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  1. It is a flaw of my own, but it has its merits, I am a man of action, If there is a problem I am in favour of dealing with it as quickly and as thoroughly as possible so that it will not negativity effect myself nor anybody else for any longer than necessary and most importantly will not reoccur, this is why you will rarely see me go for an approach that has you forget about the problem, some problems you cannot tackle head on, but do not mistake them for being unbeatable, there are ways around them if you look for them.

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    It is easier to express my feelings through writing, and maybe one day I will be able to print these out and actually show my husband

    My favourite question to things like this is, why not make that day today?
    Ask yourself that, what would make any not just day, but moment, what would make any moment in the future a better to do this? how long will it take until that moment comes? If you allow a problem to remain as it is it will only do more damage, so if it is easier, write it all, every word and detail, every question and concern, explain that this is the easiest way, if you have a printer, print it off and sit it on the table? if not, write it maybe? go to a library and print it? text him? leave an open MS word document on the computer if you have one and go out until you know for a fact your husband has come home and read it, plan a fun day out with a friend, go see puppies in a pet store or something, anything, It will be a bit of a nail biting time, I know, I have been there before, but to start that conversation, that is the first step from there you will grow more comfortable and build trust, communication, understanding, teamwork, they are all important things and this is the best way to make it happen.
    So if you truly want it to happen, there is no better time than the present.

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  2. I have so much to say about this I don't know where I should begin, I'm a little short on time so this will have to do for now.

    I don't have a clue what problems you face that make you feel this way, but if trust is an issue than let me leave you with this.
    Aren't relationships suppose to be built on trust? I have never been in a relationship but I am under the impression you are suppose to be able to trust your husband and he is suppose to be able to trust you right?
    I don't know him, but I think it would hurt if a friend let alone a partner trusted me so little they would not tell me if there is a problem effecting them badly, that would make me feel bad because I want to help people, If I am ever fortunate enough to have a partner you better believe I'd be willing to help them, no matter the problem.

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    Why would you want to continue to try and open up to people that you think you can trust only to be pushed aside like yesterdays take out. 

    If that is really what you think of your husband.. may I ask why you chose to marry him?

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    Not a single person to go to because they all "know" you are fine. How can someone who is so happy and put together be sad? How can they have issues, they are so helpful and always in a good mood. 

    Little do they know that every second of every day they are screaming at you to notice that they are not okay. To notice that they are experiencing such pain that they don't know how to express it. There is so much that needs to be said but because there is never that conversation, everything stays hidden. 

     


    My real name is Louis, I'm 17, My favourite colour is purple and my favourite band is Sabaton, that is just some basic stuff, I could go on and on.

    It is unlikely that a personal conversation between the two of us is going to happen, I feel that under no normal circumstance will you ask me any of those questions, so I choose to make that "conversation" happen, I am screaming something in my head right now in fact, but you will never know what it is or was.

    Or will you? for this example it is that my birthday is the 18th of June, 5 days away, you know I have a birthday, but up until now you never once thought about such a fact did you? the same can be said for everybody and when others are feeling down or hurt.
    I'm confident you would have never known the date and would have never shown any interest and could not have cared, how could you? you didn't know. but now that you do know, you might even throw in a "happy birthday" when it is time and that would make my day.

    If you honestly did not know and never said "happy birthday" would it be a nice thing to do if I accused you of not caring? I don't really think it is.
    Now that I have told you, in 5 days If I don't hear from you I will know for a fact that you don't care. (only an example, I'm not pressuring you or anything)

    If you want someone to know something and it seems unlikely that anyone will figure it out on their own, it becomes your responsibility to tell them, which, in this vent is exactly what you did, when I first saw you on the forums you mentioned that you were coming out of a hard time in your life, I thought this meant things were going well for you, I had no Idea you were being effected so badly by something still, but it is not us, the good willed strangers, but people like your friends, family and especially your husband I recommend that you be speaking with.

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  3. I understand what that is like, but with projects, especially big ones like these communication is paramount, you all have your own ideas and trains of thoughts so it will become a bit tricky sometimes, if you all have a disagreement of opinions perhaps ask others outside of the groups what they think is a better idea so you don't have to tell your friends you think their idea isn't good and visa versa.

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