what I say and I'll probably be bashed for posting this.

Trust me, this post you just posted just can't be bashed. If anyone does, they will have to deal with me (and if anyone does, then I will assume that it is someone who is hunting you and is not giving this blog the attention it deserves (forgive my lame English, not my native language)). 

I don't really consider myself because my life sucks my health is bad and I have mental and social problems interacting with people. I only consider myself when other people praise me but only for little time. And I know I can't please everyone but it isn't that easy to just step out of it when I've lived my entire life like this.

 

I'm weak and I have accepted it I don't see reason why I should improve myself when I can work that time helping others which is far more important than my own well being. I know it shouldn't be like that but I can't change it by just like that

 

I have denied all my interests and suppressed them too because I don't want to be interested in something that other people hate. But here I've been improving a little because of this community I can share my interest on ponies. If I was alone i would quit ponies maybe like everything else i did quit.

Your should'nt be so hard on yourself

You may be kind, but being kind and making others happy isnt good when you arent happy yourself

you should atleast try to be happy youself

but putting on a mask isnt going to help you

you should go and seek attention.

I know but I'm scared to talk to them I tend to lie when I'm in tense situations like meeting with doctor or something like that. I tell the that ok I do everything you said and then I really do nothing

You can't get the help you need by lying about your own status, you need to tell them the truth.  I know it's hard to do, Creator knows I've done it many times myself.  Take that first step and be brave.  It's hard to keep up with the advice your doctor might give you but it's for your own good.  By ignoring your problems or otherwise tossing them aside, you harm yourself in doing so.

Trust me, people do care for you on here. I wished I had that kind of attention but whenever I post anything how I feel, I usually just get insulted. Every status update I see you post, I see many responses. When I do that, even if it's supposed to be funny, I get nothing. People do seem to be attracted to you. I've made plenty of enemies on here because I retaliate and I'm defensive, but I have my reasons. Being hated on is something I have experience with, total strangers have bad things to say to me all the time. There's a difference between being too kind and being too honest. I would rather have the truth than a sugar-coated lie. If someone doesn't like me, I would rather them tell me then just pretend to be a friend. That is why I push people away, it's happened so many times, so many lying friends I've dealt with. If you aren't compatible with someone, there's no reason to keep a friendship maintained. Some aren't just meant to be and you can't help everyone since you have to put yourself first over others in order to help them. I've been in therapy (as a patient) for years, because of the cruel experience I've had. I wasn't made this way, it's because of isolated-lonely-oscillation-seclusion. Not that a soul cares about what I say and I'll probably be bashed for posting this.

*hugs*