We don't give warnings for criticism. That said, is it completely outside the realm of possibility that people may simply agree with our stance on certain things because they legitimately agree with the direction we've taken?
Since the minimum age requirement was put into place (something that is fairly standard across the entirety of the internet, I should add), there has been an age check put forth before all new registrations on the forum. Sadly, it is exceptionally easy to lie about your age. That said, I for one do make a point to look into such things a bit when I believe someone may have lied about their age - sadly though, there's often nothing for me to look into beyond the date of birth that they specified upon registration.
I'm not going to claim that I enjoyed going through and suspending everyone that was below the minimum.
We have things the way they are for the sake of consistency - we don't want a situation where people can claim that we came down hard on one person for a status update or two, while having ignored another entirely. "It's only okay sometimes" just does not work very well, and would only make things worse.
As it stands, the rule is crystal clear - there is no confusion, there is no bias.
To be technical, the warnings themselves remain on record though the point values decay. One of the primary reasons that we moved to a warning oriented system was to ensure that we had records of all infringements associated with a specific account, complete with notes and other information. Promotes good communication, which has proven on many occasions to be absolutely vital so far as we've continued to grow.
If the warning isn't fair, a moderation dispute is the only action that matters. It will either be overturned, or the warning - and the reasoning behind it - will be explained in excruciating detail; it isn't a yes or no affair, whenever someone comes to me regarding a warning I break it down for them.
Not only that, but making a public status update isn't exactly the same thing as simply talking to a friend about it - it's more along the lines of going into a crowded public space and yelling about it.
Do you complain about your mum to your friends in front of your mum? I won't disagree that venting is useful; God knows I do plenty of it myself, but there is a time and place. That is what this rule is about. Time and place.
If we're a brick wall that is unwilling to listen to reason, and that are happy to allow the moderation to do whatever they like and give whatever unfair warnings they want, complaining to your friends isn't going to do anyone any good or change anything. If that is what we are, and that is what we are doing, then why is anyone even here?
You're right, there are no fights in most tickets because most tickets are mundane, but with that said, I don't get shy about confronting people when things aren't done properly... thankfully, however, I can count the number of times I've had to do that on two hands.
I think you've hit the nail on the head, sadly.
And it is nobody's goal to prevent you from doing that - the last thing I want is for anyone here to be stewing in anger alone with nobody to talk to; but that doesn't change the fact that there is, again, a time and place for everything. There are some things that people simply do not talk about in the open in front of the entire planet; this should be viewed as hardly being any different.
Everything you've listed as being a point of annoyance has been completely and utterly vital to our continued growth. The age limit was necessary to prevent us from being a potential target of legal action (even as far-fetched as it that may sound, I do not want Feld0 shouldering any unnecessary legal liability for anything), the character limit was necessary to keep this place from turning into Twitter (and, I might add, has helped to stave off a lot of complaints we were seeing elsewhere about the quality of discussion here plunging into the depths of the ocean).
Speaking specifically on the warning system, it was necessary beyond words or measure - the old "system" may have worked when we were able to keep track of nearly every member, and when we personally knew almost every member, but as the forum grew and that turned out to be completely and utterly impossible, it became completely and utterly necessary to have a means by which we could keep records of rule infractions and have a general baseline for when some manner of punishment was necessary. The old "system" was good only for allowing trolls and people with malicious intent to linger longer than they should have honestly been allowed to, due to a lack of collective awareness on the part of the staff brought on by a lack of a means by which we could keep records and notes regarding member behavior. If we were to dump the present system at this point, I would resign, leave, spit in the general direction of the server, and never look back.
The age verification used by IP.Board comes in the form of a pre-registration check; once that check is passed during registration, users are able to enter whatever they like in the age field. Requiring people to enter some random numbers wouldn't keep anyone from lying about anything unfortunately.
While we do not have any established warning levels for this rule (this could change depending on how things go), so far all of the warnings given for breaking the new rule have been extremely light in terms of points given. Our goal is not to slap eleventy zillion points onto someone for every little off-hand mention of warnings; it is more to give them a reasonably gentle (depending on the context) prod to the shoulder as a general reminder that some things are not appropriate to be discussed in open sight.
None of us are trying to be dicks or evil tyrants; rather, we're just trying to do what we can to keep this place comfortable and enjoyable for everyone here. You might be surprised at how many reports "I got a warning!" status updates and threads bring in, with the most common report comment being some manner of request that the drama being created through them be stopped.
If we did not truly believe that this change would be beneficial to the community as a whole, it would not have been suggested internally or implemented in any capacity.
That said, even if people disagree with the rule, I hope that they will at least give us credit for being willing to discuss and debate it and its merits openly and candidly, and for not attempting to put an end to any and all criticism.