Where to begin? I think I will just give my definition.

Happiness, for me is a state of mind, achieved only when you already have everything you want. Once that is completed you can suffer pain in any form, wether it is physical or mental, you will still be happy. Hell! You could even die with a smile!

My first conflict here would be the fact that Im poor, I lack of internet, food is not always the best and lots of other problems I have. So how did I achieve this state of mind with all of the before mentioned? That's easy to answer. I stopped wanting, or so I thought. I convinced myself that I didn't want anything else, I was happy how I was.

I later discovered that I indeed wanted other stuff, I wish my economical situation was better for example. How was I happy if I didn't have everything I wanted?

After thinking for some time I discovered that what I want are physical stuff, so perhaps happiness is achieved not by having everything you want, but to reach a certain state of mind. But which one? And how do you achieve it?

I was 13 years old when I first became who I am today. Back then I thought that I had full control over my mind, so I just set the happy "on" 

But is it because I am special that I managed to have such control over my feelings? No, that can't be it. Something must have happened that allowed myself to do it.

At that age was also when I truly discovered who I was, that mixture of likes and dislikes that defines us. Since then I embraced what I liked and got away from those things I didn't, regardless of public opinion, regardless of the opinions of my family and friends. I accepted myself, something I hadn't done as a kid.

I think I have it, that state of mind I talked to you about is that one of self-acceptance. I now think that once you accept who you are and are proud to be yourself you can and will be happy.

Sure, people may have made mistakes in the past but we all do, you just need to learn from them, that's no reason to look down on yourself.

Regarding psychopaths and other criminals, they can be happy doing what they do as well, that's why they are criminals after all. 

What about those who had to commit a crime against their will? It isn't their fault, so they shouldn't include those actions that they made because they would have died otherwise when thinking of themselves as a person.

All lives matter equally so if you took one to save your own you shouldn't look down on yourself either, it is our natural instinct to try to survive no matter the situation.

I will repeat it, all lives matter equally, take a father and a random guy without family, if you were to decide who lives and who dies you can't take into account how would their deaths affect those who are alive but how it would affect the one who is going to die, after all, we all deserve to live happily ever after.

This conversation is threading off topic now so I'll stop.