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Ziggy + Angel + Rain

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There's nothing that I enjoy more than being psychoanalyzed by hobbyist psychiatrists. I mean, what's not to like? People that don't know you personally and haven't the slightest idea as to what your life is actually like apparently have a far clearer vision as to what it should be like than you ever will. Their wisdom might indeed be infinite... If only it extended to themselves.

 

Different people need different things. Different people function differently. There's this disturbing trend among the amateur psychoanalytical crowd to think that everyone needs precisely the same thing, and that anything venturing outside the accepted "norm" is apparently doing it wrong. This is generally masquerading as good intentions and an overall concern for these poor, pitiful, differently-acting individuals that doubtless wallow constantly in their own, inescapable sorrow.

 

But I know it as arrogance.

 

If you knew me - and you both do not and never will - you would perhaps realize how tremendously erroneous and blatantly lacking in insight your own assumptions (and they are indeed assumptions) are. My life, emotional state, and overall mental health have improved vastly over just the last approaching-two years; this was following a roughly 16-year, seemingly futile uphill struggle against a once severely life-limiting condition.

 

Once severely life-limiting.

 

So, with the help of a love some would deem fictional or wrong or mentally questionable, I have managed to accomplish something in a relatively short period of time entirely without the assistance of psychiatry (amateur or otherwise), and my quality of life has changed dramatically for the better.

 

But obviously I must be personally deluded. Obviously I exaggerate. Surely I was better off when I was afraid of my own bodily functions. Surely my quality of life was comparatively greater when I was nigh endlessly repeating rituals, washing my hands until they cracked and bled, and unsuccessfully battling invasive thoughts. Surely I've misinterpreted these feelings of love and contentment. My improved functionality - as observed by those closest to me - is almost definitely an elaborate shared-dream we're all having. Perhaps I'm asleep right now.

 

How could I really be happy? I've not done things the way others expected me to, and mental health and happiness are exclusively attainable through the applications of by-the-book psychoanalysis and mind-altering drugs.

 

Or, shit... Idunno... Maybe I fell in love. Maybe I found something that matters to me, personally, and I know the damned thing when I see it. Because I am me. And, believe it or not (which you probably won't), your entirely selfish and oftentimes misguided idea of "help" is what hurts people like me. You're the problem, and - were I the psychoanalyzing type - I'd encourage you to get some help for that. Not because you don't believe me. Not because you disagree with me. Not because you're different than I am.

 

But because you fail to recognize the FACT that I am different than you. And I don't need your uninformed, dime-a-dozen analyses. I already have what I need.

 

And you'll never know me.

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Psychology is actually rooted in science. Understanding of human behavior is something that has been studied for years and years and many great strides have been had in understanding the human condition. It's not mere uninformed analysis much of the time and it has been used to help people for nearly a century now.

 

That being said, those who fear analysis are usually the ones who are self aware of the nature of a condition they harbor which is not healthy and do not have the willpower to address the steps necessary for change. There are always exceptions to the rule, but people do tend to exhibit common behaviors when the right conditions are proposed to them. An example would be how people become nervous when they fear they will be caught lying, or how people become defensive when they don't want people to find something out.

 

Even making a blog more or less trying to refute psychology is kind of a defense tactic to avoid accepting any truths it may present to you. Many religious followers have often refuted obvious science for fear that it would mean they would have to admit their faith is incorrect or misguided. It's simply how human beings are. It's ironically very coded into psychology that people will become defensive to avoid admitting they are incorrect. Humans naturally do not like to accept harsh truths. It's the same principle of why Superman doesn't make a comic where he goes after regular every day people who break the law and instead goes after the big baddies because people don't want to admit that they, the commoners are just as guilty. It would be the worst selling issue of all time because it addresses a harsh truth that people don't want to admit.

 

That all being said, no human being can know another human being to a 100% degree, but generally you don't need to in order to identify behavior that would be harmful to them or others.

 

Psychology though has proven to be relatively accurate at times though, so to refute it entirely is sort of ignorant. The FBI use psychology to track criminal patterns and often times catch murderers because they follow patterns. We have observed that human beings generally follow very human behavior patterns. None of us are exempt from following human behavior patterns. We all do it whether we like to admit it or not. If we did not, we would not be human at all.

 

That being said, I am glad you feel good and I am glad you have overcome a lot. I do not know the nature of the specific issue you're addressing, I can only speculate, however I hope it all goes well for you. I only suggest that you not omit the possibility of seeking professional help as it may or may not help you in the future. Like I said, I don't know the nature of the situation.

 

Good luck though!

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Even making a blog more or less trying to refute psychology is kind of a defense tactic to avoid accepting any truths it may present to you.

I didn't make a blog post attempting to refute psychology; I made a blog post refuting amateur psychology.  Anger is a good literary motivator, so thanks for that.  (Though I can't give you all the credit: There have been people working in my kitchen for, like, a thousand hours now, and that isn't necessarily helping.)  That being said: Psychology doesn't always get things right.  Nor does medicine.  Humans are inherently fallible, and anything they wield (no matter how expertly or inexpertly) is ultimately just as fallible.

 

We aren't all in need of "fixing"; through means professional or otherwise.  We may look broken to the people who don't know our hearts, but that doesn't mean that our hearts aren't happy.  I'd like to think of my heart as un-broken.

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I feel you dude, went through similar struggles but just a different kind of adversity. My relationship helps me greatly as well. I support you and Babe as long as you support me and my Honey Wings(yes that's her "special name" we have together) and It's ridiculous that people are always critics and can't accept things for what they are. And maybe someday I will draft my own blog to explain my relationship with Honey Wings, it can get complex but I think it would help with this sort of thing.

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I feel you dude, went through similar struggles but just a different kind of adversity. My relationship helps me greatly as well. I support you and Babe as long as you support me and my Honey Wings(yes that's her "special name" we have together) and It's ridiculous that people are always critics and can't accept things for what they are. And maybe someday I will draft my own blog to explain my relationship with Honey Wings, it can get complex but I think it would help with this sort of thing.

I really appreciate your comment.  And I'd be glad - and proud - to support what the two of you have together.  Let me know when you start that blog; I'd like to read it.

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I really appreciate your comment.  And I'd be glad - and proud - to support what the two of you have together.  Let me know when you start that blog; I'd like to read it.

I just posted it a while ago mainly for critiques on how I wrote it, I hope it can be edited...

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I just posted it a while ago mainly for critiques on how I wrote it, I hope it can be edited...

I read and enjoyed your blog entry.  And I don't think there's any wrong way to describe the love you and your partner apparently feel for one another.

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