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I just need to vent about a few things right now.

- I feel lonely. It’s so frustrating, I feel lonely but I don’t want to talk or be around to people. I’m not sure why it is that way, but it just is. I have online friends, but I still feel lonely. I had many real-life friends at college a few years ago, but I still felt lonely then. Also, I would love to have a girlfriend, but I don’t think any girls would be interested in me. I look unappealing and horrible, I rarely show my emotions and many of my emotions are dead, and I don’t talk much, so who would be interested in having a boyfriend, or even a just a friend, who is like that?

- I hate jobs. They suck. How does anyone manage to work a job? I’ve worked a few jobs and I felt so miserable working them. Nowadays most jobs require people to do something that I am really terrible at doing, interacting with and talking to people. I can’t do that! Well, I can, but I often misunderstand and can’t hear people, and when I talk to people I find it hard to say some words and I frequently take short pauses because I can’t think about what to say fast enough. Also, talking to people makes me really anxious and stressed. Anyways, I can’t lift anything heavy because I’m not in shape. Problems with lifting heavy objects and talking to people severely limits the number of jobs I can apply to. And what also severely limits the jobs I can apply to is the experience requirement. Right now I’m unemployed, and I’m so discouraged about jobs that I’ve stopped applying to them entirely. I’d rather rot in my room than work a job. It’s not that I don’t want to work (I don’t want to do anything), it’s that I feel so demotivated and depressed that I can’t even get out of bed to eat lunch.

- I feel demotivated. This is everyday that I have to put up with demotivation, and I can’t take it anymore. I don’t have any willpower left to do anything, and I stay in bed almost half the day it’s that bad. I don’t even have any motivation to play video games.

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Here is some reality. The vast majority of women only want the top 20% of guys. So if you're not at least a 8, forget about it. I have, and my life is better for it.

I get up at 4:30 and work 12 hours, outside in the heat of the summer and the freezing of winter. I have worked in Canadian winters and southern summers. You just get up and do it. But that is why I have a lot of money saved and I can buy things without worrying. Nobody is going to hand you stuff. We all hate work. You just do it.

I don't say these things to make you feel bad. I say them because it is the cold reality. It takes strong moral character to over come life. Start simple. Get a job, even of you hate it. Save money and look for a better job. Build a resume. Show employers that you aren't afraid to work. 90% of life is just showing up and doing what you're told.

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I agree with @Rebel Brony 42, we're always going to be here for you as your friends, but there is only so much that we can do to help you, especially online. Some of it is on you to get out there and just do it. It's that Nike motto- Just do it. Even if you absolutely hate working, your never going to get anywhere in life without a job, so you really do just have to push yourself to get out of your bed and just do it. It's not going to be easy, and it may not be pleasant, but having a job is the first step in being successful in life. Once you get going you may find it easier to continue as well. Maybe try reaching out to a recruitment office, someplace that can help you find a job that's suitable for you, they can work with you and you can even try out several different jobs within a few weeks as a "test run" to see if you find one that you like- it's what my cousin did because he too was struggling to find a job. They may even help you set up transportation to and from your job as well. But again, while others can help you along the way, and as your friend I can help encourage you and offer my two cent take on things, it really is up to you to get going, because no one is going to do that for you other than you. :fluttershy:   

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I’m not great at people skills either, but from my own experiences I know it’s something you just learn how to do. You get better at it first by understanding how your job works. Once you get comfortable with your tasks, you can start to feel more comfortable talking to people. If it can happen for a publicly quiet person like me, it can happen for you.

You have to realize, too, that there are forgiving people out there. Most people I’ve worked with have been pretty forgiving if I say or do something incorrect so long as I’m willing to fix my mistake. Sure, there’s people out there that don’t take mistakes lightly, but that’s on them, not you. I’m not saying go out and make a bunch of mistakes, I’m just saying a small slip-up every now and then is not as disastrous as you would think.

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5 hours ago, ExplosionMare said:

I’m not great at people skills either, but from my own experiences I know it’s something you just learn how to do. You get better at it first by understanding how your job works. Once you get comfortable with your tasks, you can start to feel more comfortable talking to people. If it can happen for a publicly quiet person like me, it can happen for you.

You have to realize, too, that there are forgiving people out there. Most people I’ve worked with have been pretty forgiving if I say or do something incorrect so long as I’m willing to fix my mistake. Sure, there’s people out there that don’t take mistakes lightly, but that’s on them, not you. I’m not saying go out and make a bunch of mistakes, I’m just saying a small slip-up every now and then is not as disastrous as you would think.

...okay...*taking notes* make:ooh:....mistakes....:)

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2 hours ago, Kujamih said:

...okay...*taking notes* make:ooh:....mistakes....:)

I think it is important to understand that in this world, you will run into people that make mistakes all the time, and don't even bother to try to correct themselves, and people that make mistakes and do their best not to repeat them. There is no one out there who doesn't make mistakes. It might not be okay to make mistakes, that's why it is called a mistake, but everyone does it, even the ones that cannot see themselves or their actions.

That means, you will also have two kinds of people who will comment or fight your mistakes. The ones who don't accept mistake will get mad at you. And the ones who accept mistakes might give you a break.

But you cannot avoid bring imperfect in an imperfect world. Try too hard and it will push you down. If you don't try at all, you are doomed to fail (you can always pick up where you left off). You simply have to accept every and all situations, and just do your best, without letting others push you down.

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I don't know if you are looking for advice, but I'll throw my two cents in despite all the good advice that has already been posted :ButtercupLaugh: Have you every heard of a speaker called Jordan B. Peterson? Hes a clinical psychologist and a professor of psychology at U of T. While I don't think he holds all of the answers to your problems, he knows a lot about helping people contend with the world and its problems. Through years of dealing with this in his practice, his solutions are surprising helpful and resonate on a deep level.  Fair warning, the process of fixing your life won't happen in a month. The process that will take time, perhaps years. 

 

If you want me to suggest any lectures, books, or other media from Dr.Peterson, I would love to share some of my favorite. 

 

Best of luck to changing how you feel 

 

 

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