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A very sad day for me :(


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I sincerely hope you take the time to read through all this. I just felt the need to talk about it, to have some one listen, and hopefully. to make a true friend.

 

Well I will try to keep this respectably vague for the person, but at the same time. I cannot help but want to talk about it. Some one who was very near and dear to me. Some one whom I cherished as a friend so much so, I wished them well before logging off steam and heading out for the night. I would even go as far as to tell them "Goodnight and sweet dreams ______" We were friends for over 2 years.

 


What had happened


After about 4 to 5 days, They finally logged onto Wildstar to add me as friends. Hung around for at least an hour, mostly just being away from keyboard, I did my own thing while they did their own thing (it was one person). Then suddenly in Zone chat, I saw what i felt was bad advice, about selling ore straight to vendors since it would amount to more money than what players were paying for in the commodity exchange, especially when adding the broker exchange. I did not pay attention to who said it, but I had simply said that it was not true, and that the advice should be taken with a grain of salt. I then continued to state how platinum ore was going for 20 silver each about 4 or 5 days ago though was now down to 12 silver each, I did some math and discovered it would have otherwise been 2 silver each from the vendor. This was only but a T3 resource (out of 5). The first two which can be mined/gathered from almost anyone who just started the game, so it makes sense those would be going for dirt cheap. But this blog post isn't about explaining circumstances.

 


I will admit that how it was likely phrased a bit more rude than how I recited it in this blog post. I honestly cannot recall how it was structured when I said it in game, though I am certain it was not that bad, but the reaction was excessively bad. I was removed from friends. both from Wildstar and even steam (I checked after exiting the game half an hour later.) I am deeply saddened by this. As I imagine anyone would be if it happened with some one they held quite dear.

 

I spoke with a mutual friend (with no response) and told that person to pass along a message for me which was simply "I cared for _____ deeply as a friend, we were friends for years. I am sorry i upset you, I wished you well every night and even said goodnight. But I guess you did not think of me as highly." A message I sincerely hope was passed on. For those who may wonder, wishing a person well, to me, was telling them to have a great day, or a good night, in some cases even to have a wonderful day or a fabulous day, and of course meaning it rather than being empty words.

 


Epilogue


All in all, I will not try to re-add my friend ... to respect their decision, but at the same time, I wonder if I mattered to them at all for such friendship to have been so nonchalantly tossed aside.I find myself saddened especially by the fact it ended because of such a minor scuffle. Though I doubt the thought has crossed their mind, or maybe in some faint way it had, I simply find myself thinking ... why would you do this to me?

 


In some way, I hope they forgive my mistake, and will add me again, hopefully soon before I am forgotten. I never wanted to upset or offend anyone, but that is what happened. Like some sort of cruel irony that what you least wanted to happen, had happened.

 

I do not know what I want from this blog post, though perhaps the closest thing I can find to an answer, is a friend who I can always talk with, maybe about life stuff once in a while, play some games together occasionally, I am even fine with rarely since I understand life doesn't always allow the time to play non-casual games. As I think about it, maybe I would even like re-assurances that its not my fault, that I did not do something wrong. I guess regret is funny that way, thinking "If only I paid more attention" or maybe something more along the lines of, if only I knew .... though I do not blame the other person, I cherished them too much for that. I do not know what to think, not after all this sadness.

 

I now head to bed, feeling weak and hungry, and saddened over the loss of a person whom I considered a good friend ... I may remedy hunger before going to bed ...

 

Goodnight everypony, and I sincerely thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to read this tale of woe.

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Damn, that really sucks. And all you were doing was trying to do the right thing. I hope everything turns out okay.

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While I can't exactly wrap my mind about why that certain discussion about ores would upset someone, the more I re-read it it's more so about how so the discussion spiraled into tone and wording.

 

I'm extremely careful about my words, not just it's subject but of each individual one. One wrong word and it could turn into a bad outcome.

 

Sometime ago, more so months ago I too lost a relation with a dear friend. Having been together for 4 years (friendship, mind you) I felt I could go to him for anything. I was having a troublesome day and I asked if we could talk.

 

He responded, saying he was jaded with everything. He's tone felt brash. And disconnecting. Telling me to go elsewhere. I felt immensely crushed.

 

It's difficult rereading to express how it went down. I feel explaining it seems awkward and too simplistic .

"Just talk to him." I tell myself but, it's all how he responded. Like he just didn't care.

 

Anyway, I do hope your friendship is restored. You have my deep sympathy.

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Friends come and go and sometimes a long friendship breaks because of something small. A true friend may not like your words or decisions in a topic, but wont just delete you. I had friends online I know for so long and even in days, they or me where mad at the other, we still cleared that out or just avoided the topic. I hope they will add you back but don't make much hope. There are plenty millions of people online and in Real Life. You may lost a long friend, but mayby you find for that another longer friendship.

 

I even had a online friend, with that we played for months online and chatting around, he even started watching MLP. And hen from 0 to 180, he deleted me everywhere, German playstation forum, facebook, PSN and that was nearly 2 years ago now ... I still don't even know why he deleted me and ignoring me now.

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Well personally i'd have gave him a virtual slap and told him not to be such a damn snowflake over a comment in a game of all things ffs....

 

You did have a valid point, i've played alot of MMO games and disinformation when it comes to what resources are worth is pretty common, whether they say things things to troll newbies or hope they can get resources for cheap, who knows but you should always take advice from other players.

 

I was once playing gtav and I told one of my friends who was flying a jet that the landing gear button was the one that makes your toon jump out of the plane and he did it without thinking about it.... he never trusted me about planes again XD

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Friends come and go and sometimes a long friendship breaks because of something small. A true friend may not like your words or decisions in a topic, but wont just delete you. I had friends online I know for so long and even in days, they or me where mad at the other, we still cleared that out or just avoided the topic. I hope they will add you back but don't make much hope. There are plenty millions of people online and in Real Life. You may lost a long friend, but mayby you find for that another longer friendship.

 

I even had a online friend, with that we played for months online and chatting around, he even started watching MLP. And hen from 0 to 180, he deleted me everywhere, German playstation forum, facebook, PSN and that was nearly 2 years ago now ... I still don't even know why he deleted me and ignoring me now.

Yea I have one friend whom I have argued with multiple times, sometimes quite heavily, but never have we ever deleted each other. We have temporarily blocked each other for a few days when things get too heated, we simmer down and we always go back to being friends. We have been friends now about 4 years.

 Sometime ago, more so months ago I too lost a relation with a dear friend. Having been together for 4 years (friendship, mind you) I felt I could go to him for anything. I was having a troublesome day and I asked if we could talk. He responded, saying he was jaded with everything. He's tone felt brash. And disconnecting. Telling me to go elsewhere. I felt immensely crushed. It's difficult rereading to express how it went down. I feel explaining it seems awkward and too simplistic . "Just talk to him." I tell myself but, it's all how he responded. Like he just didn't care. Anyway, I do hope your friendship is restored. You have my deep sympathy.

I went through something similar about 3 years ago. It was with a friend we played together, had laughs together in DC Universe Online (and other games) We even had complimentary steam alias's, He even offered to give me one of his two video cards when the one in my old PC gave out while I was at college (computer was neigh unusable because of that, flickering brown boxes all over the screen. Then suddenly one day he just  disappeared, after a few weeks (months?) I noticed that I always seemed to just miss him. Like the last offline said "4 hours ago" or 10 minutes ago, 3 days ago, etc. Then one day ... I decided to click on his profile to see if he has just been super busy with life or something, maybe he left a message, maybe I could check to see how many hours he clocked in to see if we just somehow got on opposite schedules. Then on his profile I see he is online, and in-game .... I check my friend's list sand see "offline" .... Confounded, I try talking to one of his other friends (after attempting to add one.) I asked what was going on ...

 

I cant remember who exactly said what, but next thing I know I am called a stalker, and I am then removed from the friend list instead of being blocked (which leaves a person on the friends list) ... I just sat there thinking ... why in the world was I called a stalker? You consider some one a good friend and they suddenly disappear, of course over time you would notice something is wrong, of course I would be aware they would be "offline" an unusual time (especially when i have them at the top of the list in a "best friends" tag .... Even to this day I am left with a mystery, but thankfully not too much on betrayed or the such ... Since I literally went approximately a year without contact, wondering how I kept missing the person (briefly; and only occasionally, with questions getting stronger as time progressed) ...

 

New Chapter

After a bad night's rest, (going to sleep after being awake about 20 hours). I woke up at 3:00 AM, I did not get my 8 hours of sleep ... Not wanting to wake up I went back to bed, woke up at 700 AM .... I hop on steam ... hoping my message was passed along, and that in some slim sliver of hope, my friend would add me again, and we would reconcile. To my happiness, there it was, a friend request my eyes had so hoped to see. Though I felt joy, there was also sadness. Because .... how can i truly be happy, with a friend who was so quick and willing to cast me aside? That act of spurn, is not something to be forgotten so easily, no matter how much I wish it never happened.

 

Though I doubt the words can do it justice *heartfelt hug* to all my fellow ponies here at the forums, for taking the time to read my story, for sharing some of their stories, and for taking the time of being there for me, even if only briefly, and for my dear friend, who had returned to me. I know posts about sad life things or the such aren't exactly popular or the most pleasing thing to read ... but when you truly think about it, if no one heeds the call for help in times of need, where does that leave those in need? It may not be things people may want to see sometimes, but at such times, we just need the support of others.

 

... Though on that one note, my friend who returned to me  ... I find I have an irrational fear that I was re-added not to reconcile with me ... but to do something out of anger or spite, nothing too serious, but more like an argument I do not want to have ... I can only hope for the best, and pray the fears are groundless.

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Yea I have one friend whom I have argued with multiple times, sometimes quite heavily, but never have we ever deleted each other. We have temporarily blocked each other for a few days when things get too heated, we simmer down and we always go back to being friends. We have been friends now about 4 years.

I went through something similar about 3 years ago. It was with a friend we played together, had laughs together in DC Universe Online (and other games) We even had complimentary steam alias's, He even offered to give me one of his two video cards when the one in my old PC gave out while I was at college (computer was neigh unusable because of that, flickering brown boxes all over the screen. Then suddenly one day he just  disappeared, after a few weeks (months?) I noticed that I always seemed to just miss him. Like the last offline said "4 hours ago" or 10 minutes ago, 3 days ago, etc. Then one day ... I decided to click on his profile to see if he has just been super busy with life or something, maybe he left a message, maybe I could check to see how many hours he clocked in to see if we just somehow got on opposite schedules. Then on his profile I see he is online, and in-game .... I check my friend's list sand see "offline" .... Confounded, I try talking to one of his other friends (after attempting to add one.) I asked what was going on ...

 

I cant remember who exactly said what, but next thing I know I am called a stalker, and I am then removed from the friend list instead of being blocked (which leaves a person on the friends list) ... I just sat there thinking ... why in the world was I called a stalker? You consider some one a good friend and they suddenly disappear, of course over time you would notice something is wrong, of course I would be aware they would be "offline" an unusual time (especially when i have them at the top of the list in a "best friends" tag .... Even to this day I am left with a mystery, but thankfully not too much on betrayed or the such ... Since I literally went approximately a year without contact, wondering how I kept missing the person (briefly; and only occasionally, with questions getting stronger as time progressed) ...

 

New Chapter

After a bad night's rest, (going to sleep after being awake about 20 hours). I woke up at 3:00 AM, I did not get my 8 hours of sleep ... Not wanting to wake up I went back to bed, woke up at 700 AM .... I hop on steam ... hoping my message was passed along, and that in some slim sliver of hope, my friend would add me again, and we would reconcile. To my happiness, there it was, a friend request my eyes had so hoped to see. Though I felt joy, there was also sadness. Because .... how can i truly be happy, with a friend who was so quick and willing to cast me aside? That act of spurn, is not something to be forgotten so easily, no matter how much I wish it never happened.

 

Though I doubt the words can do it justice *heartfelt hug* to all my fellow ponies here at the forums, for taking the time to read my story, for sharing some of their stories, and for taking the time of being there for me, even if only briefly, and for my dear friend, who had returned to me. I know posts about sad life things or the such aren't exactly popular or the most pleasing thing to read ... but when you truly think about it, if no one heeds the call for help in times of need, where does that leave those in need? It may not be things people may want to see sometimes, but at such times, we just need the support of others.

 

... Though on that one note, my friend who returned to me  ... I find I have an irrational fear that I was re-added not to reconcile with me ... but to do something out of anger or spite, nothing too serious, but more like an argument I do not want to have ... I can only hope for the best, and pray the fears are groundless.

Glad he wants toadd you back and I hope it doesnt end bad for you^^

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Oh dear. I'm sorry that has ever happened to you...Sometimes days can be cruel for all of us but we must remember to stay strong and press on.

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Always look forward to the next day. That's what I do when i'm having a bad day. The worse the day, the better your next days will turn out. *Internet hug*pinketwihug.gif

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