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  1. Blackcat
    I've got a bone to pick with the way romantic relations are handled. At least in the U.S. (can't really speak for elsewhere)
    Alright, first off, ladies, i'm equal opportunity kind of person, but it goes both ways. If I go out of my way every month or so to get you a big surprise goodie bag of chocolates and flowers, or maybe see you struggling with finals or work and show up with ice cream, I mean well, and I certainly don't demand anything in return, but that being said, it would be nice. I'm really sick of being expected to do all the doting. Men like surprises too, and believe it or not, we'll probably cherish them if you send us flowers.
     
    Don't think surprise sex narrows that gap, because while sex is nice, it brings me to my next can of worms.
     
    SEX is OVERRATED! Yes, men like sex, but so does everyone and their grandmother. Men are not fundamentally hornier than women, and in fact are quite often much more easily sexually exhausted. Quite often a man might actually not be in the mood, and guess what, he probably still likes you and thinks you're beautiful.
     
    I've had my lady friend start crying on me because she thought she couldn't satisfy me sexually. That was not fun for me! it was incredibly distressing and awkward.
     
    Speaking of distressing and awkward, I'd like to address texting. Texting has ruined relations. My god, I've never hated my phone more.
     
    Sure it's all fine and dandy for planning dates, sending sweet nothings, and general chit chat. But then, I leave my phone in my car accedentally overnight, only to find it next morning with an increasingly distressed string of texts. Sometimes you can practically see the 5 stages of grief color through the texts, which range from angry, guilt trippy lashing to what amounts to the text version of begging sobs.
     
    Has anyone reading this heard of the "complex question" logical fallacy? Even if you haven't, i'm sure you've heard it. It's when someone asks you a question with no good answer. Where no matter what you say, you're in the wrong. Everyone is probably guilty of this at some point in their lives, but it's just plain mean in relationships. Even when i'm mad at my partner I don't toss that garbage on them.
     
    My last little pet peeve....probably wont bother some people at all, but it drives me up a wall. I put a lot of value in the words "I love you" If I've said this to you, you're either in my family, my dog, or I genuinely believe that I'm in love with you. If I have said I love you once, even once, I mean it. So when my partner asks something like "How come you never say I love you?" When...I have said I love you, I just said it three days ago, I about blow a fuse. Love is not a word I pop with the regularity of the letter E. I like to say it when there's a passionate moment, or when I feel it's really going to add something. Saying I love you every single day, after every meeting, and at every greeting belittles the value of the word in my eyes. It makes it feel less special, and quite honestly I never use that word when I'm single, so here i'm going from never ever saying it to trying to say it several times every day. Of course i'm not going to remember to say it at every second, it's not natural and I don't like it.
     
    Anywhoo....thats it for that rant. Thanks for reading if you cared to.
  2. Blackcat
    http://thanatologypony.tumblr.com/
     
     
    My main reason behind doing this is to give me some incentive to get better at art. I'm terrible at making myself just sit down and draw, but when I have a reason it's a little easier.
     
    Obviously i'm no king of the pen. I'm still extremely new to tablets and am trying out different programs and methods all the time, so I can't promise a consistent art style. I can however promise to answer any questions about the subject of Thanatology with a little bit of a pony spin. If that sounds like any sort of interesting to anyone on this forum. Please drop a question at me.
  3. Blackcat
    It's just spilling all over my blogs!!!!!!
     
    Now I don't fancy myself a DJ, but let me throw some tunes atcha!....y'know, if...thats okay with you?
     

     
     
    Now I know Caravan Palace got some renown in the pony fanbase thanks to the PMV of their song Clash, but It'd be a darn shame to discredit some of their other stuff. Any of you pones a fan of scat singing? if, so, maybe try this on for size.
     

     
    If these tunes are all ringing your bell, then I have one more for you. You'll just have to sit and listen to this one.
     

  4. Blackcat
    Hullo, hullo ponimigos, Blackcat here with a brief video over coping with grief via rituals!
     
    I wanted to go into more detail with this video, but sadly this video is part of a group project, and I had to leave things for my partners to talk about. If you guys want to watch, and have any questions about anything that you feel didn't really get explained much, i'd love to talk about it with you.
     
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhzxHnUe4ug&feature=youtu.be
  5. Blackcat
    I've been having a lot of personal conflict recently on the subject of college. Namely on the fact that I have not been motivated at all. Now, obviously I need to find some way to motivate myself right? well...I've been thinking about it and here's where I'm at right about now.
     
    I genuinely don't care about school right now. I'm not unmotivated because I'm lazy...it's because my ambition isn't there. Now...hear me out on this. It's not that I don't have life goals. I do, very much so. The thing is...my life goals are for when i'm 30, 40. in fact. it's probably inappropriate to call them life goals so much as I should call them, middle to end of life goals. The nice house, Running my own funeral home, getting married, having a kid or 2. These are indeed 'Goals' that I have, that a college degree could certainly expedite.
     
    However, these goals are future goals, They're things I want...but...not right now. Not even close to right now. I'm 19...I don't even want to be thinking about any of that stuff right now, and that fact alone, that I am so distanced from these goals at the present time, means that my ability to push myself in college, my drive, is next to non-existent.
     
    Now dear reader, whoever you are. I would like to make sure it is understood that I have no intention of giving up on school, I merely have come to the conclusion that at present it would be a waste of money to fiddle around full time on something that can't even occupy an eighth of my mind right now. That being said, I intend to take a break for a semester and a summer to attempt to do something that....I think i've always wanted to do, but never felt I could.
     
    I want to go on an adventure. I want to pick a place, preferably someplace outside, the Appalachian Trail maybe? or perhaps the Camina Inca in Peru. I don't know why exactly, but...For some reason, that is the kind of life goal i'm at. A young life goal. I need to just go out and do something. Have my own little independent adventure, at least for now. Until I have myself better sorted.
     
    Thanks for reading if you cared to.
     
    This has been a little blurb about nothing of any importance to you, brought to you by Blackcat.
  6. Blackcat
    Dear world.
     
    I try to take your feelings into consideration when I speak with you. However, I am sadly...just a human, and I do not have the ability to predict your feelings. I can guess, I can infer from your actions, friends, and other potential cues, but can never know 100% how something I say will effect you.
     
    If I say something that you find offensive, please resist the urge to fly off the handle and tear me a new one. Just let me know, hey, that was kind of offensive.
     
    And hey! If I don't know why it's offensive, i'll ask you! it's a great opportunity to explain your viewpoint to me. Even if deep down, I still don't see eye to eye with whatever subject you've brought to light, at least I understand you better and can attempt to maintain peace. I am not an argumentative person, so help me not argue!
     
    That is all for this mini little rant. Good day!
  8. Blackcat
    I came across this passage on the subject of listening, and would very much like to share, for all interested.
     
    "When I ask you to listen to me,
    And you start giving me advice,
    you have not done what I asked,
    When I ask that you listen to me,
    And you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way,
    You are trampling on my feelings,
    When I ask you to listen to me,
    And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,
    You have failed me, strange as that may seem.
    Listen: All that I ask is that you listen,
    Not talk or do--just hear me.
    When you do something for me
    That I need to do for myself,
    You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.
    But when you accept as a simple fact
    That I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational,
    Then I can quit trying to convince you
    And go about the business
    Of understanding what's behind my feelings.
    So, please listen and just hear me
    And, if you want to talk
    Wait a minute for your turn
    And I'll listen to you."
     
    ~St.Louis Post-Dispatch, Sept. 19, 1998, P.D3.
     
    It's important to have our feelings validated. Often times it seems our society forgets this fact. Maybe it's due to the way we live our lives or how the media or our leaders and elders tell us to behave, but it doesn't change the fact that we need this validation.
    Often times there is no better way to do this, than to sit and lend an ear to a dear friend, letting them tell you how they feel uninterrupted.
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