A Relationship That You Messed Up

[The Wife of Law 18,772]

Have you ever been in a relationship (romantic or not) that you were the reason for it ending?

I was in a relationship with someone in college. We were together for a long while but I was ultimately the reason why we ended. It was entirely my fault. While I am over it all, a part of me still feels bad for how I treated them.

[Splashee 28,471]

I have been in a relationship, but I was on the other end of it. It was difficult to get back up again after being throw out.

 

After that, I make sure to never get into a relationship that is destined to end.

[Dark Horse 12,583]

I had an early teen relationship that ended more or less because I wasn't ready for it. I think we both allowed our emotions to run away on us, fairly typical for our age at the time, but in the end I kept worrying about long-term commitment and thinking that I was diving headfirst into something that would change my life forever. So I kept trying to stall things and eventually we just knew that it was never going to work out.

Even though it was a long time ago, I've never been in a serious relationship since. I guess it's something that I want to feel is the right time for.

[Lucky Bells 34,677]

I’ve screwed up a lot of relationships (friendship ones) because I’m so detached from them, if not because of that then the fact I was too mentally unstable for the other person to handle, hence why I don’t let myself get attached to people because I’m scared they’ll see who I really am and leave me because of it. I’ve only screwed up one romantic relationship, and I was 16 at the time and not all wanting to settle into a committed relationship, but...he was.
 

Now, I’ve been in a committed relationship for over 2 years, but I wonder how sometimes. I guess I’m just thankful I found someone who has put up with me for so long.  

[TBD 16,734]

Never messed up in any relationship (friends wise). We just went on our separate ways and most likely they forget that I ever existed. 

[Here No Longer 5,264]

If I'm being honest I don't know how people tolerate me as much as they do. Maybe I'm better at platonic and romantic relationships than I give myself credit for? One I know I messed up, for sure, was a relationship I had with one of my exes. I messed up by not telling HER I wasn't romantically into girls, trans or not. I also almost messed up a potential friendship by laughing at the person I would be friends with when they had a heart attack. No, I didn't think it was funny and it DEFINITELY wasn't, I just sometimes have an issue with laughing in certain tense and stressful situations.

 

I mean I've definitely been on the opposite side of this before as well... One particular instance of that involved a "friend" in middle school that would constantly switch between being a pretty good friend and being a bully to me. I suspect it had to do with maintaining an image with other people he was friends with.

Edited June 17, 2020 by Furret ᐡ꒳ᐡ

[Envy 5,758]

I really don't know what happened in the end. I never got closure. But I do know that back a few years before she disappeared from my life, I made some mistakes. When it dawned on me, I felt absolutely terrible. But by the time I realized, it was too late. I wanted to make the apology in person, but she had already made enough excuses to not see me in person at that point, so it was never to be.

[Magic Note 2,693]

I've messed up on friendships that I blame myself for them ending prematurely. I'm just not good with friendships and it's my fault why. I'm hoping to get better at them.

Edited June 18, 2020 by Magic Note
Clarifying

[Jesse Terrence 2,392]

Way too many in way too many levels.

In most circumstances, there's no way I can appologize, even if I found the courage to do so.

In other cases, is better that way. People is doing better off without me. It would be selfish to reach out to them after they went their way for the better. I just have to accept it.

[Dreambiscuit 6,852]

I was very close friends with someone here on the forums a while back and I may have inadvertently given the impression things were more romantic than intended. I have a playful, sometimes flirtatious personality at times, without meaning anything by it, and should have been more disciplined. When I mentioned I was getting married I think it hit him kind of hard and it made me appear heartless and slutty; which I think maybe I was in retrospect. I tried to find subtle ways of breaking it to him earlier but whenever I tried, something else deviated me away from it. He left the forums shortly after, having also experienced some serious family tragedy around the same time, and I regret that I added to his misery. I was hurt once in a similar way a long time ago and here I was paying forward the same pain on someone else. It makes me feel ashamed and angry at myself.