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Can insults hurt you? If so why?

Can insults hurt you?  

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  1. 1. Can insult be compliment?

    • Yes.
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    • No.
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    • Depends on targeted person.
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  2. 2. Can compliment be insult?

    • Yes.
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    • No.
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    • Depends on targeted person.
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  3. 3. Can insults hurt you?

    • Yes.
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    • No.
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Can insults hurt you? Why do they hurt you? Do you believe there is difference between compliments and insults? What do you think compliments are? What do you think insults are?

 

Here is example:

 

Someone says to 1-5 year kid old: "Wow you are childish." Is that insult or compliment?

Someone says to teenager: "Wow you are childish." Is that insult or compliment?

Someone says to adult:  "Wow you are childish."   Is that insult or compliment?

Someone says to 70+ year old: "Wow you are childish." Is that insult or compliment?

 

 

Another example:

 

Child says to other child:  "Wow you are childish." Is that insult or compliment?

Child says to teenager: "Wow you are childish." Is that insult or compliment?

Child says to adult: "Wow you are childish." Is that insult or compliment?

 

I believe insulting depends on a person because insults are meant to hurt a person and they are meant to be bad. Is being childish bad? How is that insult? I also believe that the person who insults others uses words that are insults to him. So basically if someone insults you saying you are gay. That means he doesn't want to be gay and he believes being one is bad.

 

 

 

Example:

 

Gay says to other gay: "Wow you are gay." Is that insult or compliment?

Gay says to someone who is not gay: "Wow you are gay." Is that insult or compliment?

Someone who is not gay says to someone who is not gay:  "Wow you are gay." Is that insult or compliment?

 

It also depends who is insulting if gay said to me "Wow you are gay." I wouldn't be insulted, because what is the reason of that insult if he is gay because if he is one then I don't think he believes it is bad to be one so it can't be insult.

 

On the internet insults don't work, because you have no idea who you talking to or who is talking to you so I believe it is harder to insult someone over the internet. However some people took words on the screen believing they are meant to be bad even if they weren't that is why some words like gay and childish are almost always taken as insults over the internet because you have no idea who is behind those words.

 

Tell me what you think about insults and compliments.

Edited by ooBrony

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It depends on several factors, including the tone of voice it's said in, who's telling it to who, and the context.

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insult would be like calling someone a dick complaint is just being annoying

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It depends largely on how it's said and who it's said to. For example, someone could call their friend an idiot but saying it in a joking tone that's obviously not meant to be taken seriously. On the same merit however, if something that is usually a compliment is said sarcastically it suddenly becomes an insult. 

 

And yes, insults can hurt far more than actual injuries. Whoever said "Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words can never hurt you" never had to deal with barbed insults that leave invisible scars.  

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Ignore Insults, but is useless to argue with people who are locked in a world created by the media, where drawings are only for children and colorful Gay thing is (What I really think ridiculous), we have to do is show because we like and ignore those lock the pitfalls of common sense ...

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Depends how they mean it but saying it in a cruel wrong way I count 100% as insult however just saying it in a jokey friendly way I guess it don't really class as insult...

 

 

and yes sadly words do hurt....more than a kick that is for sure...

Edited by Everleaf

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When people try way too hard to insult someone, it makes me and some others laugh at them.

But if someone knows who you are, and digs real deep to find the perfect insult, then it can be very effective at crushing someone. (Or if you just have a talent of insulting)

But again, this all depends on the type of person you are. Some are hypersensitive, others are not so much.

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Words can't hurt me, because i am used to insults  :nom:

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I'd like to delve a little deeper into the, "Can insults hurt you?" question. The answer - for me at least - is an unequivocal yes. For some, a verbal personal attack on who they are can trigger the same (or similar) emotional and chemical reaction that one gets during the 'flight or fight' response. The range of how this manifests is as wide as the Grand Canyon though. One person could simply become defensive (common response) to an all out panic attack. This could be compounded by various mental health disorders as well.

 

I do have one related question that I haven't formed an opinion yet on: Is an online personal attack from someone who is anonymous really less severe (or should it be) than one thrown at you live and in person (again by someone unfamiliar to you)?

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i depends on things like

-who is speaking out the insult?

-who is being the target of that insult?

-what particular insult is being being used?

-in which situation is the insult being used?

-what is the relationship between those two people?

 

 

these would probably be the most basic elements of offending someone.

 

could give examples. but i dont really have the time right now :S

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The internet is community based so if one person thinks it's okay to call me an 'autistic faggot who should kill themself' then others follow suit. That's why moderation is the only way round it.

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I imagine that insults hurt everybody.  :( 

Edited by teacup-bunnies23

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"You know Miss Miggins. They say words can hurt more than physical pain.... They are of course, wrong, as you will soon discover.... when I shove this turning fork in your head." ~Edmund Blackadder 

Edited by Shire Pony Malinter

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It depends. You made some interesting points there, but also keep in mind the person who says it and who they say it to. Anything can offend anyone these days. If I called a child childish that could be an insult but also a compliment. It depends on how I say it and how the person takes it. So to me there's really no either/or but both. Any compliment can be an insult and vice versa.

 

Of course that's not to say an insult such as calling someone straight up stupid is in anyway a compliment but you get where I'm going with this.

 

And yes insults do hurt me. I try to ignore them because they're usually unfair and mean with no facts behind them.

Edited by Felix

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I've heard that the same part of the brain that registers pain becomes active whether that person gets physically hurt or emotionally hurt be it by words or gestures. That said, if you really insult a person, you can make them feel better with painkillers. It's an odd claim to be sure so I'll go fetch the source I got it from.

 

This video from 4:18 to 5:09:

 

"What are opiates? Why do we use them in medicine? What are they? Pain killers is the main thing. But they're downers in the sense that they not only kill physical pain, they also kill emotional pain. They also kill emotional pain.
It turns out that if you look at the brain scan of human beings when they're feeling emotional pain, the same part of the brain lights up as when they're feeling physical pain. So whether I call you a terrible name that really hurts you and insult you or whether I cut you with a knife, the same part of the brain registers it, on the emotional level. So the emotional suffering associated with physical pain is the same emotional suffering with psychological pain and is felt in the same part of the brain and that's where the opiates work."

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Depends on the insult and who's saying it, really.

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There are many factors that go into this that determine if they do but really it can only be emotional pain not physical pain. Although emotional pain is probably the worst to be hurt in. That is just my opinion.

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Yes, Insults can easily hurt you, although it really depends on who and what the person is saying

For me i try to ignore the stupid ones like " Your gay" and "you look like a girl" (which is a compliment in my book)

But if it takes me back to a point I dont want to remember, then yeah it will hurt and i might hurt you

Whoever says "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" has never experienced true emotional pain 

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Yes?

Why? Because I'm a social pone. Not being liked by someone to the point of insult hurts me.

Like, a lot.

Most of the time I just deal with it and move on (sometimes feeling pity for the one who spoke the insult, e.g. a pony hater. I'd just thing of how silly I was when I hated the show and the fandom with no valid reason, and how silly I felt when I watched the show and liked it)

 

But if I met a friend and he says "Ayyy what up colon you big c*nt xD" Well, I know his intent is not to offend me so it's OK :v

Edited by Colon Vee

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Depends on the person who said the insult/compliment.  :maud:

 

No,insult don't hurt me. Them hurting me imply's that i care -- which i do not,because i do not care about someones negative opinion of me.  :maud:

However,to say that a insult from someone i truly care for wouldn't hurt would be a lie,however,those i truly care for would not insult me.  :maud:

 

 

 

I do have one related question that I haven't formed an opinion yet on: Is an online personal attack from someone who is anonymous really less severe (or should it be) than one thrown at you live and in person (again by someone unfamiliar to you)?

 

For me personally it doesn't matter,you're still going to get a Maud face whether its in real life or on a online forum. Ive just gone numb to negative opinions towards me unless they are from someone i actually respect and care for.  :maud:  

Edited by Pinkamena-Pills

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Absolutely not. I don't care, like some other ponies.  :maud:

 

People are only hurting themselves if they use insults, if you think about it...

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Insults which are online really dont hurt me.I dont give a fuck about what othes think about me.In real life is the same.Insulting hurts when its from a person you care about.From a person you think you know and shit.I mean friends often swear at each other,but they dont put feel in it,so it doesnt hurt anyone.But when someone means what hes saying and hes a close person to me,then it hurts.

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Only kids get offended by insults. I'm a grown-up. Insults are the weakest, most pathetic, ignorant, foolish and coward force in the Universe.

 

It's the most stupid way to attack someone or defend yourself.

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I think it really depends on the persons self esteem and who the insult is coming from. Like for me... I have really low self esteem so even someone saying one insult to me will make me upset but that only depends on the person because if it's my friends then i know they are just joking around and it doesn't affect me that much but if it's from a random person then it can affect me badly.

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Only kids get offended by insults. I'm a grown-up. Insults are the weakest, most pathetic, ignorant, foolish and coward force in the Universe.

 

It's the most stupid way to attack someone or defend yourself.

Thanks for making me feel bad for being offended by insults and for being a kid Edited by Eliash147

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