Is it okay for guys to ask girls out?

[Fluttershutter 3,396]

On 2/17/2020 at 1:51 PM, Angel_Dust said:

What is this thread here for? Just to take the same question somebody else asked and flip it on its head

Yeah, that's all it was. Not anything serious.

[The Historian 518]

Considering it's the expected standard, yeah. Anyone who says otherwise is a shrieking harpy that I'd rather not be around.

[TheRockARockster 55,297]

Of course it is.

Is there a rule against this too?

[Fluttershyfan94 5,749]

I prefer girls asking me out, this thread, I believe is really the fact that a guy has to put themselves on the line. Whereas the girl does not, it is questioning us whether it is fair. To answer, is it yes but should you is the real question. Reason girls want guys to take the leap per say, is to show initiative to be dominant traits that girls prefer a dominant confident strong real man. Society gives us this preconceived notion that men should be dominant and women should be submissive, in a sense, this relationship dynamic is what most people simply prefer. Yet I personally believe that women should be the ones asking men out. Ladies let's be honest here, for every guy that gives you interest there are hundred others meanwhile for men every girl that gives you interest is one of a dozen. In other words, women have a lot of options to choose from in regards to a potential mate while men have often rather had to try their luck with a woman they like. 

While I would encourage anyone to ask girls out, I would encourage girls to do the same. 

[Technoblade 117]

why wouldn't it be‫ ‫

Edited May 24, 2020 by HomuraAkemi

[Starry Moon 51]

A ton of people believe that men should be the one to ask, so I'd say so. Plus there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I personal like it. I think it's unusual if a girl does, but I also think that's even cuter. I've very rarely ever had anyone ask me out, I always do the asking, so lmao.

[TotallyNotNyx 15,572]

On 2/12/2020 at 12:19 PM, Fluttershutter said:

Never done it but I'd probably get pepper sprayed. 

Ha ha they'll probs give me a stare as if I'm a slug or something 

[Splashee 28,602]

I would say it is the most common way to ask a girl out on a date.

[CheeryFox 23,827]

Wouldn't have it any other way...

[DubWolf 20,039]

Not only is it ok, but that’s the expectation...

[CypherHoof 26,483]

Always seemed odd to me that in anime it is always the girls "confessing" to boys, when in real life, its boys asking girls out and frequently being turned down...

[Moondrop 💧 745]

Always depends on the context, the personal relation and the person themselves. 

But in a very general way: yes. 

And it's OK for a girl to ask a guy out. 

And for a girl to ask a girl or guy a guy or whoever whoever actually. 

[CypherHoof 26,483]

Just now, DripMoondrop said:

Always depends on the context, the personal relation and the person themselves. 

But in a very general way: yes. 

And it's OK for a girl to ask a guy out. 

And for a girl to ask a girl or guy a guy or whoever whoever actually. 

Sure. And there is always going to be the risk of rejection, but there shouldn't be a stigma associated with the act due to the giving or receiving gender.

[Fluttershutter 3,396]

You guys do know this thread's not for serious answers, right?

[CypherHoof 26,483]

7 minutes ago, Fluttershutter said:

You guys do know this thread's not for serious answers, right?

Sometimes when you ask joke question, you get a serious answer. I find the best solution there is to nod, smile and back away slowly

Edited June 18, 2020 by CypherHoof 🐎

[dead account 2,717]

As someone who is not interested in romantic relationships, I'm glad to be a male. Since it's (in general...) expected of the male to make the first turn, it saves a lot of trouble. Not that I'm of interest anyway. I got double lucky.

@Fluttershutter Sorry, I take most things seriously.

@CypherHoof 🐎 Can I give you hug before you do?

[CypherHoof 26,483]

1 minute ago, Cloudy Heart said:

Can I give you hug before you do? 

Can if you want, I promise not to interpret it as an attempt to ask me out

[Splashee 28,602]

Maybe depends on the question, rather than just asking a girl. If it is a creepy question, it is not okay

[The Kaeya Simp 13,997]

I mean I prefer the guy to ask me out so...

[Jesse Terrence 2,971]

Is the standard, so people most likely would say "yes" and "it's what is expected".

However, I think that, while is ok if a dude asks a girl out, it's wrong to pass the ball to the guys only. Is the cause of the beggar/chooser phenomena in human relationships.

Women are choosers, and men are beggars in this situation, since the only part that really takes a decision is the female part. It harms all parties at the end, since dudes' self steem gets heavily damaged from rejection and girls can't go ask guys out because society deems it wrong, making those girls get their self steem damaged at the concept of "if no one asks me out, I'm undesirable".

Most introvert guys won't gather the guts to get out of their shell to ask a girl out too, and since it is expected from them to be the ones taking the first step, they are trapped in a little hell of their own.

I have asked girls out, and I've had both success and failures, but honestly, it really opens a wound when you have anxiety issues, and most likely no relationship lasts long enough, so even when you succeed, there's a bittersweet flavor on it after things end.

Edited June 18, 2020 by Jesse Terrence

[Thuja 3,667]

Nah, I'd rather their mom asked me out for them.

[Stone Cold Steve Jobs 22,508]

It’s okay for anyone to ask anyone out. Men just do it more often. Nothing wrong with that.

[Evil Pink One 13,556]

Yes you should... especially when she went inside the men's room....  silly goose

[Stardust 647]

I saw that there were no votes for no so I changed my vote cuz i'm gonna represent the silent ones and play devils advocate :0

[TotallyNotNyx 15,572]

It's okay lmao for boys to ask out girls and it's okay for girls to ask boys out. That's how it should be