kelseymarie805

Ok so, the title may or may not make much sense lol sorry if it doesn't but, I can't help but wonder, what do you consider your standards/levels of friendship? And by that, I mean like, when do you consider someone to be a close friend of yours (or even a "friend" for that matter)? For me, it's kind of hard to say because recently, I've definitely re-evaluated what I consider to be a close friend/best friend/friend. Mainly, this is because of a friend of mine who, has these "levels" I guess you could call them of friendship like for instance "acquaintance" "light/lite friends" "friends" "close friends" "best friends" that type of thing (I'd like to point out, I was re-thinking more and more about friendship before that but, this really made me consider even more so). Honestly though before the last 3-5 years or so, I hadn't had many friends that were really good friends, that were very experienced in friendship and such so, my standards were pretty low, as you probably guessed. So, at that point, it didn't take much at all for me to consider someone my "close" or even "best" friend, right now, at this point though, it takes much more and, well, it's a little harder for me to measure. (not that you can measure friendship). I'd like to point out that I don't exactly use these levels of friendship that much but, since my friend mentioned them to me, it's made me rethink that type of thing a lot more (as I said before, I really hope I'm not boring you right now lol). And now, in the past hour or so, or however long it's been, I was reading Lumi's profile, and noticed that he does have a higher standard of friendships, not that this is a bad thing, it's actually good, and I think that in a way it's kind of just common sense (well idk) so now, I just can't help but wonder, what all do you consider to be standards, and when do you know when you consider someone to be close friends? I know that for me, I want it to be mutual, I want them to consider us to be close as well, where before that's not something I thought too much about. I want it to be with both of us thinking about each other (and ourselves too of course, but not too much), considering boundaries, needs, etc, being there for each other (I'm not exactly good at being there for people but, I do try!), that type of thing. In the past it's kind of been more me (or the other person) thinking about myself, being selfish, not thinking as much about the other person and depending far too much on them, which I regret, and I really don't like myself but whatever, moving on from that lol, feel free to answer the question asked in my last paragraph, sorry this is so long but, if you've made it to this point, thanks so much for reading all my rambling on lol! (sorry if this isn't exactly clear what I'm talking about or w/e, I hope that it is, as I tried to make it as clear as possible but I was totally sure!)