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I hate it when people say guys can't be friends with girls


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You haven't been around the internet much have you? image.png What you stated is the premise behind 99% of all ships ever. 

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It's idiotic when people first assume friends of the opposite genders to be in love with each other or something similar and it's even worse when the said friends have already told people that they're friends. As if a romantic relationship is somehow more valuable than a wholesome friendship! Me and my best friend are perfect at being friends though since neither of us are straight. :lol:

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12 hours ago, Jaspers said:

It's idiotic when people first assume friends of the opposite genders to be in love with each other or something similar and it's even worse when the said friends have already told people that they're friends. As if a romantic relationship is somehow more valuable than a wholesome friendship! Me and my best friend are perfect at being friends though since neither of us are straight. :lol:

at least that's tolerable cuz if people assume your dating or are interested in dating they'll get the picture after awhile of staying just friends with your opposite gender friend It's when people completely forbid the act of befriending the opposite gender that I can't stand.

 

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Clearly purely friendships can exist, but over the years I've begun to understand where the saying is coming from even if it is not necessarily true in every circumstance. Obviously, I'm not straight, but my experiences (and others' experiences!) have led me to be suspicious any time a guy is trying to befriend me. It's sad, but it's rare that a guy actually just wants a friendship.

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The female friends usually hang out with are either in my Brony or Board Game groups, and I then don't know them well enough outside of the confines of those surroundings to establish that friendship as more than the occasional social acquaintance that breezes by every once in a while. The only out and out close female friend I have is one I've never actually met outside of the internet, and that came out of a mutual respect and love for each others similar interests... which is usually the one icebreaker that begins any and every friendship I've ever had regardless of gender. Those who aren't of similar ilk are much harder social nuts to crack, which may explain my lack of female friends outright, as it's much easier to find males who like what I like than females.

The point is, no one should ever assume that a gender is worse than the other, as they both have faults. People should just let others befriend whoever they please, and let their sense of judgment come to show its worth if it turns out good or bad. Socialising is a difficult skill, and if they aren't allowed to experience it with others then what would be the point of it?

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The statement is not generally untrue. It is generally a fitting statement as that is often the case sadly. But it does not always apply, as it is possible for boys and girls to just be friends (and that is why you will see many girls seeking friendship with gays, as they know they are not interested in them in a sexual or romantic way). 

In any case, I do have female friends whom I have no problem with being just friends with. I am not the only one as well, so again, that statement does not always apply. 

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On 12/22/2017 at 7:16 PM, Feather Scribbles said:

I agree with your statement, but during teenage years, hormone levels are rising and well,... Let's just say that it is best that when teen biys and teen girls are around each other, adult supervision is required.

hi, teen heterosexual male here. my best friend is a teen heterosexual female.

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I mean I can totally be friends with a girl and not want to date them if I don’t feel that type of bond with them ever but still enjoy their presence :wacko: .

Although it may not always be one of those “tighter than bark on a tree” or “closer than two catfish” friendships :wacko: .

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The whole "guys cant be just friends with girls" thing is why all of my family members think I'm trying to get with girls I hang out with. I just get along with females better than males. They're more mature and can hold a serious conversation. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being friends with females if you're a male, everyone gets along with different people.

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I have never said that I couldn't be a friend to a girl. As long as you're nice to me, i'll treat you the exact same way. That is how I was raised. Besides, i'd say more than half of the friends I've made throughout my life thus far are with women.

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Most of the friends I've had have been girls, but I have a feeling that it was easier for me since I'm not straight. It's ridiculous that society makes people think that men and women can't be friends, I mean I'll be friends with anyone if they treat me well and I'll treat them the same in return :P

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My best friend is a woman who is about 8 years older than me. Her husband is my friend as is her annoying sister. I was the best man at thier wedding. I love her as a sister.

We are currently going through fim episodes. She was a big fan of G1 and is slowly getting used to this animation style 

Oh yeah these are really the ONLY friends I have:lol:

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I never heard someone say I couldn't be friends with girls at this age. Sure, when I was like 14 or 15 it sure is, but when you get 16 you never hear anything about it ever again. :icwudt:

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On 22/12/2017 at 7:29 PM, Azul Maya said:

It really is a stupid statement. It's not the females that say that - it's dumb-ass guys. 

Don't you think that is a little harsh/sexist? "Dumb-ass guys". What a poor over-generalisation.

I'll have you know, I'm a "Dumb-ass guy" thanks, and we aren't born monsters. In fact, I've had more negative experiences with women than I have with men. And I can go on and on about how "dumb-ass women" are cruel, catty, back-stabby, emotionally manipulative, etc... and I'll admit, for a very long time that left me severely sexist. But I won't. I've grown past that. Honestly you just have to realise that both genders can be equally awful individuals with ulterior motives. Basically any and everyone can/does suck.

For clarification, if needed, I'm a homosexual male.

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A male and female CAN be friends, but one of them will always want more over time. It's not really predictable. It's the same case with any sexuality.

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I've questioned myself many times over the this: "Do I believe friendship between male-female is possible?"

Sometimes, I think it isn't, but then I immediately think the opposite...

In my current situation, I've got plenty of male friends, but I also have some female ones, so I guess, in the end, that friendship amongst opposite sex IS possible! The thing is, I'm not really intimate with none of them, and I have to be honest: this thing actually bothers me. Thing is, whenever I feel like I could push over a little more, I immediately feel I'm starting to have a crush on the one, so I need to back up a little bit, mostly because I know it is basically only sexual attraction, without any real sentiment

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On 12/22/2017 at 4:12 PM, Creepermin3 said:

This is a bit of a pet peeve of mine but come on 2 of my best friends are female, and we have a lot of fun together when we all hang out either just us or with my other friend, the only reason people think this is because they think that all males are just sex obsessed animals who wanna have sex with every women they see, uuuuhhh that just gets me so mad, what do you guys think?

They can, assuming that guys have a lot in common with the girls, otherwise they might as well live on different planets.

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