Vertigo_95's Blog

Unfortunately, it's a popularity thing for all big successful websites. It's one of those inevitable things you have to expect when joining a larger community for any fandom. If you aren't super interesting or talented, it's hard to gain a social status that makes you "popular" The best way to cope with that is to simply not let that get to you too much......and be thankful and satisfied with the friends who do care for you rather than being down about those who barely recognizes you. 

 

I'm sorry you had to go through a lot of stress around the time you left, it happens to the best of us. But Happy New Years and here's hoping you have better experiences with your return. Keep ya head up 

Thanks man. What is nice is that nothing changed in the time that I left. It still has the same feel, and Happy New Year to you too.

Yeah, I feel the same way sometimes. I've been here since the ye olde age of 2012, and I was pretty popular... 2013ish. Now i'm just kinda here. Sometimes it gets to me, but what Silver Stream said is some of the best advice I can give you; just try not to let it bother you too much. Popularity isn't everything, hey, we're all human here. But I can totally sympathize about it bothering you sometimes. Even if you aren't popular, you can still make friends who will care about you and listen to you. Friendship is the best medicine! ...I think that's how the saying went.

 

Also, happy new year. To everything 2016 is going to give us (which is hopefully something good)!

I have to concur with what Shift said. I also used to be a pretty popular member, back when the forum only had one-third as many members as it does now. Unfortunately, time passes, friends leave, and you find yourself as a faded smudge in the background while new people take the front stage. I know how it feels to not even bother participating in the community when your contribution just goes unnoticed. So my advice is to contribute anyway—someday, it will pay off.

Coming from a member who's been on this site for almost 4 years, there has been a popularity thing that has been growing since I'd say late 2013. I've been mixed on it. On one hand, some members deserve the recognition on the other, some members really don't and didn't do much to get it. I've grown some popularity but even I don't forget the little people. The best thing I can think of is to not let it bother people.

i know the feeling my friend  i really was too active on this site and these days I feel lot better its like a burden off from my chest  when I stopped being here everyday and everything kinda  worked out for this site 

Advice from a guy who is kinda popularish on this site (which i don't say to rub it under your nose) i will say that the popularity can go away very quickly. Not just on this forum, but in everything that you do in Life. Popularity can blind people very quickly.

 

You shouldn't see this forum as a burden, but more a place where you meet people that like the same things you do, or where you can socialize with them. This isn't a popularity contest here.

 

I don't really like people who look up at me for something bigger. At the end, i am just a guy who visits this place.

As Silver Stream first said, if you aren't super interesting or talented, it's hard to gain a significant social status on any type of large community, this is obviously because the larger the community, the more people there are in it, and the more people there are in it, the less everyone stands out, raising the bar to be noticed or considered important. As such, popularity is a never-ending game where everyone (at least, everyone who cares about popularity) clamours to be at the top, to be king of the hill. But once you reach that top of the hill, you have to defend it. (This is getting really deep, lol). Because everyone else is still trying to be more important or in some way or another, significant.

 

This is why you shouldn't care about popularity. It's just a never-ending, unimportant and uncompletable hassle. It's a contest with no end. Sure, you may have some time being the popular person everyone admires and wishes they could be, but that time can disappear so easily and quickly, I've had some first-hand experience with that and it's a horrible feeling. 

 

So don't worry about it, instead, just stick with the good friends you have and enjoy this site.

Just be yourself. Popularity is unimportant. If you're comfortable with yourself, what others think or don't think about you is of no importance. If you become popular, neat. If not, there's no loss. Be yourself and focus on what matters; and that's building lasting, genuine friendships with people here; not a herd of pseudo-friend acquaintances.

I've been on here for a while, and the pursuit of popularity did once lead me to do something that landed me in enormous trouble on this website and other fandom sites as well. I was banned for about the same amount of time that you left, but thankfully with the help of a couple of my friends from here, the time I was banned helped me to slow down and regroup everything that was going on in my life.

 

The pursuit of popularity is addicting and enticing, especially with the nature of this site. However, the best thing is to do your best at being true to yourself and to not try to be something you're not for the purpose of keeping up with others.

Thank you all. I kinda realized that too little too late, but I think the break did me some justice.