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My relationship with my family pt. 2


Lightning Fluttershy

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It's been like a month since my last blog. :P

 

pt. 1

 

Anyway, some bad news. If you read my old blog about it, you know how I feel about my family and how they act. Not necessarily how I like. For a long time I just assumed there was nothing I could do about it and slowly drifted away from them, slowly forming a resentment for them.

 

Just recently however my mom and I discovered my dad has been drinking and driving for years, without us even knowing. AS angry as this made me, I was too worried about it to be angry. He could potentially kill himself. That's something I really don't want to happen whether I like my dad or not.

 

For a week or so I just kind of left it however, afraid to say anything from past experiences. Today though he got home and the side mirror for our truck as smashed clean off from my dad driving into a light post in a parking lot. That was kind of the last straw.

 

When he got sober, I told him how I honestly felt. How much I hate his drinking and how much I really do worry about him, even if our relationship is shaky. He didn't say much afterwords. Just kind of looked at me. After a minute or two he nodded and said I was right, and that he'll lay off the hard liquor for good.

 

I don't know if he'll keep his word or not. He's said things like this before in the past and didn't remain true to his promise. This is, however, the farthest I've gotten talking to him about it so I'm happy. I can tolerate his drinking. When he gets drunk I usually just sit in my room and lock the door but his drinking and driving legitimately worried me.

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Don't worry, LF, i know this feeling, my dad also drink and drive, but i don't like it, all i can do is to get worried and pray for him to get home safe (since i don't live with him) and i learned something: you can't change someone's nature, you just have to love and tolerate him the way he is, or deal with it do something that shows how his life is at risk while doing it.

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As someone that actually crashed their car due to drunk driving i know how you feel. I got lucky in that I had a friend with me and we didn't kill anybody and neither of us were hurt. The cops showed up of course and my friend tried to concoct a story for the cops saying that i swerved to avoid a dog on the road. The cops didn't buy the story and when it was my turn i told them exactly what happened and how much i had to drink over what period of time. The cops left me off easy with only a 24hr license suspension.

   I couldn't deal with the loss of my car (write off) so a binge drank for three days straight. I felt so ill by the third day my legs were on fire and I had awake hearing hillucinations for two days. It litterally took a whole week for my body and head to start feeling normal again.

   I quit drinking for two whole years before my head finally cleared enough that i think right again and learn to drink responsibly. Even today I almost never drink and it's never to exess. (breaks down your dna after all) I'm also no longer friends with the people i drank with.

  I think what would concern me is that you dad said he'd lay off the hard alcohol. That still leaves that open to interpretations which from my experience still says he will be drinking more of the less hard stuff.
  Admittedly I can't say for sure as i don't know your family and only my experience but i did go to AA for a year.
  Your story is an example of things that you don't see as a drinker and that includes the harm one brings to others (thus, a pony darketh the earth; and grew to be resentful) I'm glad that i was finally able to see the light. Unfortunately, I can also say from experience that one does not quit drinking until they choose to. After all, that is the power of choice.

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I'm glad to hear it's gotten better. I've honestly gotten really worried when you told me...that...and I think you're really brave to stand up to him. Very brave indeed. ;)

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I'm glad to hear it's gotten better. I've honestly gotten really worried when you told me...that...and I think you're really brave to stand up to him. Very brave indeed. ;)

ty <3

 

However like Twilight said, he only mentioned hard alcohol which still leaves opportunity for those... moments... and like I said, he's said things like this before and not kept his promises. :(

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That must have taken a ton of guts. You should be proud of yourself, it's never easy to stand up and speak out in these situations, but someone had to and I'm glad you did. I only hope he takes it to heart. I'll be praying for both of you.

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