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I'm starting to not see what's so special about being romantically in love with someone anymore. I mean about more than half of romantic couples do end in either a break up or divorce, while most platonic bestfriends remain friends until death. 

So I'm starting to think that having a platonic bestfriend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. 

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My friendship with my best friend just ended because my ex. I suggest you find a nice "special" friend to enjoy your time with together and probably in the future, after you know it's perfect and meant to be, continue with the relationship to the next level. Don't make the same mistake I made, and remember that its better to take all the time in the world with your relationships   .:blush::adorkable:

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I guess...it can fade--last forever or whatever. There's a linchpin in every relationship and it's only as good as the foundation itself. It is special - even if it's your 10th time. 

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I didn't used to think so, but now, honestly, I say it's everything it's cracked up to be! :wub: Though I would say so in the positive and negative senses of that.

I'll just say that the past three months have been the best of my life, but I know how it feels to break up with a crazy man who was obsessed with me to the point that he got utterly upset by the fact I was breaking up with him, even though he clearly had no interest in the relationship anyways, for sexual reasons.

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It's better to have loved and to have lost, than not to have loved at all. Every relationship has its ups and downs. It's up to you to decide whether or not if the downsides are being outshined by the upsides.

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Nope just ended up hurting in the end 

I stopped caring about being in a relationship because when you care about someone you care when they’re gone

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Being romantically in love with someone is the greatest gift I can imagine. It elevates life to something deeper and more meaningful than I can ever describe. Before I was married I thought it would be nice to be involved on such a level but never really realized just how special it actually is. There are many happy marriages, and to look at the demographics for how many of them fail is not an accurate depiction of the situation. The majority of the 50% or so of failed marriages consists of a much smaller group of people getting married over and over rather than literally half of all married people throwing in the towel. It looks like a lot of bad marriages when in fact it’s just a few bad apples skewing the overall perception of the institution. I’m not saying all marriages are perfect, but most married people I know are happy and committed to them.  

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Romantic relationships often break up because the platonic aspect of romanticism doesn't reflect the human reality of life. So, I would consider a complete relationship more valuable than one merely platonic. But, it requires maturity to see past the illusion, psychologically, emotionally and physically.

It is important to differentiate what is platonic, from what is real. To be faced in a relationship with another human being encompasses more aspects than merely the ideological, which is more difficult, yet also more fructful, since you will faced with yourself. While In the ideal, often people see what they want to see. And you can see how the world is affected by the conflicts of ideology.

I would suggest to engage in a human level with reality.

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Speaking from the little experience I have, being romantically involved does have it's share of perks, in addition to making you feel really great and special overall. As with everything there are downsides. Whether pursuing it is worth it, is up to the person to decide. As for myself, I'd rather stick to being by myself, though that has it's own set of pros and cons.

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When you meet someone really special it can be amazing. Even when it doesn't last forever, which, that relationship most certainly did not, sadly. All types of relationships (including friendships) come and go. That doesn't mean that they weren't worth it in the end.

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14 hours ago, DusksuD said:

I didn't used to think so, but now, honestly, I say it's everything it's cracked up to be! :wub: Though I would say so in the positive and negative senses of that.

I'll just say that the past three months have been the best of my life, but I know how it feels to break up with a crazy man who was obsessed with me to the point that he got utterly upset by the fact I was breaking up with him, even though he clearly had no interest in the relationship anyways, for sexual reasons.

 

12 hours ago, Dreambiscuit said:

Being romantically in love with someone is the greatest gift I can imagine. It elevates life to something deeper and more meaningful than I can ever describe. Before I was married I thought it would be nice to be involved on such a level but never really realized just how special it actually is. There are many happy marriages, and to look at the demographics for how many of them fail is not an accurate depiction of the situation. The majority of the 50% or so of failed marriages consists of a much smaller group of people getting married over and over rather than literally half of all married people throwing in the towel. It looks like a lot of bad marriages when in fact it’s just a few bad apples skewing the overall perception of the institution. I’m not saying all marriages are perfect, but most married people I know are happy and committed to them.  

How is being romantically in love with someone such a great special thing when it now seems people have a stronger bond with their platonic bestfriends than they do with their romantic partner or spouse? 

 

Just go visit some of these websites, and you will know what I mean.

This website listed why having a platonic bestfriend is better than having a romantic partner or spouse is:

https://www.elitedaily.com/p/your-best-friend-is-better-than-a-boyfriend-girlfriend-heres-why-9047913

These websites listed why having a platonic guy bestfriend is better than having a boyfriend is for girls:

https://www.elitedaily.com/life/culture/14-reasons-guy-best-friend-better-boyfriend/974585

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/10-reasons-why-having-guy-best-friend-better-than-boyfriend

http://blog.relationshipsurgery.com/14-reasons-having-a-guy-best-friend-is-better-than-having-a-boyfriend/

https://onedio.co/content/14-brutal-facts-explaining-why-a-guy-best-friend-is-better-than-a-boyfriend-11710

These websites listed why having a platonic girl bestfriend is better than having a girlfriend is for guys:

https://www.relrules.com/reasons-best-friend-girlfriend-is-the-best-gf/

https://www.elitedaily.com/life/best-friend-is-better-than-gf/1104624

http://diceview.com/7-reasons-why-having-a-girl-best-friend-is-better-than-a-girlfriend/

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/girl-friend-better-than-girlfriend

 

So platonic bestfriends are a lot better than romantic partners and spouses are.

Romantic partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them.

With your platonic bestfriend, you're going to make things work, because their are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.

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Some people who are inexperienced with relationships are not aware that they require sacrifices and patience. There will be disagreements and the occasional big fight. Being in a romantic relationship is work. However, I feel like the good times outweigh the bad ones. Alas, there are relationships that just don’t work out and the bad times do outweigh the good times.

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Being actually in love with someone is beyond words. Yes, it is as good as you hear it is. That's not to say you won't break up, you probably will... but even so, for most people it's a very important thing to have had at some time.

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