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'Love at first sight'

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I searched and couldn't find a topic like this; apologies if I've missed it or anything. ^//^

 

So, do you believe love at first sight is possible or a feeling that should be quickly acted upon? Have you ever experienced it, or know someone who has? :fluttershy: It doesn't have to be romantic love, by the way; platonic or any other kind of love towards someone else counts too. ^.^

 

Personally, I've never experienced it myself (I have to get to know more about someone, and share more moments with them, to begin developing any strong feelings), but I feel it's possible to love someone very easily like that, though it's probably not best to trust the feeling too far.

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(Romantic love?) Thought this guy was attractive when I first saw him. Over time, he became less handsome until he wasn't attractive to me anymore. Then I liked someone else. Weird, right?

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I don't believe in love at first sight. I think you need to really get to know the person in order to truly love them, or at least you need to interact with them a bit. "Love at first sight" is mostly based on appearances, and a good relationship needs much more than physical attraction.

 

Super typical answer but oh well :P

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I believe in lust at first sight. If you believe you love someone based on looks or unspoken chemistry, you're going to wind up with a broken heart. 

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Well, I won't say it is not possible, but I will have to say that it's not true love if you simply look at someone. I would say attracted, but not love. Therefore, you would be looking at the cover of a book and decide that you love it instead of reading between the pages.

It would be blind judgment at most.

 

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I think love at first sight is more akin to infatuation. Sure, those feelings can grow into love, but the right ingredients have to be there. The initial spark of the physical attraction can help it grow, but it isn't enough on its own.

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Well, my best friend currently I met about five to six years ago. She had just moved from another state, and everybody was talking to her. So I go up to her all shy, and we just... clicked, from moment one. She made me who I am today. :)

Not exactly love, but... uh... friendship? XD

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This guy, Nostalgia Critic, played by Doug Walker once did an editorial on this called "Does Romeo and Juliet Sucks?" where he talk about the play and points out how it's not so much a love story as much as a tragedy of prejudice.

 

Watch 1:15-1:56 if you just want to hear his words on the "Love at First Sight" ideal. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngd9XVIMotE&list=PLnfxpdX5St3JX4q9X_s5eYRN5jrr58AtT

 

I personally have the same thoughts as him. And know that while Love at First Sight is not the wisest way to go, it's not something to be hated, nor completely impossible to happen.

 

 

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I'm more of a believer of "Looks At First Sight". Often whenever it's love at first sight, it's usually based on psychical appearance or such similar factors. Unless you have actual good chemstrity and talked to each other muiltplite times and you are starting to warm up to the person (or people) and it's actual true love and you realize this crush, then I would think of it as "true" love at first sight. If it's a fictional character you're in love with, then I hope you have a reason other than their looks such as having anything in common with them. :P

 

Often many girls and guys, guys especially from what I seen though being a girl, tend to look more for the attractive and beautiful or hot and awesome looking person. Many teenagers seem to look more for the looks rather than more the actual personality and behavior or anything in common with people. And if a person falls in love instantly with someone "at first sight" and they never met before, chances are highly likely it's based on the looks alone.

But if you actually have actual chemstrity and it's really true love and you realize you have a crush other than the looks factor, then I say it's safe to call it a actual love at first sight. But that's just my opinion and thoughts.

 

I believe in lust at first sight. If you believe you love someone based on looks or unspoken chemistry, you're going to wind up with a broken heart.

 

Lust is a extreme thirst for sex. Looks don't always have to do with sexual desires. Like I understand and quite agree with what you said, but not all people who love someone based on looks wants to have sexual attraction. Like if you're a asexual like me for example. I never really liked someone (well a real person anyways) really but if I did for their looks (which I doubt I ever would) I wouldn't want sex with them because I'm asexual so sex is a big "no-no" for me (love is a big no for me in general.)

 

So yeah, you are right: if you believe you truly love someone based on only looks alone you might as well end up with your heart shattered. But loving someone for looks only doesn't always really mean they want to have sex with them and/or it doesn't mean they are lusting for them. Like if they're asexual or demisexual even. (Meaning they rarely feel sexually attracted.)

 

The way you describe your "lust at first sight" sounds more like a "looks at first sight"

 

Once again I agree with you, but I believe a lust at first sight would be better described as someone who gets sexually attracted easily at first sight and if you want to have sex with them right away. And lust is usually obsessive. It's possible to lust over someone right away and grow obsessed over the looks, but that doesn't always happen. And if a person believes that they're in love for the looks alone and believes they're experiencing love at first sight, they may not even think of sex at all or may not even be thinking of sex right now right away and eventually later they could grow sexual desires later on and not at first.

 

Loving someone just for their looks or unspoken chemstrity I think should be called Looks at First Sight. Once again, you are right. I just think "lust" isn't the right word and if a person wants to have sex with that person they may not be obsessed at the idea or at first so it's isn't really lust or lust yet. So all in all the way you describe it I think "lust" is the right word.

 

This guy, Nostalgia Critic, played by Doug Walker once did an editorial on this called "Does Romeo and Juliet Sucks?" where he talk about the play and points out how it's not so much a love story as much as a tragedy of prejudice.

 

Watch 1:15-1:56 if you just want to hear his words on the "Love at First Sight" ideal. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngd9XVIMotE&list=PLnfxpdX5St3JX4q9X_s5eYRN5jrr58AtT

 

I personally have the same thoughts as him. And know that while Love at First Sight is not the wisest way to go, it's not something to be hated, nor completely impossible to happen.

Good old Doug like always. I quite agree exactly with what the good old Critic says here.

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I don't believe in love at first sight even in the slightest. I need to know someone at least a little bit before I even think anything of them. I mean, for fudge's sake, I don't even remember people's names at tenth sight, so love is totally out of the question on the first.

 

Now, that said, when I was around 12 years old, my family and I went to an animal shelter to adopt a cat. Of course, I would go around and look at all the kittens. There was one kitten, and only one kitten, who wasn't afraid of me. She stuck her head through the cage and let me pet her.

 

That kitten is now my cat. She sleeps on my bed every night, and I've had her for nine years.

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I believe just never saw it in action

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@,  While lust can and usually does have to do with sexual feelings, it can mean a strong desire or drive for, which was the use I meant. 

 

There's plenty of ways for one to get their heart broken, and they aren't all romantic. I've had my share of emotional ache from friends letting me down. 

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It's hella possible.  I may have never experienced it before, but I believe nothing else about it but it being possible.

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I believe in lust at first sight. If you believe you love someone based on looks or unspoken chemistry, you're going to wind up with a broken heart. 

 

Or just really mad... either one is "equivalently" painful.

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My best friend sister hood awesome buddy soul mate , Erica met me in 9th grade and we clicked right away in 10 th. grade

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Oh yeah I have. My first girlfriend and I, within an hour of meeting one another shared a connection. At the end of the evening I kissed her hand and she put her number in my jacket pocket.

 

Our relationship was the longest and thus far only one I've had.

 

(Also, not sure if it counts, but my parents met in High School, dated through college, got married, had me, and are still happy together.)

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i dont believe in love at first sight, i believe in two people being friends and eventually falling in love

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Though I now believe that I harbored deeper feelings for Rainbow longer than I initially realized (or acknowledged), I did not fall in love with her the moment I saw her.  I was immediately attracted to her; she was (and still is) beautiful, vibrant, and irresistibly magnetic.  But it takes time for real love to grow.  And time for dopes like myself to become fully aware of it.  What some might have called lust and infatuation became true admiration, respect, and fondness...  Not that the lust thing was ever extinguished. x3  She's an inextricable part of me now, and that didn't happen overnight.

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I don't believe in love at first sight. I think you need to really get to know the person in order to truly love them, or at least you need to interact with them a bit. "Love at first sight" is mostly based on appearances, and a good relationship needs much more than physical attraction.

I believe in lust at first sight. If you believe you love someone based on looks or unspoken chemistry, you're going to wind up with a broken heart. 

I think love at first sight is more akin to infatuation. Sure, those feelings can grow into love, but the right ingredients have to be there. The initial spark of the physical attraction can help it grow, but it isn't enough on its own.

With responses like these, there's not much I can add.  Physical attraction and chemistry are paramount to a successful romantic relationship, and you can certainly feel that immediately, although that can and should deepen with time as well.  But obviously, love takes time and requires knowing the person.

 

I think "love at first sight" may have been a bit more possible in ye olde days in a time and place where there was very little diversity.  You look at some medieval village--everyone is the same race/religion, everyone's life path and goals are basically the same, etc.  There weren't many variables in medieval times, so physical chemistry may have been the biggest concern.  Maybe that's where the whole idea of love of first sight started.  Or maybe I'm way off.  Just theories and ramblings.

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@,  While lust can and usually does have to do with sexual feelings, it can mean a strong desire or drive for, which was the use I meant. 

 

There's plenty of ways for one to get their heart broken, and they aren't all romantic. I've had my share of emotional ache from friends letting me down.

 

Ah, alrighty. I was kinda confused I suppose and didn't see what use you meant. And I completely agree. :)

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