I told myself I could handle it all... Be her savior. Fix her scars. It broke me, and I lost myself trying to save someone else. I should've listened when they told me to save myself.

Today, I thought I'd make a blog to vent some past frustrations and maybe help out a few fellow forum members who may be stuck in a situation that I was in months ago. The topic for this blog is self-care, knowing when you need to value your own health over someone who may be important to you. Losing your happiness and mental stability over someone else is not worth it. Months ago, I had to come to terms with that, as selfish as I felt for valuing my own sanity over a doomed relationship that forever changed my personality and outlook on life and love. But this isn't just a situation attached to romantic relationships, it is also found in friendships.

A distant friend of mine had been close friends with someone who relied on her to be a savior of sorts. She tried her best to help the person, but ignored the repercussions and consequences of throwing yourself under the bus to help someone else. Recently, after years of being that person's best friend, she had to cut things off because of the toxic friendship that dragged her down and ruined her emotional state. Remember, friendships should bring both people up, and not tear one down. If you ever feel as if having a friend or partner around brings you down, it may be time to reconsider having them in your life. Sure, every type of relationship has ups and downs, but it's not healthy to have one where it's consistently always in the downs.

You matter just as much as the other person in your friendship/relationship. Look out for yourself. It's not selfish to cut off a relationship and/or friendship if all it brings you is sadness. Don't put other people's emotional needs before your mental or physical health, it's not worth it and it's not good for you. If you're in a situation where you feel like a friend or partner is only bringing you down and it's damaging your health, please try to get out of that situation. You're a good person, and you deserve to be happy and you deserve to be treated right by your friends and your partner.

Be strong, and know your worth.

(I almost scrapped this blog post 3 times, I spent a lot of time trying to word this right, and it's probably as close as I can get it.)