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yeah don't go all what is love (the music)

 

what is love in your point of view? , how do you see it?,how do you feel it?

 

share your opinion 

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Is love a virtue? It sounds (and always will feel, to me) like it definitely should be. I love to... well... love! Seeing people smile, making other people genuinely happy is more satisfying than anything else in the world for me, personally. But, after a long time of contemplation I just don't know if it is really... "good"... (I guess it depends how you define good? I tend to define good as being helping sentient life, as a whole, progress, but even that's not well defined)

 

Don't get the statement wrong. D: I'm not saying the converse: "hate is virtuous" or anything like that, but simply asking whether or not an abundance of love really helps people. Of course, on the surface the answer seems simple - yes! If I care for those around me, then they will care for me as well, and we will all end up better off helping each other.

 

But, to quote Sherlock, "hate is a paralytic. Love is a much more vicious motivator." I've gotten to thinking "in the real world, don't the worst of the villains see themselves as the greatest of heroes? Don't terrorists act out of moral conviction?" It doesn't make them right of course, but it seems to indicate that love, moral conviction, a duty to acting in the interest of the greater good, a sense of honor - whatever you want to call it - is not what separates the baddies from the goodies.

 

Subjective opinion below, D: not necessarily objective at all!!:

Personally, I tend to think that rational analysis of the world is the best way that we can come to an understanding of what benefits us living beings the most, and thus is the most virtuous of endeavors. Still, I think that it is rational to let love, friendship, kindness, tolerance, etc. guide me to the best of my abilities in my day-to-day life when interacting with friends/family, while letting emotion stay out of the picture when considering questions of greater, more far-flung impact (political/economic policy, how society could live on a macroscopic scale), since social animals like us only evolved emotions to guide us in personal, small-scale interactions in the first place.

 

I dunno, does this make me cold? Vulcan? Bad? XD

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yay, here we go with philosophical topic which i enjoy to discuss, mainly because usually, in suck conversations, everypony express their opinions without negating personal views of other people.

 

i agree with you that rational approach to life is practical and, lets say, safe, like i do.

but sometimes i find myself wishing to be a little more out of control, little more pinkiepie-ish (read: random)

 

however back to the point, i had a gf once, and she meant a lot to me, loved her with all my heart. after the relationship ended i felt like i will never be happy again. 

and now im over her, single. now i notice that i dont miss being loved. i want to love, to actually be in love with someone, to have somepony to care about, because thats best that can happen in life- being devoted to someone, this gives your life a purpouse.

 

before mlp in my life i was running on anger, everything was irritating and driving me insane, i kept calm, but on the inside i was seeing red. and now with ponies, my position in life hasnt changed, but my approach did. for me this is enough to say that love is a virtue.

 

as to you, Canibroni, i dont think we are cold, i think we belong to this group of people who think slightly different :)

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"All's fair in love and war". In other words, when two people love each other they will do ANYTHING to stay together. No matter how stupid, irational or violent it is.

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In my opinion, love is a verb. It is something you actively do, more so than just something you feel. It's something you wake up every morning and decide to be. Love isn't just about what you get out of it. If love only has something to do with what you get out of it, you're doing it wrong. Love isn't just about the happy ending, as so many seem to believe. It's more about the awesome struggle to earn that happy ending.


Love isn't a word I throw around, or at least try not to, and do not like making my characters throw it around either. 


Are you best, or at least good friends?


Are you willing to be kind, when the make you mad?


Are you willing to take care of them, even when you get absolutely nothing out of it?


Are you willing to communicate with them openly, and honestly?


Are you capable of remaining loyal to them throughout?


Are you able to apologize to them when you mess up on one of the first five?


 


When, if at any point, you can say the answer to all those questions is 'yes', then congratulations. You are in love.


Love has nothing to do with those warm fuzzy feelings, because they are not grounded in reality. Just what you get out of it.


A lot of this, if not most of it, was inspired by a guy I watch on YouTube on occasion, and I found I agreed with his opinions enough to make them my own.


This is my opinion on the matter of love and what it is, and by extension, 95% of my many original character's view on things.

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In my opinion, love is a verb. It is something you actively do, more so than just something you feel. It's something you wake up every morning and decide to be. Love isn't just about what you get out of it. If love only has something to do with what you get out of it, you're doing it wrong. Love isn't just about the happy ending, as so many seem to believe. It's more about the awesome struggle to earn that happy ending.

Love isn't a word I throw around, or at least try not to, and do not like making my characters throw it around either. 

Are you best, or at least good friends?

Are you willing to be kind, when the make you mad?

Are you willing to take care of them, even when you get absolutely nothing out of it?

Are you willing to communicate with them openly, and honestly?

Are you capable of remaining loyal to them throughout?

Are you able to apologize to them when you mess up on one of the first five?

 

When, if at any point, you can say the answer to all those questions is 'yes', then congratulations. You are in love.

Love has nothing to do with those warm fuzzy feelings, because they are not grounded in reality. Just what you get out of it.

A lot of this, if not most of it, was inspired by a guy I watch on YouTube on occasion, and I found I agreed with his opinions enough to make them my own.

This is my opinion on the matter of love and what it is, and by extension, 95% of my many original character's view on things.

 

 

I honestly could not have worded it better myself.... that perfectly explains what love really is. Not just some loosely thrown around word.

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My idea of love is showing commitment to a relationship and staying true to your partner that you will spend the rest of your life with. That's my opinion on love, and both you and your partner must not cheat on each other.

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I could be one of those people who says it doesn't exist and all this "Blah blah blah" hormones and chemicals stuff. We're more complex than that, animals of nature have that we don't. We have a drive inside us no other species possess, meaning we can examine love in such a nice and different way.

 

Love is a real thing we experience, it is a great thing. It's something that gives people purpose to do the things they do, love doesn't have to be romantic or anything. It can be a very strong bond between two people. Love is important to our lives, perhaps one of the most important things. When someone lacks any sort of love or love for something in there life you typically get hollow and sad people. 

 

I know because I use to be one of them.

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To me, "love" is that mushy feeling you get when you're with someone special.

 

You're suddenly blushing and you feel nervous or anxious around them. You try to be more perfect around them than anyone else in hope of impressing them.

 

But, there is a bad side to love...not having that special someone love you back, or having someone use you for your own personal gain. You may feel defeated, heartbroken after finding these things out. But, you remember that there's still a chance for love, and you get right back up and take on the World once again, and maybe this time...you'll win.

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Are you best, or at least good friends?

Are you willing to be kind, when the make you mad?

Are you willing to take care of them, even when you get absolutely nothing out of it?

Are you willing to communicate with them openly, and honestly?

Are you capable of remaining loyal to them throughout?

Are you able to apologize to them when you mess up on one of the first five?

Your Harmony references are not lost here - but I think that laughter is missing, and it really shouldn't be. Even if it's not about humour, I think love is also about... sort of, being happy when the other is happy - giving a smile and getting a smile, and just everything else in that song.

 

I've always thought that it's weird when people really take to heart new life lessons from Friendship is Magic - but I think more people need to be checking that they have plenty of each of these elements in their life. For any and all relationships! Love is just when you find that you don't have to remind yourself to do each of those things.

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Are you best, or at least good friends? Are you willing to be kind, when the make you mad? Are you willing to take care of them, even when you get absolutely nothing out of it? Are you willing to communicate with them openly, and honestly? Are you capable of remaining loyal to them throughout? Are you able to apologize to them when you mess up on one of the first five?   When, if at any point, you can say the answer to all those questions is 'yes', then congratulations. You are in love.

 

Dude, you're right on about all you have explained on the concept of love. That's pretty much true love in a nutshell and since my answer to all those six questions is yes...

 

...then I guess I am in love.  :o

 

Oh the feels.... :(

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Love doesn't exist, imo. It is a crazy ideal people yearn for, and something people use to describe their relationships to feel like they've achieved that ideal when really they have not.

 

I could easily be wrong though.

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I think love or at least in its truest form is when someone is willing to give of themselves, it dosen't have to be something huge but it does have to come from the heart.

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Hmm...

 

Love is selfless.

 

Love shouldn't be forced.

 

Love can be a mutual feeling.

 

Contrary to popular belief, the opposite of Love is Apathy, not hate.

 

That's all I can think of for now.  :huh: 

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What is Love? A word that is thrown around and used carelessly. 

 

Some people know Love, some people don't. From my past experience with the women I have dated, this is my idea of love.

 

Love is:

The warm feeling you get inside you when you see that special person you really care about.

Forgiving that special person even after a big argument.

Working things out with that special someone without just taking the "easy" way out.

Always being there for that person no matter what the situation may be.

 

^That's just scratching the surface.

 

There are also other forms of Love, like Love for family, friend ects. That's another story.

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In my opinion, love is a verb. It is something you actively do, more so than just something you feel. It's something you wake up every morning and decide to be. Love isn't just about what you get out of it. If love only has something to do with what you get out of it, you're doing it wrong. Love isn't just about the happy ending, as so many seem to believe. It's more about the awesome struggle to earn that happy ending.

Love isn't a word I throw around, or at least try not to, and do not like making my characters throw it around either. 

Are you best, or at least good friends?

Are you willing to be kind, when the make you mad?

Are you willing to take care of them, even when you get absolutely nothing out of it?

Are you willing to communicate with them openly, and honestly?

Are you capable of remaining loyal to them throughout?

Are you able to apologize to them when you mess up on one of the first five?

 

When, if at any point, you can say the answer to all those questions is 'yes', then congratulations. You are in love.

Love has nothing to do with those warm fuzzy feelings, because they are not grounded in reality. Just what you get out of it.

A lot of this, if not most of it, was inspired by a guy I watch on YouTube on occasion, and I found I agreed with his opinions enough to make them my own.

This is my opinion on the matter of love and what it is, and by extension, 95% of my many original character's view on things.

 

 

This is a really beautiful sentiment, and I couldn't agree more! Love isn't something that should be thrown around as much as it is today. Thank you for writing this.

 

But from one writer to another, I want to tell you something - if you continue to make characters who always share your ideals and your morals, they become really...boring. And flat. I try to give my characters a lot of spice and variety, and sometimes I'm not comfortable personally with what they do or how they feel towards people. For instance, just in my MLP OCs I have a sexist flirt machine, a prideful racist snob, a disobedient rebellious daughter from an abusive background, and an emotionally battered and withdrawn zebra. In my fanfiction characters, I've got a sassy country farm girl, a suicidal teenage whiny brat, an airhead, and a downright homicidal maniac. 

 

It makes it more fun. ^^ And I know I'm wildly off topic, I just thought I'd point that out. You'll really grow and develop as a writer if you use your characters to push you out of your comfort zone. :3

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Well i think you explained love pretty well.

 

That said, i will say that I do throw around love to some extent sometimes more then I maybe should.

 

Its just, i feel like some friends, especially ones online, deserve to be more then just liked. 

 

I think a certain form of love or something is necessary for good lasting friendships.

 

But again, it may be that i throw the word around slightly to much sometimes, so maybe i'm just confused idk.

 

But you explain love pretty well. I just think love can be felt for many things, such as a friend, or a significant other, or a family member, or even for a hobby or something like that.

 

So i think there are different kinds of love kinda.

 

However they all are basically a deep caring feel you have for someone, or something, contrary to popular belief love isn't perfect, and you sometimes don't like what you love, but the thing that makes it love is that you still hang on and deep down still care about that someone or something.

 

I think that one sorta fits the majority of situations of love, and sorta describes it.

 

But love is a hard thing to describe. However i believe in it, i just believe that alot of people seem to give up on love. You are going to have to fight for love, its not an easy thing, but the struggle is worth it, in the end.

 

You described it quite well though OP.

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I think love is when you actually stop caring about what you do and how you act around a person and you just openly be yourself, even if flaws come to the surface.

Being honest and open is one thing but I think that if you're willing to take the blame or make sacrifices even if you don't need too, just to make someone happy, that also shows love.

 

I can't really put my finger on whether it's something you do or somethhing you feel but it's possibly both. I think you do it because you feel it.

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The simple dream to see someone lead a happy, fulfilled life, even at the cost of your own.

You presence in their life is very optional, more like a side-dish. If you do love them, you will let them go.

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Love has nothing to do with those warm fuzzy feelings, because they are not grounded in reality.

 

Even though I have to say that love is also a "process", something you have to... kinda "work" for, something that is what it is by what you "gain" from it by walking that path and giving into it, kinda unconditional and conditional at the same time, like you explained it, I have to say that I disagree with you in that point. If those feelings would have nothing to do with love, it would be a more cold thing than I experienced it to be. And they are grounded in reality. Only because you didn't do anything for them, or only because you can't absolutely explain them, doesn't mean they are less relevant or real. Love is even more complex than what you described it to be, in my opinion. And don't forget that there are different kinds of love. Most of them might have your definition in common, but not all of them to the same extent.

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My opinion of love is probably going to sound a little different compared to the OP's opinion as well as some of the others:

 

I'm not a believer of " love at first sight " because I believe love comes through getting to know someone personally before jumping to the love aspect. Being Pansexual, I look further into someone in terms of their personality and character to determine if I fall in love with them. I also see that as somewhat of a philosophy of mine for which I follow.

 

I believe love is about openness, trust, and above all, communication, this is goes for all people I know. I want to show my compassion to my friends as much as I would to very close friends of mine. Offering comfort, protection, support, and other ways to make someone feel safe and happy is something I take to heart.

 

I like to associate myself as a " relationship anarchist " (or perhaps polyamorous) because I don't believe that my heart is limited to just one person. I believe each relationship I have with someone is unique and personal between us two. I understand this is probably contrary to what others may think, but I respect what people's chose to either be mono or poly, and however they wish to run their love life.

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In my opinion, love is a verb. It is something you actively do, more so than just something you feel. It's something you wake up every morning and decide to be. Love isn't just about what you get out of it. If love only has something to do with what you get out of it, you're doing it wrong. Love isn't just about the happy ending, as so many seem to believe. It's more about the awesome struggle to earn that happy ending.

Love isn't a word I throw around, or at least try not to, and do not like making my characters throw it around either. 

Are you best, or at least good friends?

Are you willing to be kind, when the make you mad?

Are you willing to take care of them, even when you get absolutely nothing out of it?

Are you willing to communicate with them openly, and honestly?

Are you capable of remaining loyal to them throughout?

Are you able to apologize to them when you mess up on one of the first five?

 

When, if at any point, you can say the answer to all those questions is 'yes', then congratulations. You are in love.

Love has nothing to do with those warm fuzzy feelings, because they are not grounded in reality. Just what you get out of it.

A lot of this, if not most of it, was inspired by a guy I watch on YouTube on occasion, and I found I agreed with his opinions enough to make them my own.

This is my opinion on the matter of love and what it is, and by extension, 95% of my many original character's view on things.

 

 

I think this is possibly the best explanation of love that I've ever heard from someone tbh. I think what this also hints at is the aspect of compromise which is something a lot of couples don't really wrap their heads around. Primarily because of the idea that love is about getting something out of a relationship, and so either don't want to despite knowing what compromise is or the idea of compromise doesn't even cross one's mind as a result.

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To me what I think love is, is dedication and being equal with one another, and moving together as one.

Both sides give and both sides take. One side shouldn't dominate the other.

 

From a relation perspective, you shouldn't act any different. you don't need to feel obligated to send 394863 love letters, you send those 394863 when you want to.

Also Love is faith, you must be faithful you your significant other, no side dishes.

 

I sound like a cheesy date advice giver :P

anyways, that's my perspective of love

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My idea of love is when two people feel strongly for each other and stick together. Their feelings for each other remain strong no matter what obstacles they face in life. As long as they have each other, that's all that matters. They can overcome any hurdle together. They are committed and would never betray their partner. Sticking with them even in death.

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Love is Difrent for everyone.  Some its the warm feelings they have when they are near that special some one. Others Its Like and unreachable Ideal.  Some don't belive in it at all.    For me being married Love feels like it changes meaning every day.  Form the common "happy to be together" to the extreems test of paitence, that will fail from time to time.  But must always be willing to forgive, just don't expect her to forget, lol.   

 

Last night Love was staying up till 3am helping her back an angelfood cake for the county fair (2nd atempt), even tho I have work,  right now,  ok gotta go.

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