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  1. So I saw we lacked one of these and I thought it would be a nice addition to the site. Let's here talk, share stories and bring up other nice things about us who like people of our own gender, both genders, identify as the opposite gender or any other traits of ourselves and/or our friends who fit under the LGBTQ banner.
  2. I've talked to several people who identified themselves as transgender, both online and in real life. Most of them are really nice people, but some of them seemed to be really sensitive around topics associated with transgender (maybe due to negativity from some people?). So, if you are someone who knows a bit about the subject, feel free to reply. I noticed that there seems be significantly more Male to Female transgender individuals than Female to Male. I know I have not talked to every single transgender on this planet so this could end up as an inaccurate generalization, but this is from my experience both online and in real life. Any thoughts?
  3. Welcome to the very first transgender support thread on the forums! This will be a way of reaching out to those who experience great discomfort with their anatomy, biology, and the social pressures to behave and present themselves in accordance to their gender assigned at birth. It is a big and scary world out there and we want to reassure people who are suffering with gender dysphoria feel like they are not alone. In fact, there are over 700,000 transgenders in the U.S. alone [1]. There is no reason to feel alone and that is what this thread is here to prove! There are also a handful of open transgender members here as evidenced by the amount of life advice threads started by them: https://mlpforums.com/tags/forums/transgender/ There are definitely more trans people on here, I'm sure, who are most likely afraid of coming out. So I hope this thread can provide the virtual safe haven they need! If you are not trans but wish to show support to the trans community, you're more than welcome! For those of you who have no idea what transgender means, see the following and educate yourselves: https://en.wikipedia...Gender_identity https://en.wikipedia...ender_dysphoria https://en.wikipedia...iki/Transgender You are free to share your support, stories, thoughts, questions, concerns, etc! So yeah!
  4. Today I'd like to talk about transgender issues. I want to try to unravel and dispel as much misinformation as possible because I see so much confusion and frustration surrounding this issue. I also want to try to bridge some gaps and find some common ground between liberals and conservatives because there is a lot of hostility around this subject. My goal is to try to have an honest discussion, get at the facts, and provide my opinions and perspective, all while remaining compassionate and sympathetic to people's feelings. I am doing this as part of my ongoing project to try to make the world a better place by thinking and reasoning publicly (albeit anonymously). I believe that getting a solid handle on reality and finding common ground is crucial to achieving this goal. So, let's begin. I have always been what you'd call "pro-LGBT", but that's extremely vague, and could encompass so many things. A good way to reduce this position to something clearer would be to say that I don't believe people should be judged based on how they were born--something they can't control. However, it has been pointed out to me that the acronym "LGBT" (sometimes with and added Q or other letters) is a bit illogical and misleading to begin with. The fact is that the L, G, and B are sexual orientations, but the T is not. Being transgender has nothing inherently to do with one's sexual orientation. As we all probably know by now, trans issues have to do with sexual identity, which is what you are, and orientation is who you love. Hence, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to lump T in with L, G, and B, as if they are all one group of people. We constantly hear this term, "The LGBT community", but I've heard gay people say things to the effect of, "I'm just gay. I don't know anything about what it's like to be trans. I'm not part of a trans community. Being gay has nothing to do with being trans." And I've heard vice versa from trans people. So, it's a bit illogical, but I suppose that this label caught on in this way out of a matter of practicality and convenience. I don't think it's particularly useful to combine these terms as such, but I don't think it's particularly harmful, either. I'd like to make one distinction perfectly clear from the get-go: I think orientation is a simple issue with a clear and simple answer--it's absolutely fine. Gay marriage--absolutely fine. I believe that there's nothing wrong with any sexual orientation. It's all amoral. Love is just love. It doesn't matter who it's with if it's consenting adults. We can't control who and what we're attracted to, anyway. I believe that anyone who is not on this side of the argument is simply on the wrong side of history and reality, and I don't believe it's any more complicated than that, nor warranting of further discussion. Trans issues are a lot more complex and warrant more discussion. We hear a lot of frustration from the left and right about this. You hear people from the far left talking about how sex, gender, and (depending on who you ask), everything that you are and the totality of your being is a feeling, and that you are whatever you identify as. Then you hear people from the far right saying things like, "Born a man/woman, always a man/woman. Trans people are delusional. Only two genders," and etc. Let's try to get to the bottom of some of this. In particular, I'd like to start by trying to put an end to this "how many genders?" flim-flam, in which I see much confusion and conflicting answers. But before we can do any of that, we must first properly define sex and gender, so let's do that. Let's look at three different definitions. First, a 1992 copy of The World Book Dictionary: Sex - One of two divisions of humans beings and animals; the character of being male or female. Gender - 1. Grouping of nouns into certain classes, such as masculine, feminine or neuter. 2. Sex, synonym. Next, a 2009 copy of the Oxford Dictionary: Sex - Either of the two main categories (male or female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive function. Gender - 1. A class (usually masculine, feminine, common, or neuter) into which nouns and pronouns are placed in some languages. 2. The state of being male or female (with reference to social or cultural differences.) Usage on sex and gender: The words "gender" and "sex" both have the sense 'the state of being male or female,' but they are used in different ways. Sex usually refers to biological differences, while gender tends to refer to cultural or social ones. And finally, a quick search on dictionary.com: Sex - 1. Either the male or female division of a species, especially as differentiated with reference to the reproductive functions. 2. The sum of the structural and functional differences by which the male and female are distinguished, or the phenomena or behavior dependent on these differences. Gender - 1. Either the male or female division of a species, especially as differentiated by social and cultural roles and behavior. 2. A similar category of human beings that is outside the male/female binary classification and is based on the individual's personal awareness or identity. In school, I was always taught that sex is your biological makeup with respect to reproductive function (male or female), and gender is what you perceive yourself to be socially (masculine or feminine). The three sets of definitions, while varying slightly, seems to align to this. Sex is biological, and gender is social/cultural. When I hear people discussing and debating how many sexes/genders there are, it annoys me that they usually fail to define terms, and instead use them interchangeably, when they are, in fact, different. So, here's my breakdown: there are two sexes. That's it. Pretty simple. Excluding intersex abnormalities and anomalies, such as hermaphrodites, there's just male and female. There are no other options. Gender, on the other hand, is a spectrum between masculine and feminine, and thus, is infinite. Regardless of your sex, your gender can be anything along that spectrum. You can be a feminine male, a masculine female, you can be gender fluid; you can shift between feminine and masculine, you can be one today and the other tomorrow, you can be right in the middle--neither masculine nor feminine. You could even have some of each traits simultaneously. The possibilities are endless. Gender is predominantly a feeling. It's your identity--your self-perception. It is social and cultural. Many, but not all, gender characteristics are arbitrary cultural constructs, such as fashion and hairstyles. So, to reiterate: Sex--binary. Male or female. (excluding biological anomalies). Gender: Masculine/feminine. Infinite spectrum. Given these definitions, the term "transsexual" would seem to be a more accurate term for someone who undergoes sexual reassignment surgery, but that term has fallen out of favor for some reason; I'm not quite sure why. For the rest of this essay, I'll typically just say, "trans person". People often seem to get bogged down in semantics when debating this "how many genders" thing, and it leads to confusion and frustration. I've heard some people try to argue that there's more than two sexes, but this argument hits a wall when you ask them what these additional sexes are. You have male, female, and....what else? What other option is there? What other reproductive organs are there? What other chromosomes are there? There aren't any. If there were, then we'd know what they are. I've seen people argue that they are neither male nor female, and this tends to lead to a frustrated backlash, usually from the political right. I sympathize with that frustration, because the fact is that you have to be either male or female, biologically speaking. There's no other option, no matter how much you'd like there to be. So, when a person states that they are neither male nor female, they appear to many to be delusional, and I can understand that. I believe that the problem comes from the fact that they are confusing sex with gender. They can be neither masculine nor feminine; they can be neither male nor female culturally, or socially, meaning that they don't fit into any societal man/woman archetypes, but they have to be male or female biologically. I would never ask anyone to fit into any cultural boxes. Regardless of your sex, you can have any kind of personality, and you can be anywhere on the gender spectrum, or possibly even somewhere orthogonal to it, or off of it entirely. I'm open to the possibility of more possibilities besides just masculine and feminine, though I'm dubious about what those would be. You don't have to be any sort of man or woman that society expects you to be. However, like it or lump it, you have to be biologically male or female. You just are one or the other, period--either XX or XY. So, if someone argues that they are, literally, neither male nor female biologically, then I would argue that they are indeed delusional. Or just faking for attention or something. My ultimate point here is that I sympathize with conservatives who feel like many of these trans people are delusional. I get it. But I believe that so much of this frustration and confusion could be avoided if we better defined and understood the terms sex and gender from the outset. So, now let's discuss the actual nitty gritty of gender dysphoria and transitioning. What do we know? Well, let me start a different way, and tell you what I thought I knew--for many years, I thought that male and female brains were uniquely, perfectly different in such a crystal clear way that you could look at a scan of one and say with absolute certainty that that one is a female brain, and that one is a male brain. I thought this to be a plain, cut and dry biological fact. Thus, as I understood it, a trans person was one with the brain of one sex, and the body of the other. I thought that this was a biological certainty, and that we could prove with a scan that person was "born in the wrong body." Because of this, I couldn't understand why so many people had such a hard time believing that gender dysphoria and transgenderism are real, biological conditions. Well, after doing my own research, what I learned is that our understanding of the brain is not nearly as good as I thought. Gender dysphoria absolutely is a real thing, but it's not as cut and dry as just taking a brain scan and saying, "yup, this boy has a female brain." Male and female brains differ in chemistry, but they're not as perfectly defined as I thought. Instead, we see trends. Things that tend to look one way in a male brain, and tend to look another in a female brain. Certain parts will be bigger in one brain than another, suggesting a higher capacity for certain types of abilities or information processing, or multitasking, or emotions, or what have you. These types of brain differences between the sexes are trends, but they're not absolutes, and we cannot simply scan a brain and say, "oh, look a that--sure enough, you've got a female/male brain." Now, the trans brain tends to look different from both. It will appear to have bigger/smaller/different looking regions than either a typical male or typical female. These differences in brain chemistry can create a very real feeling of being the wrong sex. There absolutely is a difference. Gender dysphoria is a real, biological phenomenon, but it is not nearly as understood as I once thought. We can see different trends, but we cannot scan a brain and determine a person to be in the wrong body--not with any certainty. Not yet. Many of my beliefs about this subject were based on assumption, not research. After learning these facts, I had to backtrack on some of my opinions, such as young children being able to transition. I lean against that now. There are children who seem absolutely certain that they are supposed to be the opposite sex, and I have no doubt of their sincerity, but given our shaky understanding of the brain, it seems risky and irresponsible to allow children to make such drastic decisions for themselves. After all, children's brains are so underdeveloped compared to an adult's, and many children don't really know what they want or how they feel. They can change so dramatically, and as I understand it, many minors who transition regret it later on. But then there are those individuals who feel absolutely horrified at the prospect of going through puberty of their birth sex, and I sympathize with them. That's rough, but I still lean towards not allowing minors to transition, especially after hearing from many adult trans people who are against it for the reasons I've put forth. At the end of the day, I completely support a person's right to transition and to do what they want with their own body, but it is a massive decision that I believe requires maturity to make. That said, I don't see the harm in allowing children to express their gender (masculinity/femininity) as they wish. I think that children ought to be able to choose the clothes and toys that appeal to them most, and I don't think this "warps" their minds, as haters love to say. In some cases, gender nonconformity in children may just be a phase that they will grow out of, and sometimes not. But either way, wearing clothes or playing with toys cannot damage or permanently alter someone, it cannot make a cisgendered person trans, and it certainly cannot affect orientation. I believe that children should get to choose what they're most comfortable with, but should not be allowed to make physical alterations until adulthood. At this point, it's also worth mentioning that gender dysphoria is indeed a variety of mental illness. That's not to say that it is in any way comparable or equatable to, say, something like schizophrenia, Downs Syndrome, or bipolar disorder, or things of that nature, but it is most certainly a problem in the brain. It's obviously not supposed to happen. It's a glitch in the operating system. It's a bug, not a feature. It's an illness in the same way that clinical depression is a real illness. Many conservatives/anti-trans people will say that trans individuals are mentally ill, which causes an eruption of outrage from the left, with liberals giving retorts to the tune of, "No, their not! There's nothing wrong with this person! They're just a beautiful woman/man/whatever!" There's a couple points to unpack, here. Firstly, when conservatives say this, liberals are usually taking it to mean "trans people are f*cked up, disgusting, and wrong for trying to transition". Now, I'm sure that many people do mean it in this insulting way, and that's terrible. To those people, I would naturally argue that there's nothing wrong with a person taking steps to feel more comfortable in their own skin. However, it should also be understood that when the liberals argue that there's nothing at all wrong with these people, that's not entirely accurate, either. Of course there's something wrong: they have gender dysphoria. If there was nothing wrong, then they wouldn't need to transition to the opposite sex in the first place, now would they? Saying that there's nothing wrong suggests that gender dysphoria isn't a real condition, which is counterproductive to understanding trans issues. It isn't hateful or intolerant to admit that there's a problem. There is something wrong--these people do have a mental illness, and transitioning to the opposite sex is the way that mental illness is fixed. Gender dysphoria is the illness, and transitioning is the treatment. * * * I would now like to migrate towards the conversation about how society views trans people, and what really makes a man a man, and a woman a woman. I think that, typically speaking, most people want to be compassionate and sympathetic towards others without entering into any fiction. Depending on where you look, there's something of a war-zone at the moment between people who want others to respect whatever they identify as, and people who flat-out refuse to acknowledge a trans person as the sex they identify as. Let's see if we can't find some common ground and look at each point of view. Take a character like Ben Shapiro for example: when talking about trans individuals, he will only refer to them as their birth sex. When asked why he won't call this transwoman "she", he replies, "because it is a lie". For convenience, let's use Caitlyn Jenner as an example of transwoman, just because she's probably the most famous one. Ben takes hard-line stance that Caitlyn is a man with some hormone therapy and cosmetic surgery. His opponents will ask why he refuses to respect her sexual identity, and he will explain that it's intellectually dishonest. This is enraging to many, as they feel that a person's internal, self-identity is their true self. I.e., if you feel that you're a woman, then you are a woman. To many, refusing to acknowledge a person's self-identified sex is a heinous act of hate. But surely there is some middle ground. Is Caitlyn Jenner a woman? Is Caitlyn female? Let's explore this question together from both sides. At one time, I would have answered, without hesitation, unabashedly, unequivocally, yes. Yes, Caitlyn is a woman. However, now, when I think about this question, it gives me slight pause. I feel like I'm not sure I want to answer, and this hesitation, according to many, instantly makes me a vile, despicable human being and forever disqualifies me from playing for Team Liberal. Lifetime ban. I have to turn in my uniform, right down to the official Leftist underwear, and walk home naked, dragging behind me the Stone of Shame. Well...I'd like to be able to talk about this like rational human beings without jumping to such extreme conclusions. Here's the facts: Caitlyn has a Y chromosome. She can never truly be biologically female. Not in a reproductive sense. I know it. You know it. Caitlyn knows it. Chromosomes tell the final story, right? So, does that mean that Caitlyn is male? Well.... ....yes. I suppose it does. If I'm being completely intellectually honest, then I have to say yes. I can't argue with that logic. The part of my brain that cares about facts, reality, and intellectual honesty won't let me answer any other way. Imagine it this way: let's suppose there was a zombie apocalypse--one caused by a virus like KV from I Am Legend. Let's suppose that we invented a cure, like Robert Neville did in the movie. Let's suppose we were able to make a vaccine. Let's then suppose that, for whatever reason, the vaccine was sex-specific. It interacts with chromosomes in some way. There's a male vaccine, and a female vaccine. The correct vaccine will make you immune to the virus. The wrong vaccine will kill you. Hospitals are offering free injections. They have huge booths set up with every available doctor and nurse administering the vaccine. People are lined up around the block. There are two lines: the male line, and the female line. Which line is Caitlyn Jenner going to get in? Bear in mind, the wrong one means death. When we look at the question this way, it seems pretty straightforward. So, the point is, I sympathize with Ben Shapiro's perspective. However, I am comfortable acknowledging and respecting the sex that a trans person presents as because there's more to this stuff than just chromosomes. I know Caitlyn has a Y chromosome. We all know it. Nobody's delusion, here. Nobody's trying to pretend that reality doesn't exist. But the fact of it is this: trans people are human beings telling us of a very real, agonizing condition that they're going through, and they're doing their damnedest to try to navigate it, and to find some way to be at peace with themselves, physically and mentally. A decent person should be compassionate and sympathetic to this, in my opinion. If a person transitions, get the hormones and the surgery, and fully presents as their self-identified sex, then what's the harm in respecting that and referring to them as that sex? (I guess I'm talking directly to the Ben Shapiros of the world, now.) I mean, Caitlyn has breasts and a vagina now; isn't that enough? For all intents and purposes, isn't that enough? Do we really need to worry about her chromosomes in our everyday interactions? If a person has completed the transition, then it seems to me that it's not intellectually dishonest to refer to them as that sex. Physically, they have the body of that sex, now, so what's the problem? Now, it starts to get grayer when trans people have only partially transitioned, or haven't begun at all. Personally, I am once again comfortable respecting the sex a person identifies as, but I am sympathetic to people who are more squeamish about it. I think the feelings of that side (conservatives, or whoever they may be) become more and more understandable the less and less effort that a trans person has made to transition. I.e. is a person has made zero effort to transition, then I completely understand feeling uncomfortable referring to them as their self-identified sex. Just for kicks, let's take a look at some extreme examples--give this the ol' reductio ad absurdum treatment. Suppose that this person, looking exactly as so, suddenly said, "I'm a man. You must acknowledge and treat me as such in every way." How would you feel about that? How would I feel about that? And suppose that someone who looked exactly like this: said, "I'm a woman, and you must treat me as such." I don't know about you, but I'd feel a bit like this: Or this: And who could blame me, y'know? I do think that conservatives (or whoever is not accepting of trans people) should try to be less rigid and more compassionate, but I also think that trans people need to realize that it's unreasonable to expect people to accept their self-identified sex without a reasonable effort to present that way. And, by and large, I think trans people get that. They do make the effort. I mean, of course they do, because they don't want to look like their birth sex. They're unhappy with it. That's the point. But if zero effort is made, then it gets a little dodgy, and I get that. As far as genitalia goes, that's really nobody's business. If a person presents as a given sex, then I'll accept that; I don't need to know what's between their legs. Nobody does. It's up to them if they want to get surgery, anyway. Ultimately, I think that we can be respectful without denying any reality. Let's cover the bathroom stuff real quick. I'm in favor of letting trans people use the bathrooms of the sex with which they identify, but I understand the feeling from the other side. Is the worry here that we are approaching an endgame where anyone can go in any bathroom or locker room they want just by saying, "I identify as that thing"? Can any guy just say, "I'm a woman", and hang out in the women's locker room and enjoy the show? Look back up at those example pictures--what if the swimsuit model wanted to go in the men's room? What if ol' Hugh Jackman there wanted to go in the women's room? There would probably be much more of an uproar about the latter. Obviously, there's an asymmetry here due to the (almost exclusively) unidirectional nature of rape and sexual abuse. I.e. the man in the women's room is a potential threat, while the woman in the man's room isn't (a fact which makes me greatly resent being male). This stuff seems sketchy, but here's the thing--do we really need to worry about these problems? Has this kind of thing ever happened? Not to my knowledge. We just don't see these cases of regular, sexually unambiguous people going in the opposite sex's bathrooms. Once again, trans people want to do their best to resemble their self-identified sex, so if they go in the bathroom with which they identify, it will probably look less conspicuous than the other. No one wants to make a horrendous scene. Trans people going in the bathroom will probably either look "passable", or androgynous, so what's the big deal? I think they can be left alone. I don't think any trans people are going in the bathroom to rape anyone. I think that this is an issue that we just don't need to think much about. Let 'em use the damn bathroom, and then let it be out-of-mind. * * * I want to be as accepting and non-judgemental as possible. That's the kind of person I want to be, but Celestia help me, there are times when even I feel the cringe when certain liberals say certain things about this stuff. I have repeatedly made it clear that gender dysphoria and transgenderism are real things, and I have also made it clear that your personality (gender) can be anything on an infinite spectrum regardless of your biological sex, but I understand how conservatives feel when liberals toss around phrases like "men with vaginas" and "women with penises". Sometimes I feel conflicted about this stuff. I'm open-minded, and I want to be respectful and supportive of people being true to themselves, but scientific facts also matter to me, and they should matter to you. I think it would dangerous to move further towards this idea that you are whatever you feel you are. That certainly isn't always true. Physical reality matters. A person can be born as one sex but have brain chemistry more closely resembling the other, but I don't think it's entirely accurate to say, for example, that a person born biologically male who identifies as female is "every bit as much of a woman" as a natural born female. I'm worried that that last statement may get me in a lot of trouble, and may be considered the most flammable and controversial thing I've ever said on these forums. Such is the nature of this conversation. But does it make me a bad person to just wonder about these things? To be unsure? To have an opinion? It doesn't mean I hate anyone, or that I want to hurt or offend anyone. But the fact is, I don't think a biological male is "just as much of a woman", simply because they identify as such. I don't think that the definitions of "man" and "woman" are purely cultural, or social, or internal feeling-based. I don't think that simply feeling like a woman makes you "every bit as much of a woman" as any other. I think that biology and physicality actually matters, which is why trans people want to make the physical transition in the first place. I'm sorry if this opinion seems inflammatory, but it is not based in any sort of intolerance or desire to tell others how they feel or who they are. This is just a fact of reality as I see it. Youtuber Stephen Crowder made a great point about Caitlyn Jenner. After Caitlyn had her "downstairs" surgery, she said that she was no less of a woman before the surgery. Stephen said, "Then why get the surgery?" If you are literally, truly just as much of a woman before the surgery, then what's the point of the surgery? Aren't you getting the surgery in order to be a more complete woman? So that your body matches how you feel? I think that one's biological makeup actually does matter, or no one would ever bother having the reassignment surgery. Before I close, I'd like to mention that it's hypocritical, judgemental, and unfair for trans people to expect or demand that certain people be attracted to them, regardless of genitalia. So, for instance, if a hetero man doesn't want to date a transwoman with a penis, that doesn't make him a bad person. Judging someone for which genitals they'd prefer their partner to have is absolutely ridiculous. In my opinion, this shouldn't even warrant discussion. We have no control over what we're attracted to, and judging someone for such is completely antithetical to the entire LGBT movement. I don't think that sexual orientation should warrant discussion anymore, either, but I wanted to write this piece because I feel that trans issues are still complex, confusing, controversial, and can be difficult for many to understand. Please don't misconstrue any of my doubts or opinions as intolerance or hatred. Please know that when I read a post by a trans individual who says that they came out to their family, or they began their transition, or finished it, or what have you, I always think to myself, "That's wonderful. Good for you. I'm so glad you're able to be true to yourself and live the way you want, now." That's how I really feel. But that doesn't mean I can't think and reason about facts and reality as well, and have some opinions you may not share. And just to give you a final bit of perspective, this is all coming from someone who's a bit of a gender nonconformist himself. I'm a cis, hetero male, but I wish I was female. I have determined that I'm not trans; I don't have gender dysphoria. I just hate being male in this culture. I believe I'd be happier had I been born female. I have a strong feminine side, and I like to wear dresses and feminine clothing, and I'm always worried about how I will be perceived and accepted. Ultimately, I just want everyone on Earth to be able to be their authentic selves, to be comfortable in their own skin, happy with themselves mentally and physically, able to live as they choose free from judgement and hatred, and I want all of this to able to occur in harmony with scientific facts and physical reality. [Thanks for reading, thanks for keeping an open mind, and major props to anyone who actually made it through this whole, convoluted pile of garbage.]
  5. Heya everypony I run GearHeart, a hypnosis org, and one of the types of files we’ve been making is pony transformation hypno (every variant linked here is SFW). If you want your body to feel like it’s a pony from the show, this’ll do the job pretty well. Y’all may have heard about HypnoPonies (now Equestrian Souls) back in the day; they made files that have you perceive yourself as a character from the show in both body and mind. GearHeart’s pony hypno the same genre of stuff, but without the personality elements-- replacing people’s identities with characters from the show has been and continues to cause serious psychology problems in some users, so we’re erring away from it for safety reasons. No flak towards Equestrian Souls; personality files are their niche of content, and they do their best to make it safe. Anyways, GearHeart pony transformation files. Before I list them, fair warning-- feeling like a cute pone can make you not want to change back. So, some find not just pony transformation files, but imagining oneself as a pony, pleasurable and addictive. A very large amount of pony hypno users end up going the otherkin route and identify fully with being a pony after seeing and feeling their body as one for a while. Because a majority of users choose to be female pones, you also see a gradual shift in the userbase’s gender identity over the years. Right now, over half the pony hypno population is MtF. Which is fine. I’m a trans woman too. Just, don’t listen to these files unless you’re fine with your gender and species identity changing, potentially permanently. The files also give you the ability to feel roleplay text commands. Links to a playlist where you can select between a pegasus, unicorn, alicorn, earth pony, or bat pony: SFW Male to Stallion SFW Male to Female to Mare I recently made a cure file for species dysphoria that acts like a psychological reset and undoes species dysphoria and the effects of transformation hypno. If you want the psychological reset to reinforce a pony identity, here’s a version for that. GearHeart also has tulpa hypno and guided meditations, in addition to a thriving Discord community dedicated to hypno safety and creation. Thanks everypony <3
  6. Just to put this into a bit of context, when I came out as transgender, my mom didn't want to have anything to do with me. I still try to contact her and talk to her but she won't let me. When she turned her back on me, I felt like I wasn't deserving of my indigenous heritage, so for a long time(and sometimes still) whenever I so much as think about going to a pow-wow or learning the culture/language of my people more, I feel like I'm not worthy of those things. Like those things don't belong to me anymore, like I'm a separate entity from those things, I'm not supposed to be a part of them anymore. Now I know I shouldn't feel that way, what my mom did to me was separate and not even related. I can still and should still pursue what I want to or take up learning Ojibway language because I want to or take a moment and appreciate the music that my culture creates because I like it. Part of me still feels hurt when I do those things though and that's what stops me from doing those things. Anyways, I just wanted to get this out there... I'm part of a mental health group that likes to make lunch when we get together, the woman that is leading the group figured we should all bring in recipes to make and a girl in the group is also from the same reservation as my family is(I'm guessing that she's actually a distant cousin because she was talking about her family today once I'm thinking about it) and she brought in a recipe for how her family makes indian tacos, which is pretty much like a taco except you make fry bread and lay all of your delicious ingredients on top of it it's pretty good and there's many ways to make it! It all made me feel sad because I still feel like what happened between my mom is unresolved but at the same time it reminded me about all the things we did with fry bread. Whether it be driving around the rez during the summer, going to people's indian taco sales and driving to the graveyard to have them with my grandparents or to one of the parks and just watch the river or the ferry. Or watching my mom make the fry bread recipe that's been in the family since her great grandmother, like the times she would add garlic to the recipe and the whole house would smell of garlic. From my understanding, making fry bread could be a very tiny form of resistance. Allow me to explain. From what I've been told, fry bread hasn't always been a "traditional" recipe. It comes from the time when indigenous folks were forced onto reserves and the government were trying to beat the native out of the indigenous by controlling what they eat. The indigenous were limited in what they received: flour, lard, powered milk, you know, very basic things. The government were trying to starve the indigenous people so they began to make fry bread as an "F U" to the government and they were too stubborn to die of starvation. It made me sad thinking about all that while making my own indian taco but thankfully, the lady leading the group knew that I felt that way and was there to let me ramble on about my emotions at the time, it was helpful for me. I probably looked and sounded like a mess but I got through it. Unfortunately, my mom never shared her recipe for fry bread with me but now that I have a different fry bread recipe to use, maybe things aren't so bad. Maybe this is the universe's way of telling me that I need to move on with my life, my mom is her own person, whether I agree with what she does or not that's her decision to make. A part of me wants her to be a part of my life but if she feels I'm not up to par with what she expects of me, it's better that she isn't here for me. Maybe it's better that way, maybe it's better that we're apart so that I can finally be the person that I want to be, be someone that I can wake up knowing is doing the right thing for his own future. So yeah, my rant on fry bread, there you go...
  7. Since I've been on T for a while(or for those of you that don't know, I'm taking testosterone, just calling it T for short) and my voice has FINALLY started changing, I've also noticed that my laughing has changed as well. Sometimes, I think of it as my "Wookie laugh" because it can be slightly painful to laugh sometimes due to my lowering voice(though right now you can say that I'm in a perpetual state of that voice when you have a cold). Since I do like to laugh and will take any chance to do so... I kinda have to hear that laugh, often... It used to bug me but sad to say that when I hear my laugh I just want to laugh more at it, which makes my throat hurt even more. Sometimes, I also have a laugh that I like to call my "Trans Witch Cackle". It's kinda like my wookie laugh but it sounds more like an old lady, it doesn't hurt as much when I laugh with this one, thankfully... Unfortunately, I can't really control which laugh I use, sometimes it's one, sometimes it's a blend of the two or other times it's neither. I've never really noticed any of the trans men I either read up on or watch on youtube mention the change in laughter. Just something silly that I've noticed in myself and thought I'd share, even if no one will read this. Thanks for reading though, in any case~!
  8. This makes me notice transhumanism in a new light. What happens when otherkin and such want to be other species when we have the tech for it in a couple hundred years? You could ask alot of the same questions then. But there is certainly a line where surgery is the next step to become more feminine. Also truth has power, if you presume you are more feminine than you really look you may end up disappointed even if you stave off sadness momentarily. And why that's relevant and realistic is because they have reassurance in the form of what they already have going for them to make them look more feminine and they were certainly less feminine before, it'd be overestimation of their looks and lowering their own standards. In the future there will always be more to do, and part of that habit is actually the issue why plastic surgery can go so wrong, people don't know their limits. I think those more educated can figure out and heed advice better, and int he future safer and more diverse techniques will be available. Also its related to goals and dreams and wishes that are unattainable presently. Alot have them. And just because its not plausible now doesn't mean it will be impossible in the future, and it'd be a shame to not develop such further just to prevent risks. Also coping is a strategy, alot may turn to drugs or get depression, especially since they aren't as accepted as others. But I think what causes that depression, is something that Buddhists would prolly know, which is wanting it in the first place. It causes a feeling of urgency underlying daily activity, always in the back of the mind wanting to be attained, accepting defeat would be simpler. Like the pressures of an anarchist in a dictatorial society story (think final fantasy 7), it would certainly be emotionally easier to not face the world and challenge it. It'd also be safer, but for idealism people will anyways. What do you think of those transgenders living in tribes without electricity, or in third world countries. They just accept they are different, and don't even realize it might be possible to change, maybe dress up or imagine dressing up in secret. What I mean is, society has functioned before and can function before, the more society is capable the more people's desires will be realized, which causes more pain from inability to attain. Humans won't be satisfied, but I think that's a good thing. It helps us strive for more. Source: Is a person still a transgender even if he/she does not have treatments?
  9. I would consider myself a moderate brony. The show I find abnormally captivating for a children's show and I am drawn to the community which is centered on it, but i don't obsess about the show and never became extremely excited about it. That changed today when I caught the second half of the episode Brotherhooves Social for a couple of reasons, and it also makes me wonder whether there are any other parts of the series which cover at all alternate gender expressions or identities in a positive way. So, I had to poop this morning after 8-10 hours of slumber, but both bathrooms were occupied. Rather than sit or stand and only contemplate how badly I needed to poop, I decided to turn on the TV and see if MLP was on. It was, and it was an episode I haven't seen before (and there are quite a number of them). I immediately see this rather large pony trying to convince some panelists that he was a mare. I wonder whether I'm seeing Big Mac pretending to be a female, and wonder why he is going through such horrible strain and pressure to enter this competition to begin with. Rainbow Dash was amusing since she realized "Orchard Blossom" was Big Mac and said, "Don't think I'll take it easy on you just because you're a stallion!". Big Mac acts embarrassedly and inadvertently breaks the table the judges are sitting at. MLP is usually amusing in various ways, so this was not remarkable. Anyway, cut to the point immediately after Big Mac/Orchard Blossom basically rampages through to the finish line like a super-heavy panzer, and his clothes disintegrate. Everyone knows by now (and many before then, I'm sure) she is really a male, and Applebloom basically excoriates him for the futile attempts to come across as a mare and never be found out. The moment that engenders a heretofore unprecedented level of pride in the show is when the judge says essentially, "That's not why we're disqualifying him. We knew he was a stallion all along. We have very loose standards for what counts as a sister." Additionally, the judge comments that his behavior was not only unladylike, but unponylike in general. I don't believe I've ever seen or heard of a show meant for children which has at all strayed into this territory. I admit since I'm transgender and a femboy I am naturally going to have a different resonance and be fixated on this. However, the fact remains, the show subtly but clearly took an affirmative stance on gender crossing. I'm sure I previously thought about whether they would ever do this or touch on sexual orientation, possibly lamenting the apparent infeasibility of such a stand given the show's main demographic and our societal norms. I honestly had no idea they had done this before. I'm surprised conservatives haven't taken up arms over this episode, since it basically told children it's okay to identify as and act as the other gender (though the children this show was designed for likely won't understand this). One of the reasons I gravitate towards bronydom is the overwhelming LGBT acceptance and lack of regard for gender norms, and I am extremely pleased the show's writers and directors found a way to have the show match this attitude. I was also moved slightly to tears at the end when Big Mac confesses the reasons he did all of this and Applebloom's response. It was a very poignant and admirable moment in an episode I already became extremely fond of. It was emotionally compelling without being ultimately saddening or otherwise upsetting. So, did anyone else react as strongly to this episode as I did? Are there any other episodes which have similarly transgender-friendly moments that I have missed?
  10. Brush Stroke was my ponysona, but he wasn't based off of me. He's cisgender and married while I'm transgender and single. His favorite princess is Cadence while mine is Luna. He's a lot like me, but not like me enough. This OC is much more like me. Name: Sunshine Gender: Male (Transgender stallion. No hormones or anything... like myself.) Cutie Mark: Five Pointed Sun. Special Talent: Making others happy. Home Town: Canterlot. Current Residence: Ponyville. (The home town and current residence thing is based off of my own life. I was born in a big city but moved to a small town.) Strengths: Great and making others happy, loves to entertain, friendly, creative, intelligent, great listener, courageous. Flaws: Forgets about his own well being, has anger issues, easily falls into depression, stubborn to a fault, afraid of conflict, he frequently goes from being cocky to self loathing. By default, he is friends with Pinkie Pie. (Pinkie Pie is friends with everypony in Ponyville, so naturally, Sunshine and Pinkie Pie are friends, too. He has a crush on Rarity. (Not the same as shipping. I don't ship myself with Rarity.) Bio: Sunshine was born in Canterlot into a broken family. His original name was Sunny Day, but he preferred to be called Sunshine. He was very feminine growing up, but he didn't feel female. It wasn't until after he moved away from Canterlot to Grand Junction that he discovered that he was transgender. He made a lot of friends in Grand Junction and always made sure they were happy. He couldn't stand seeing other ponies sad. Unfortunately, his family wasn't the happy type. They were all pessimists who were hard to cheer up. Sometimes, he succeeded, but he typically failed. His desire to make others happy had a price. He was a doormat for most of his life and frequently lied to spare other pony's feelings. He later learned to stand up for himself, and he learned that lying spared the feelings of the ponies at first, but it was worse when they discovered the truth. He learned to be honest without being harsh. After he moved to Ponyville, he felt more comfortable with making other ponies happy. He got his cutie mark after he learned that the thing he wanted most in life was to see others happy. He stayed up all night talking to his friends when they were depressed, and her made things for others to cheer them up. To this day, he still hates seeing anypony sad. He may be a stallion, but he likes what he likes regardless of whether it's masculine or feminine. Note: He is similar to Pinkie Pie in the sense that he loves making other ponies happy and loves sweets and spontaneous, but overall, of the Mane Six, he's more like Rarity. He is based off of me. Saying he's not realistic is saying I'm not realistic. Yes, I have depression but enjoy seeing other people happy. I'm really good at it, too. Sorry for the horribly written bio. I have a hard time reading.
  11. First he turned into a princess and now he's crossdressing... both in the same season! Is this just a coincidence or is there more to this? Also what really caught my attention was how talkative he became as cousin Orchard Blossom. It seemed really out of character for me. Isn't Big Mac supposed to be shy? I never thought Big Mac of all ponies would crossdress in public. Or if he did, he would be super shy and barely talk at all. What do you guys think? (Edited)
  12. Judging from all the stories I've seen, I would say so. It sure looks that way, and I have a theory as to why. I believe it's because we all start out as female in early development. Those that become male begin to change at a certain point in development. Because the brain is so complex, it just seems logical to me that if a glitch happens in development, it would probably be more likely to result in the genitals changing, but not the brain, rather than the other way around. What do you think? Does it seem like there's more male-to-female transgenders than vice versa? If so, why is that?
  13. I didn't see a thread for this (I am quite frankly surprised about that and please merge if one is found, mods), so who else this here brony forum has gender identity issues or is a transgender? I am and fairly proud. I discovered this about a year after I discovered my sexuality isn't straight.(I'm pansexual (homoromantic, also) as of right now) I thought about how little similarities I have to the average guy and how I despise my bodily features. Mostly this Adams Apple of mine. It is so ANNOYING. It's literally what I see in pictures. The irritating bulge in my neck.
  14. Forest Rain is one of the brony fandom's most known musicians. Widely known for her sincerity, generosity, optimism, and simply being a role model to other people. Her signature song, Great to Be Different, was inspired by a letter she got while at BronyCon Summer 2012, which said "Isn't it great to be different? Love, Derpy." (BTW, GtBD is my favorite song to come out of the fandom, and I highly recommend listening to it if you haven't.) She would later meet the female brony who gave her the letter (funnily, FR met her as she was locked out of her car), and they got engaged at BronyCon 2013. You notice that I'm using female pronouns to reference Forest Rain instead of male as before. Tonight, she came out as a transgender woman, and she described the process during the last year, including her gender dysphoria. Shortly after watching the video, I replied to her on YouTube with this response:
  15. I feel like I don't get taken seriously because I'm a transman, but I like girl things. I like looking good, I like watching My Little Pony, I like feeling fabulous. I am heterosexual (meaning I like girls.) Not only do I like My Little Pony, my favorite character is Rarity. People said, "If you like My Little Pony, then why don't you stay a girl?" I cannot simply stay female because I never was female. I don't really fit into either gender socially, I have an androgynous style, but I am feminine. I like pretty things and things girls usually like. I'm not into sports or violence. Is there anyone else going through the same struggles? I really don't want to cause any problems. If this may cause problems, please lock this thread.
  16. A little story I wrote based off of a headcanon I read one day. It's about the mane six finding out a secret that Fluttershy's been keeping for the rest of them. I hope you enjoy. http://www.fimfiction.net/story/130935/bashful-secrets
  17. This is a poem I wrote in class less than an hour ago...we were supposed to use a poem by Thomas Lux as a guideline to help make someone fall in love with a word. My poem ended up...diverging from that intent a little bit. I was trying to make it about the word pansexuality, but instead it ended up turning into a mixture of pansexuality and genderqueer nature. I really liked the way it ended up, though, and while I couldn't read it in class due to feeling it was...too personal to share there, I can definitely share it here. Pansexuality. To society, I must limit, choose, pick a side between two stark binaries. There the dull, dim witted men bulging with muscles, or dainty little blushing maidens yearning for a hero. I am expected to be one and to seek the other. Limit my choice of mate. Limit who I am. Even in our most liberal of times in all of history, society says, "Pick a side." I could be gay, or straight, but never a mix. Yet I reject this. To me, everyone is beautiful, desirable. A blushing maiden or strongman might intrigue, but so too can the lithe little poet with his gothic clothes and long, ebony hair. Or the girl who plays football with the best of them, tackling burly men as readily as gender roles. Or even those between the binaries, lurking in a spectrum of gender neither man nor woman, much like myself. A twenty year old wearing their skirt, as they try to wriggle their genitals into a pair of panties, a pair meant for a crotch without the bulk. Or the man, born a girl, who wears a strap-on, simulating that which nature denied them. I see them all, and think, this is pansexuality. This is what it's like. No limits. No simple, binary choices. Just a sea of humanity, waiting for me with the fishing lure.