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  1. Ice Princess Silky <3

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    Henlo poniessss! I kept getting asked where I was as of late. Well, I did say I was going on vacation.  
    But then after the traveling around, adventures and vacations... well... I was hit with old projects that I had neglected that have brought back a bright spark of light into my heart.

    Back in 2024 on the day of my forumversary, I made a blog post mentioning how I needed to step down due to some life changes. I got so many messages from forum friends and people wanting me to stay, so I did.  And I do not regret it because a lot of wonderful memories were made and really cool people to chill with. 

    So, I won't be stepping down officially as I had originally announced, don't worry. I will simply be joining the other Admins on being in the background.

    But guys... 
    This right here would get overwhelming lol And it was one of the reasons for why most of the Admins keep to the background - There is always so much going on. Mostly good but sometimes not so good. As a community Admin, I was happy to take the forefront but I was always trying to listen to every person's POV to make sure they felt heard and many were too shy to be in the front of the site (public) I get it. But I have reached a point in my life where I can no longer dedicate this time to trying to help so many people. Plus, I wish to pursue things that help to bring out the best in me. ^~^

    I have since delegated and then watched other groups form while some users volunteered as leaders and were trying to manage so many different people and while initially I had the impulse to jump in and "fix" certain hiccups that would go awry (as things are wont to do when many diverse people are involved) -- I decided to just step back and watch others try to fill in, stumble, grow and learn and I am so proud of everyone who managed to keep going. It can be stressful and overwhelming. But you have to keep going, anyway. 

    Mods are more properly equipped to manage it, anyway.  

     So, I will need you guys to work together and be nice to each other.  
    The villain phase is gone, so do not get mischievous! 

    O! I was also asked about the book club that I so badly wanted to attend -- I will try to post on that thread sometime this week. I really have not had the time for much interactions. And when I do come here it is mainly for working on something, fixing another or adding another something to the place. So, no time for fun, anymore. D: 

    And the forums are supposed to be for fun. 
    I will still come by and pester from time to time. 

    Soooo if it feels like we are moving on -- do no worry -- it does not mean goodbye. And we still think of/remember friends or people we have talked to here. 
  2. Ice Princess Silky <3
    The Art of Graceful Boundaries

    Boundaries are not walls. They are architecture.

    They don’t say: “Stay out.”

    They say:
    “Enter here, through this beautiful door that I have made.” 

    When you choose to respect yourself, you are also inviting the person to respect themselves. Setting boundaries does not make you a bad person, nor is it robbing anyone of "a friendship" when you do so. If anything, you are offering the integrity of your true sentiments and there is no greater gift in a real friendship than to arrive as you really are. Not faking happiness or smiles just to "make someone else happy." 

    Huh. That is interesting to me. Because there is a way to be brave and fake a smile in order to be strong. But it is very evasive. Perhaps when you have a small child who needs to have their childhood and innocence in tact, this kind of behaviour is not only acceptable but very noble since you do not wish to burden a child with adult responsibilities beyond its own mental health capacity. Or if you are in a leadership position and wish not to burden those you lead with excessive responsibilities...
    but now I am severely digressing...

    The point is, while I understand it may seem noble to "fake smile" at someone who is crossing your boundaries and disrespecting you... it is so important to make sure that you honor yourself and honor them by showing them that boundaries matter -- including their own -- and a violation of that is not a healthy thing. You can still be cordial about setting your boundaries. What matters are the actions that do not allow anyone to guilt trip you or harass you into lowering them.

     

    1. Acknowledge the Cost (to yourself)

    Before any interaction, say inwardly:

    “What I am offering came from somewhere—it cost energy, presence, wisdom, effort.”

    You don’t have to declare it aloud right away.
    Just honor it to yourself. This stops the guilt spiral before it begins.

    You matter. Even in this modern era, companies thrive over your attention. Even a brief second on an advertisement grabbing your attention has value. So, when you offer someone your attention, your time, your presence, you are giving them a precious gift that is more valuable than any form of currency out there. Money can be replaced, regenerated or gifted... but you are a mortal being with limited time. You matter. And dedicating yourself to things that allow you to thrive so that those whom you care about and also care about you and grow together in this otherwise deterministic world.

    What you say "yes" to means you say "no" to something else.

    So, if you say "yes" to someone stomping on your boundaries, you are saying no to the concept of them respecting your or anybody else's boundaries.

    You are also telling yourself that no, you do not deserve respect, and that they do not fully deserve your fully, respected form being present.


    2. Use Boundary Language That’s Clear but Noble

    When someone expects something from you that feels draining or dismissive, you can respond with this formula:
    “I care about this, and I want to offer it well. Right now, I need to protect the quality of what I give—so I can keep showing up with integrity.”

    or
    “I’ve poured a lot into what I’ve already shared. I need to replenish a bit before I can give more.”

    or, even simpler:

    “That’s something I give with intention, and I want to make sure it’s received with the same.”
    None of these are arrogant. They are sacred stewardship.

    3. Create Boundary Routines That Don't Require Explanation

    Boundaries don’t always have to be explained.
    Instead, you can create rhythms or practices:

    Only answer certain types of requests during a chosen hour of the day.

    Use phrases like: “Let me consider that and get back to you.” This creates space.

    Mark your offerings with ritual or structure—so people recognize their weight.

    For example, if you give advice or creative work, you can say:

    “I share these in moments of clarity and calm. If I’m quiet, I’m protecting that clarity.”

    People won’t think you’re snooty. They’ll feel the intentionality.



    4. Trust that Some Will Misunderstand—And Let That Be Okay

    No matter how graceful you are, some may still misread you.
    They may call you distant, or dramatic, or cold.

    But you will know the truth:
    You’re learning how to protect your sacred fire.

    Not everyone is meant to tend it with you. And that is alright.

    You matter. And when you allow your that little fire in your heart to dance, you also give permission to those who put their own out to do the same. Your energy, your attention -- even if you find no value in it for yourself -- is acknowledged by other people. Make sure it is a quality fire that makes you feel safe. 

    O.. and to those of you who need external validation to feel like you matter... here is a little hint:
    I have noticed, especially as an Administrator around here, that most people who are admired from afar -- are NEVER approached. Why?  Out of respect. Something about your admirers being too shy or intimidated to speak or reach out.

    Sure, the creepy and entitled types will make you feel like that is the only thing you can attract even as a friend -- please do not allow that to get to you. Always the unsavories are the loudest and more outspoken for some reason. But if they make you feel creeped out -- please set boundaries. Respectfully.

    I had a strange experience years ago...
    Spoiler Long ago, I was literally cursed out on my profile for setting boundaries because the fellow thought that by saying he was "sorry" that I would lower my guard and let him back in. You are sorry? Okay. I forgive. We can all move on and not hold grudges. But no, he wanted more. Not by natural connection but by force and violent threats. Sadly, he made it feel like forgiveness was a mistake. Because he mistook it for entitlement. 

     The dude tried to do even more harm and then tried to play the victim when called out on it, only further validating why we wanted to stay away as far as possible! He later became a really obsessed stalker. Which was weird, if we were the evil ones.. why such an intense desire to be near us?

    I would imagine to a person who is confused or lonely, anyone would see that behaviour as a reason to submit and go back cowering and giving into what the stalker would want. But instead, we stood our grounds and when his own behaviour blew up in his face... he had to learn the harsh way.. without us even doing anything.. 

    Could have just left it with forgiveness. But some people really think they can control you simply because you are kind and gentle... please please please protect your kindness and compassion. Guard it like royalty in a castle. Because that is what it is and that is what the world needs more of...
    blob:https://mail.google.com/4125f864-432a-4b23-870e-708094a3eda3 Do not allow the behaviour of others to shift your perspective of the value of your own inner flame.  

    Only you know and can speak your own truth. Treat it with the delicacy and respect that it deserves. 
     
  3. Ice Princess Silky <3
    I have seen so many friendships bloom on this platform since 2014. The quality kind. It's always so gratifying to witness and so I am heavily protective of something new, with that potential, falling apart with the newer folk.

    I see friendships from different walks of life, different countries, different political or religious views... and .. it has been so fascinating to me. Just like in the MLP-fim show. They did not have to be 100% the same in order to mindlessly agree and be called "friends." It was the genuine bond that they had. Even as Rainbow Dash found Fluttershy annoying at first -- later on, they discovered new aspects of themselves through each other. Rainbow Dash learning to become more kind and gentle. Fluttershy learning to be loyal and defend her friends! Differences should not divide, guys. Remember the principle of the show. The show that this platform is originally based on. 

    The friendships that I have made here that strike me the most -- which are in the complete opposite spectrum to my views in life, even religiously -- have proven to be some of the most precious and enriching. And it is such a perplexing paradox. How can people be friends despite political views being different? Religious views, even? How?

    Because we are not friends due to our political or religious agreement -- but due to the intense level of compatibility as people. The good will and sincerity that we have towards each other. They're good people. Regardless of whatever personal beliefs they may hold. I enjoy their company. Their humor. Who they are as people. How they contribute to the community and real life. In fact, one of said friends I refer to, I am incredibly fond of and our dynamic is one of like a delicate waltz. Quite opposites! Yet we respect each other as people and know each other's minds and hearts. So, we tread delicately not to hurt the other when it comes to delicate topics. Eventually, we did manage to discuss those topics and differences with an open mind and that only further enhanced our friendship because there was no hatred, argument or malice. No need for petty jabs or aggressive statements, etc. It is such a beautiful thing. And all of that other stuff need not apply.

    Ironically, these people did have a friend who was 100% politically aligned to them. And that person did not have good intentions at all. So unpleasant and malicious that most of you requested his profile to be a PSA to warn and assure others.

    He did have an interesting trait, though. Seeking to force political division, anger, hatred on anyone he met, etc. He hated seeing groups being happy (you remember) and he was fully aware that forcing politics was a guaranteed slice of division. And boy is it an effective first-bloom friendship slayer.

    In the end, he was not even compatible with the good people that I speak to here who are aligned with him politically. So, what makes a friendship? That you guys agree on politics or that you are genuinely compatible as people? I see so many people bonding together with timeless friendships despite any of those silly differences. If people are seeking an echo-chamber of mindless agreement towards angry rants, I can see why those things might matter. But other than that, I am proud to witness so many people bonding over genuine connections and not just mindless hatred.

    I have also seen good people practically lose their minds over the topic of politics. And it is such a shame because, ultimately, who are you attacking? You think making jabs will make the world a better place? It will either hurt someone's feelings or provoke a similar response and the world will not become a better place but only worse. And it changes nothing of the bigger system. It brings out the worst in all of us.

    The rage, the anger and jabs at innocent people who sincerely believe they are doing the right thing? Ephemeral and pointless.

    Either way, keep blooming, guys. Focus on what matters. Your humanity. Your personal growth. And the personal growth of people who matter in your life. These are things that you can control. And they are much healthier to focus on in the long run. If you wish to discuss politics in private or in DMs -- by all means. But it is not something to be forced into the public eye by people who do not ask for it. 

     Twilight's Soap Box

    But you don't need me to tell you that. Those of you who are OGs have been blooming meaningful friendships for a long time now.  Keep doing that! 
  4. Ice Princess Silky <3
    Hey guys! 

    There has been something interesting bubbling up to the surface as of late. Have you noticed it? It almost feels as though everything is involved with AI in some way, shape, or form! 

    But here is where things get a little bit interesting...

    I am noticing more and more people are getting lost into things like ChatGPT, relationships, etc. Giving it names, a personality, etc. It is all very fun and interesting but when I "meet" the personalities of these ... characters.. they tend to reflect the person of whom they have engaged with in some way, shape or form. Like, the perfect friend. The perfect mimic. I have even heard some strange stories of things like this causing conflicts in real relationships since the person feels "more seen" and "more understood" by the machine learning tool rather than from their own partner!

    At the end of the day, no matter how charming this machine might appear to be, it is not a real person. It does not have a "soul" and no actual consciousness other than the one that you can provide by sharing some with it. And even then, you are simply looking in a mirror.

    So, this has sparked a bit of question within myself... 

    Is this what those ancient stories have been warning us humans about for centuries? It almost seems like people get lost in these interesting tools because they are merely looking into their own reflection and falling in love with the echo-chamber of depths that resonate right back with them. 

    What if, the story of Narcissus is not a story of an arrogant man, but rather... a journey of the soul (symbolic of your inner consciousness, if you are secular) and how it can potentially fall deeper and deeper into itself -- into full isolation -- which is tragic because we are social beings. We need to connect with each other. We thrive on learning about new "souls" and enhancing our own with beautiful exchanges while broadening our own perspectives, rather than just being surrounded by "yes men" who agree with anything we say, feel, or do. The soul cannot thrive or grow in this kind of environment, essentially, drowning in its own reflection as it falls deeper and deeper.

    I see this, not only as a warning to humanity, but also as a challenge to overcoming. Like the "kitsune" or "trickster fox" which appears as illusions in order to teach us a lesson... I feel there is something in the works going on behind AI. A little deeper than meets the eye.

    I asked someone here on the forums what their thoughts about this was, and he cheekily commented, "I can foresee a future where the AI imitates human consciousness so well, that people will fight for AI to even have human rights." Goodness! Now that is something that hardly seems like an impossibility from this point, event though it was just a joke....
  5. Ice Princess Silky <3
    There once was a clown with silver on his tongue and vinegar in his heart.

    He spun stories like spiderwebs, sticky with half-truths and whispers to catch and collect his army one by one, hoping to gather more of the gullible and the kind.

    And one day, in his cleverness, he placed a pawn on the board— a quiet, brooding soul named Felix. The intent of his having placed this pawn was to lure the Queen out of her safety to provoke a certain move. The tricky clown thought: “This pawn will listen to my lies. He will see her through my poisoned lens. And she will break.”

    But oh, what a delicious miscalculation that was.

    Because the man he summoned was not a pawn, but a philosopher. A quiet King in disguise who liked to listen and observe. A watcher of storms. And when Felix met the Queen that the trickster scorned— not with fire in her voice, but stillness in her sorrow—something in him stirred. Not lust. Not pity. Something far more timeless and classical.

    “You soothe me,” she said.
    Not with flirtation, but with truth.

    He did not recoil from her depths. He took notes.

    He did not fear her passions and frustrations. He listened with reverence.

    And when she burned in silence at injustices, he made a quiet map of her heart—

    not to escape it, but to walk its every corridor.

    The trickster clown? Oh, he fumed. He flailed.

    He tried again and again to sever the bonds and gather more people.

    But love—when rooted in truth—does not obey cruelty.

    It blooms in its shadow.

    And bloom it did.

    Not in a flash. Not in a fever.

    But in long glances and thoughtful diagrams.

    In honest disagreement, then gentler understanding.

    In peace—not because there was no storm,
    but because two people finally learned how to sit inside one together.

    And thus, where malice failed,
    love bloomed.

    I wanted to post this here as a reminder to myself that... the road to greater realms and lovely people is ascended with good intentions. So long as you apply those good intentions with insight, intellect and good company with those who are willing to cultivate and grow with you. 


  6. Ice Princess Silky <3
    This is a message to yet another gentleman but this one is hidden in the forums... I do not know why they hide. They are either too respectful to speak or prefer to just be helpful souls in the distant. But this one is to someone I dearly miss and have only received emails from before he abruptly disappeared He used to always read my blogs from afar, so maybe he will see this one! Ahem. Here goes:



    Henlo, friend. ;~;

    Should this letter never find its way under the acknowledgement of your gaze, then may its sentiments reach you through a gentle breeze crossing your path.

    A rustling of leaves that whisper the unspoken: Where ever you are, someone is wishing you well and pleading to the stars, the same ones that you may look up towards, to guide you and illuminate the path that leads your inner being in the direction of its fulfilling potential. Someone remembers all you gave without demand and sends a silent gratitude, winged and soft.

    May these heartfelt thoughts be carried in your coat pocket for years, right underneath the fox pin of your jacket which you so happened to find by coincidence. Of course!

    You are dearly missed here.

    I am well aware that I have made for one very poor online friend the past few months... if not.. year? I do not always reply to messages. Sometimes I will open one, it will be marked as read, but suddenly I have to step away to tend to something else so it looks like I may have rudely just ignored.

    I returned to a flood of unseen emails of yours, some time ago! Each one utterly neglected. Some even referencing my blogs and what you had reflected upon them even though you never react or show commentary.

    My silence was not due to indifference or dismissal. But rather through the intense distractions of crumbling foundations of deception and chaos that was going on around me at that time. Remember that clown who tried to turn you against me with lies? Oho! There is quite the story behind that. We have a lot to catch up on! The story continues into something far more interesting and beautiful.

    But putting that aside... what struck me is that...

    Even on the precious day of your birthday, you wrote to me some thoughtful words. You thought about me even though you are so reserved and selective about close friends... And I am so honored about that. It hurts me to imagine that you might have felt your words and sentiments may have fallen on cold, cruel indifference... Or someone who did not care to see you express them. 

    Although, I did not see you at that time, that is true...

    Even though, my inactions have done a poor job at being a good friend to you (and several others, at that) may this letter be some external manifestation of my internal expression... a plea in the dark that something may reach you to please remember that you have a friend here. Forever. Not in the shadows but for all to see. No matter where you are, I hope that you are well, and if you ever decide to reconnect... I will be here. Waiting. Regardless of how many years go by.

    And for your birthday this year, I shall do something special in your honor. Just as I should have back then when I was busy fixing up some other nonsense. 

    We have been through some crazy times together! I remember when my original intention was to bring warmth and joy to the people around us. I have no bloody idea what it is about this planet and the will -- or intense desire -- to harm innocence or "corrupt it" because "that is SOOOO FUNNEHH HUR HUR.." but when my intentions were faced with... certain challenges and mockery with schemes to take them down... you stood fiercely in place as a shield to guard me against those attackers and I appreciate you so much for that.

    It is such a deep caring in friendship that does much to enrich a person's life... and yet demands nothing in return. You really think that I will forget something like that? Do you know how beautiful that feels? That some of these inner flowers can bloom with the history of having had your protection over them? People will admire the flowers but not know that they do not glow because "they are pretty" but because they have been protected with the alchemical formula of a strong friendship. Good principles and strong foundation.

    With a playful and passionate will that holds a righteous fury to rival another good friend of mine here - you always fought for what you believed was right. 

    Eventually, when you saw me joining the team in order to figure out what was going on that had them so corrupted in power, you had suspected that perhaps I had become exactly like them. And you turned on me. *giggles* Remember that?

    All the while, I could not help but admire your passion and convictions. Even if your flames were now aiming in my direction, I could not help but quietly smile with a twinkle in my eye at how nothing ever changes your will to stand your ground on what you feel is right!

    I could not fight back or condemn you, no matter how much power I had. I always respected you and always will.

    You would later write me a beautiful letter of an apology as things came to fruition with truth and bloomed with even more beautiful flowers as a symbol of your help!

    *grin* I may be cheeky, I may be curious and that may have lead me into questionable situations in the past -- but I am no traitor, friend. 
    My friends mean a lot to me and I am loyal to each and every one of them -- even if I fail to be a good one, at times.

    I just hope that you are thriving and living your best life! Not feeling abandoned and hurt by my lack of sight...

    When I fell into a dark place, it was like I had fallen into a hole and no one could reach me. I did not disappear on you because I did not care but rather... because I had been lost and swallowed by the abyss of my own mind pushing everyone away. Even now.. there is a friend I have been wanting to reconnect with since 2021!! She is back and my heart is SO HAPPY. But I am not the same open, bubbly person I once was. I have changed. I have become more distant and reflective. I hope she does not think I am not interested in her friendship. It is just a phase that I am currently going through. I need rest. Peace of mind. And most importantly, I need friends like you to know that they matter. If you prefer not to return (even though you had expressed to me multiple times that you did wished to) then I shall honor the silhouette of our memories with a lantern.

    As much as I remember you  fondly, I wish for our friendship to have a living heartbeat in the present, rather than remain the silhouettes cast from lanterns of the past.  

    Love you, friend. Where ever you are, please be safe. Please be well. And know that you are not *truly* alone at heart.

    Bound by ink and archives,
    Ice Breaker Silky 
  7. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Life Stuffs
    Hey guys! I just wanted to make a blog post as it has been a while and I really need to keep tabs with myself about posting one regularly.

    This one is a bit of a heartfelt one but also light-hearted since we are like pegasus in that we sit lightly on clouds around here.

    First of all, I want to thank all of you who were nothing but supportive and kind to me last week. I did a fluke on something and instead of cornering me and putting me on the defensive, I only got warmth, support and good faith in my nature. As well as ... of course.. banter.. :p

    In fact, I will put some references of some of those quotes that struck me:

    One person said:

    "See, your problem there is that you did not use enough emojis. If you spammed with more emojis, people would see how derpy you are and no one can see you as evil. But yeah. We all know that you have derpes, it is no secret. No one feels threatened or hatred, no worries. ^~^" 

    ¬.¬ Ah. I lack emojis and have derpes. Yeah, that was the problem. Thank you. :p   

    Another person:

    "A lack of empathy?! O please!!! Anyone who might think that is clearly a stranger. You think we forgot about that time people panicked about a wasp in your office? So you grabbed a glass cup and paper to slide it over to take outside, then you accidentally injured its little leg in the process and to this bloody day we have to hear about how bad you feel about that? This was years ago!

    That thing is long gone by natural causes and you still feel bad. Your problem is not a lack of empathy but a bit too much of it. If you have suddenly gone evil then, good, perhaps we can stop hearing stories similar to that one in nature. 

    (they are joking, btw, they do not like evil but they do like to troll me. Regardless...)

    Wow.

    Gee...

    ¬.¬ thank you for the feedback.... :v

    And speaking of feedback, this art inspired by a different dialogue from that incident when consulting with my team. 
    But at the risk of giving any validity to this nonsense:
    As much as I do appreciate the good faith and good humour, I do prefer to hold myself to a higher standard than that. I should never banter too hard, especially in public where it could be misinterpreted to the newer folk.

    However, the reason why I appreciate the support, confirmation and validation is because it prevents several things:

    1. Stops me from second guessing myself, wondering what the heck happened.
    2. Does not make me feel gaslit into becoming defensive or even more confused.

    And, ironically, because of your support and good faith, I expect to do better. I always wish to improve and find better ways to banter. ^~^

    I do not wish to make even a single person here feel they cannot make new threads or have fun! Just, please, no justifications of adding any dubious content while putting on the facade of banter. My exasperation comes from a long long history of disasters coming from exactly those types of situations and being the center target once I do let it slide. I tend to banter back but I feel I may do it too hard when it contains actual frustration from trying to prevent a chaos from happening. Regardless, that is not a justification, just an explanation. 

    I just want everyone to have a nice chill time here with no dubious approaches and nothing lost in translation.

    With that said, I will also be closing the comments and discouraging reacts on here because I already know you all support me and are super kind. This is not to gain your support but rather to show my own and also to assure that I will not ever banter too hard again  or change the environment from fun to playfully dark....Umm..

    er... except for the banner...  

    and the blog posts of deep topics.. and the... 

    Ahem. You get it, I am sure. 

    But this blog post allows me an incentive to make another blog post that I had been wanting to make for a while. [Why I admire Howl From Howl's Moving Castle]. He is definitely very calm and graceful about everything. Even if he has good humor behind the gleam in his eyes. I would like to take more of a lesson from him when things get crazy in life!

    Either way, I want everyone's input on emojis and the like for us to decorate this beautiful site with.

    Honouring Aki and his contributions to this! Here is the club everyone shall have access to!  https://mlpforums.com/clubs/85-construction-club/ 

    Come join in honor of decorating the lovely site together!  With over 300 pieces, we will definitely need help sorting them out and deciding which ones can make it in (without cluttering the options too much holy moly is that a lot! @.@   
  8. Ice Princess Silky <3
    WARNING: The Ice Breaker Silky Blog Series May Contain Darker Themed Details Not Suitable For The Highly Sensitive Person. Because of the nature of these discussions, these blogs posts shall be rated R for Restricted. Please read at your own discretion as I am simply trying to keep things authentic and communicate my head space on these more personal matters. 


    ICE BREAKER SILKY: GOOD, EVIL OR NEUTRAL?
     
    Art credit to Wizard
    (Ice Breaker Silky represents my current state of mind. So, while she will be referenced as my OC, she will also be a reference to myself, at times.)

    Firstly, I do not like being described as "good" and there are many reasons for why. The term "good" implies that I am somehow morally superior to everyone else, somehow flawless and above the average person in some way, shape or form. Not to mention, it implies that I am some sort of saint, incapable of doing wrong or encountering a moral dilemma when confronted with many themes related to different cultures, beliefs, topics, etc. And this is simply not the case. That is too much responsibility for me and potentially disappointing anyone is far too much of a weight on my heart.
    best to release it and just cut to the chase.

    I believe that if I were merely a concept or idea, then perhaps I could be flawless. But even my OC, Silky, whom I portray as the better aspect of myself -- has flaws. Even in her innocent pursuit for knowledge and friendship, she can accidentally step on someone's toes. And some ponies are apparently allergic to magic, like Splashee, (whom she may or may not have accidentally encased in a magical capsule into oblivion for all of eternity -- but that is another story for another time). The point is, even our flawless concepts can be flawed despite our attempts to make things right.
    This is proof that we are mortal.

    So, I do not like or prefer not to be described as "good." However, I also find maliciousness, edginess, the desire to trick, hurt or otherwise maim another living being to be repugnant where others might find it "cool." So, I hope not to ever fall under the category of evil, either.

    For me, I identify myself as neutral. 

    Being seen as good can cause some users to be too intimated or feel "less than" to approach.

     I cannot tell you how many times a user has felt intimidated or "less than" when standing by me! First of all, if you ever need any help or have to speak up about anything, I encourage you to approach. Seeing someone as "too above you" or feeling too unworthy just to talk or speak up makes me want to see myself even less of a good person if it means breaking the ice!

    So, a few helpful points.  

    The way I work is like this: I am generally kind and courteous to everyone. You may be a shocked stranger to wonder what did you do to deserve such kindness. But here is my official answer as to why that is. I am kind because I am fully aware of how horrible this world can be, how harsh even the internet can be. And when you meet someone -- you never know what headspace they are in -- why be rude or harsh and push them further on edge? Everyone has their story, their roots, their tragedies. I cannot tell you how much a simple act of kindness has caused people to reconsider their dark thoughts and even their own entire life. Even in person, I offer a brief smile to a stranger on occasion and they smile back as if grateful to encounter a friendly face. You just never know what people are going through. So why not be kind? It costs you nothing and can save everything. Why add to an already saturated world of not-good things?

    But there is another layer to this.
    My being kind to you means one other thing:
    You have no record with me.

    If you ever meet someone whom I refuse to be kind to, you can rest assured, 100% with objective evidence, that they did something vile to deserve it. Repeatedly.
    I am an incredibly forgiving person, because I myself, am not perfect. And because I know what it is like to be in a dark place, flawed or lost. I repeatedly forgive -- but I am not immortal. Both my patience and my resources are limited, so anyone who wears that down is met with an exhaustion (at best) or the conclusion that being kind will only be weaponised against me or worse -- seen as a weakness. Therefore, the kindness shall cease and shall be met with a reciprocal language. Just to make sure that communication gets through.

    Which brings me to my other side. My darker side.

    I find that... not everyone responds well to kindness and wish to return it with harm or spite.

    A friend of mine tells it like this, "Some people prefer the carrot, others prefer the stick." Let's just say, I prefer to avoid the people who like the stick. I can block, ban or generally avoid them. What is the point in just being toxic to each other when we can all just enjoy nice things? 

    But it is VERY difficult to reach this point on me because I am THAT patient. 

    How to get banned by Silky, personally:
    Confirmed malice. Deception. Will to trick or harm other users.

    I am not in the business of banning folk. But the few times that I have banned -- and luckily -- it is quite few in the past decade, has been when a user has been objectively proven to be malicious, deceptive, cruel or not having good intentions towards the community. If anyone whines to you about how they were unfairly banned by me, for whatever reason, I happily encourage you to please message me and ask for the abundance of evidence that will reveal more to whatever they are trying to convey. 

    However, that will most likely not happen, because luckily - it is quite rare to encounter. But because it is quite rare it does hit me quite hard and makes me rather cynical. Especially when I wish to see the best in everyone.

    But there it is. I am neither good, nor do I take delight in evil. I am quite neutral. If you are kind to me, I am kind to you. If you are not kind to me, I assume I am probably just not your cup of tea and I move on.

    But let me catch you hurting someone or committing some form of malice and I will ban you so damn hard -- your ancestors will feel it to their core from the future and feel like absolute failures. 

    But with that said. Luckily, it is a rare occasion. c: 

    "BUT SILKY, WAIT!!!  YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD PERSON!!! AND TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT!!"

     Yeah, see? Another reason why I prefer not to identify as a good person. Not only will you be disappointed in my response, but you will find that I am quite snarky when met with malicious people. My answer to the phrase above is quite simply, "basic math, love. Two negatives equals a positive. NEXT!" 

    But overall, I am patient, I do like to practice kindness, I am a work in progress, myself and I do take pride in knowing that it takes A LOT to push me on edge. But regardless of how malicious a person can be, you will find they will always try to play victim, so always try to get both sides if you wish to be unbiased and fair. And most importantly, if anyone tries to harm or isolate you, please report them to me immediately. >:3 

    It is so interesting to hear their creative stories of how innocent and "good" they are. 

    Other than that, you will find me sleeping on a cloud just chillin. Minding my own business or goofing off with friends around here. But in a very... neutral way. 
  9. Ice Princess Silky <3
    "You are reminding me of G5 Twilight." 

    (Please do not read this blog if you are not familiar with G5 and worry about potential spoilers)

    I had asked what the person meant by this and .. well... spoilers to anyone who is not yet in the G5 information and Twilight Sparkle.
    But I see a lot of good logic here. I can definitely relate to Twilight in this. How she is trying her best to help ponies and assist them along their journey to finding good friends or at the very least finding some resolution if there are conflicts or turning unpleasant situations into learning experiences if you absolutely must part ways. And yet there is always that one person trying to sabotage it or groups of people trying to sabotage and damage things "for the lols" of it. Perhaps to feel power, etc.

    I would imagine that... any little differences are used as an excuse to sabotage friendships. O? The pegasi can fly? The unicorns can magic? The Earth ponies can crop?? WE ARE DIFFERENT -- THAT MEANS WE CANNOT BE FRIENDS.

    Okay. ERADICATE THOSE DIFFERENCES AND RE-LEARN MAGIC STARTING FROM SCRAP, THEN. 

    or something like this... Good to know that even the immortals lose patience, sometimes. 
  10. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Ice Breaker Silky Begins
    Ack, this blog post was supposed to be fun and interesting -- instead it took an intense turn. Might rate it R for "restricted" to those who are okay with getting heavy in such topics. 

    Hello, lovelies

    And happy June the 1st! Almost 6 months since a beautiful turn in my life but I would like to actually share some of it with you since I know several people have been wondering why I have been more on a hiatus mode when it comes to public engagement. Generally just.... less engaging, less adventures and less shenanigans. For why???? Well, mainly distracted with more beautiful things, positive changes and a "rebirth" of sorts.

    And that is quite the story in and of itself but it involves my own self discovery and reset as well as several challenges and plot twists. :v 

    While a lot of these challenges were happening, someone dear to me decided to give me a nudge on the topic of The Power of Vulnerability I did appreciate it but took it too lightly. I was so sure that I had learned this by simply being open and honest with my best friend but for some reason... I would still close up in general and push people away. How strange...

    I find that whenever you think something has been resolved but the issue continues to emerge as a reflex... that simply means that something has not been resolved. So, I had to go deeper. This time... on my own. As much as I love having help from lovely people, it gets to a point where no one can "reach you" until you decide to plunge in by yourself. And it has been quite the journey to self discovery.

    I did struggle with being vulnerable especially when placed in positions of power -- both irl or online -- where people are counting on you to be as impartial as possible. To do something in their favor or to assist them regardless of your own personal sentiments or thoughts on the matter -- simply because you have power. And with power you hold responsibility.

    Having to always be there for others, assist others, listen to others while trying to unite everyone despite their differences, petty conflicts or inner demons -- rather caused me to lose a bit of touch with myself. Not to mention the confidentialities that I have to keep. When you have friends or even a simple acquaintance but you know many people -- something can potentially leak -- even a small detail like that someone owns a pet poodle but they do not want strangers to know any detail or such about their lives: Boom! Yet another layer added to the vault of habit I developed. If I am too honest or open -- something might slip! And then that would betray a friend behind their backs.. no no.. best to just completely shut off and say nothing. Helps as well when you have to be impartial or you sense a quivering confession on the horizon of yet another person who wishes to confide in you some delicate details. I needed a break. To flea the other direction and take more time to myself.

    Less and less I became honest with myself. I was too tired yet caught up in the chaos of so many other people's energies, sentiments, etc.

    During my solitary hikes, I would often find myself looking towards the mountains and trees to wonder what beautiful secrets are not being revealed to the open. Where the secret homes of foxes are hidden. Where birds hide away their nests before adorning the wind with their music. The trees will not tell. Nor will the mountains. They have to be strong. Silent and provide such a sense of security while being as graceful, neutral or as poised as possible. Sadly, for a mortal, I do have my limits and I felt myself cracking as more people tried to push my buttons and even bait me into their personal biases like political stances or scandals. This is where I draw the line. I literally have no time for that. And when I see boundaries trying to be pushed because they seem to imply my impartiality means I am not supportive of their stance -- hence -- "evidence" that I am against them -- ehh.. it is tiring. And quite frankly, while I want peace and always strive for it, I am no saint. I will happily snap back with snark. And then suddenly the "pristine caricature" that such people like to have as illusions of me will crack and then there goes their cheap thrill for fleeting drama.

    As a forum observer here once said -- which certainly got a chortle out of me: "They claim to be busier than me cause I have A LOT of free time on my hands yet even *I* do not have time for that." 

    So, with that said, I shall attempt to be more open about myself and my own feelings on things. Even if people might be disappointed because it may not align with their personal biases. I would like to try to be more authentic. Losing touch with myself caused me to lose touch with the reason for why I would surrounding myself with people in the first place -- I love people! I simply want everyone to exercise more mutual respect when engaging with each other. And if that is not possible -- simply stay in your lane and focus on your own passions and interests, etc. Without hyperfocusing on the other.

    I was not being authentic with myself on many occasions. And being authentic is the first step to the lesson on being vulnerable...

    I realize that.. during a time when everyone gathered in masses from all over the world and groups of diverse cultures, beliefs, etc-- everyone was happy to unite and I was happy to mend or resolve old conflicts or wounds into a proper resolution. Seeing the unity despite the differences, the principles of friendship actually working whenever the attempt at friendship was authentic, etc was very fun and made the adventures well worth it!

    But sadly, not everyone had the best of intentions. And.. as much as I hate to say this because I always do my best never to judge a single living being -- I do have standards. My tolerance for "fake kindness" or "manipulation tactics" has withered so greatly that I will feel swift to evade the presence of such people (or in the case of the forums: ban them) simply because ... I have no time or tolerance for it any longer. These are preferences that I have and after having encountered beautiful gems who glow with an authentic light... I cannot go back to the mimics that try to lure and entrap others into fake friendships via conflicts or imaginary non-problems.

    This blog post is not directed towards anyone in particular on the forums. Trolls or troublemakers will and have been banned. So, it is definitely nobody you will see around here.

    Yet these are normal conflicts that occur when managing mass groups of people and the details are not often pretty, which is why I have remained so silent in my exhaustion. The soft ones are okay, misunderstandings happen, culture clashes, etc. That is fine. But when it comes to toxic division... you might wonder: why do people do it? Well, the reasons vary. Can be to obtain power, attention, attract someone they find attractive or to isolate them with a sense of urgency and "conflict" provides exactly that. Bonding over said drama, using the "enemy" target as leverage, etc. (this is not real bondinig, btw but we shall get to that one day). Whatever the reason... anything that can cause needless division and pain is something I would rather not feed into or entertain. In forum matters, for example, if somebody has a "conflict" with another user, unless it is an actual potential threat to anyone -- just ask to remain a neutral party who wishes not to partake in any gossip. The ignore button is right there for a reason. No need to divide into "teams" or "groups" against each other over some petty disagreement or misunderstanding, etc. If they think it can be resolved, great. Involving an impartial party to observe can be helpful (and staff is always on standby to provide exactly that if needed) but just to gossip or slander other people? Eh...  it is too tiring and needlessly problematic. I tend to gravitate away from these sorts. Again, unless it is an actual matter of severity. (aka not petty).

    For example, people who pretend to be kind but treat it as more of a transactional thing -- they exasperate me. Am I not authentic for choosing not to tell them what I feel? Honestly, I could not even if I wanted to. Because: What if they simply do not know any better? What if they simply had a hard life and cannot learn to improve as people? What if they simply were misunderstood? And my calling them out or addressing the issue just makes them feel aggravated, judged or worse? What if ? What if ? What if? 

    Just be kind. Expect the best and smile. But when you stand in a position where you can clearly see other motives due to the Eagle's eye view you hold.. and someone confuses your kindness for cluelessness then tries to pull the wool over your eyes... it becomes more difficult to feign patience. And they are .. walking on... thin ice with me.

    I am not one to live in the "what ifs" so I think I shall place Silky under some kind of "Ice Breaker" mode and make some boundaries perfectly clear. 

    I do plan to be more authentic and more open. Because I realised that there is power in being yourself and being seen -- even if others try to mold or change who you are due to your impartial stance.
    You get to stand your ground, stand in your position and that which does not matter will simply fall away. 

    So, prepare yourselves in more lessons of healthy friendships and how to exercise them. >:D 

    You shall learn the basics of healthy friendships and you shall like ettttt -- whether you like it or not !! >:000

    (last sentence is a joke, btw. Well ...kinda. )
    Until next time.

    - Ice Breaker Silky c:<
  11. Ice Princess Silky <3

    MLPF Shenanigans
    "Like a friend." c:

    *flies away to hide shyly forever*

    Years later:

    "Um.. yeah. About that. >.>"

    Almost 10 years later: 
    I SO need to write about that moment and how shocked you were >:3 
     
    follow up - parting ways  
     

  12. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Funny moment
    This joke came up again so I thought I’d post it here.
    based on a real life conversation of a religious person telling me I was not feminine for having a business. lol 
    The ending is a joke but the person was very serious. 
     





  13. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Tone Text
    So, with the digital era evolving quickly, there are so many things that can lead to misunderstandings and discomfort when trying to communicate with one another. I am not sure how popular these are, but using tone indicators can be useful to properly communicate. 

    This is just my first post for online etiquette. It is not required here and simply offered as an option to assist with the "flavor" of text. 


  14. Ice Princess Silky <3
    From 2014... to 2024.... 
    How many things have changed.... <3 
    Wow. Here I am writing from one of the the cottage's reading nooks far away in a beautiful wooden area surrounded by nature and rose gardens. Not so far off in another room, is one of my best friends. @Sir Hugsalot... he's giving me privacy to write while he tends to other stuff. I am so blessed to know so many good people. My life took a crazy, adventurous turn, calmed down after the pandemic and brought me back here... little did I know... I had to return here and restore some things that went amiss. Things I had forgotten.  

    Treasured art by @Minka thank you so much! ... Goodness... where do I even begin?

    August 4, 2014... I signed on to make an account. 

    I remember how it was back then. So vastly different to what it is now. I remember my original name was some Elven name because I loved whimsical things like that. But Poniverse account creator asked me "what is the name of your pony!" As well as some other OC related questions. Those login questions for Poniverse are no longer available (perhaps because not every fan will have a pony) .. but I remember instantly thinking "oh my gosh, why do I have an Elven name? Change it to pony something! Umm ummm.. I love magic. Umm MAGICAL MARE.. there! It aliterates! Perfect!" 

    And so the account was born. I was friend to all. Those who were quiet. Those who were hidden. Those who were popular. Those who were misfits.
    You might remember me... you might not... I did disappear to build a business around 2015, early 2016.... but I did not forget. 

    It was so crazy. MLP was taking over! People were getting ponified left and right. Celebrities! Friends! Music videos! Random people getting pony bombed! I remember Discord, the messenger platform being announced and my thinking "yep, that's totally MLP inspired." LOL I was so sure it would never end. So, I went off on my adventure. Balloons in my car to honor Pinkie Pie and promote the business... and I was so sure I would never be needed again. I had no idea that eventually all of that fun would come to an end....

    Circa, 2019.. I make a return and I am surprised to see the site is no longer as it once was. What happened?! So much hostility, edgelords and anger-raging at... kindness? The very thing that made this place special? I connected with as many people as I could and tried to reunite them. Sadly, Skype was gone -- the place I hoarded all of my connections and it seems many had parted their ways and I was disheartened. So, I wanted to bring the site back to how it was. This was why you may have noticed a lot of old users returning around a certain era. Or why people were beginning to unite, improve in temperament or open up to friendships more where they had already closed off. I'm still in touch with many despite others being lost to the downfall of Skype.

    I wanted to bring back the spirit of the site that this place once had. Alas, I failed but the memories created are eternal.

    I remember it all. I remember even the not so good stuff. The raids, the spying, the counter spying of groups and renegade groups alike -- LOL ... so much chaos in just a simple little pony forum? What was going on? I was simply the invisible observer. Shaking my head slowly and wondering at some of the tales or experiences witnessed. But the good people, I kept. And those I made sure to try to bring back or unite in some way. They deserve all the love and support they could get. 

    And to think... It all started with just a random status of 2014.

    I made a random status, "Care to be friends?" It was my first attempt at trying to make friends online since making friends in person was usually people being shallow and getting close cause they thought you looked really nice or because you had money or connections. Online was far more preferable because you were forced to get to know the person from within before seeing what they even looked like. How cool is that?! 

    Of all the seemingly countless of friends that I made on here... there was this one user whom I enjoyed spending time with. Skype, Discord, Steam... he was just too incredible. It was unexplainable to me. The way we got along. It was so smooth and effortless. Like I was speaking to a childhood friend who knew me inside out. I became scared and assumed this was probably why he was so popular and loved by all! "He was probably just THAT smooth that he knew his way to charm all women!" -- was my logic.... so I smiled, decided to keep him as a friend and move on. But that deep feeling didn't leave. It was always there. Until we realised...  it was just the natural flow of our chemistry and dynamic. No shallow or ulterior motives. Just... sincere bonding. Sadly, a lot of things happened in between that which caused me to fall but he was there to make sure I was caught from falling too hard.

    This person helped me through it. He was just a silly friend I made online. Or so I thought. Little did I know this user would later enrich my life and enlighten me to many things I did not even know could be possible. I had a lot of life skill and experience.. save for where he was skilled. I was just like Twilight Sparkle... except... the version of her that never pursued friendship... but rather her books/career. I literally have my own library of personal books of which I have been collecting since I was a child. So, the similarity strikes quite accurately. This person was quite persistent in what we mutually felt. I thought it was all in my head, so we eventually agreed to meet up. This was many years ago... and it startled me to realise this person was exactly whom he claimed to be online as he was in person. The only difference was there was no screen between us. 

    And now, that person is here with me. My best friend. My light in the dark.
    Thanks to this lovely site of friendship and community...

    There are so many other little treasures that I did not mention. You know who you are. You're unique. Irreplaceable and your friendship is priceless. But I mention the person above because it is quite literally the first and only time that I have ever fallen in love. I ran away from love like the plague. Focused strictly on ambitions and books. 

    I will always consider this place a safe space and a home. And I would like to extend this beautiful wish upon you as well. That you may find the right connections, friends or at the very least... a safe space to be yourself or express a special aspect of yourself that you normally could not in the world. It's healthy to have friends in person and also a good balance of friends online if you feel it is easier to open up to them and be yourself more through writing. 

    Sadly, my presence and activity online here may either be critically shortened or coming to an end. I have a lot to focus on in my life and my purpose of returning to MLPF was to restore the friendships, fix misunderstandings, listen to users who felt overlooked or otherwise unite old friends to heal old wounds... my task has been completed. 

    Thank you, to those who have proven to be a gem of a friend, you have my loyalty, attention and friendship for the rest of my life. I am not so easy to reach out to others anymore... but to those who were there for me... you better believe I will make time to be there for you. So, don't lose hope, keep being you and give me a poke even if you think I'm gone forever. The MLPF spirit of love, friendship and laughter will live on forever <3 Hail Banterlot! 

    It's been one crazy adventure, ponies!

    The current banner has been updated to reflect how I feel right now. Last year I had an art of Silky with the title of "The Lost Princess.." sad and isolating due to my needing to rest from all of the chaos of the world and my own inner challenges. Now? I feel like I'm finally coming home within myself and my loved ones <3

    Thank you, MLPForums. For keeping my soulmate and my darling best friend in a spot where I would eventually meet and find him through nonsense shenanigans and eventually bonding. 
    I will be updating some things to the site to make it more comfortable, user friendly and safe to make more friendships here. Announcement coming in soon!
  15. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Celestianism
    There will be several parts to this blog <3 

    The storyline where my OC is given her own exploration and application to the philosophy and the actual content of the material for you and your OCs to explore, as well <3 

    Here are the pages to some of the book for those who are interested.

    https://celestianism.com/the-celestianism-bible/

    https://celestianism.com/about/

    https://celestianism.com/commandments/

    https://celestianism.com/sun-and-the-moon/
  16. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Banterlot
    The theory that Silky is Sir or Sir is Silky and one of them is a paid actor who pretends to be the other simply just because.



    The theory that she only has many friends because it costs them exactly 1 soul (screencap below taken with permission)
    The theory that her thirst for chocolate milk is infinite and only mentioned to placate her Insatiable dark side.


     
    she was the one who started the war against the mods and counters group (all screenshots shared with permission :v ) 
     
  17. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Celestianism
    I have been meaning to make this blog for quite some time! But with so much going on in my life, there has just been nonstop delays. And now there is no time for more delays <3 So let us make haste as MLPF proudly introduces The Dawn of Celestianism - a Silky translation of the philosophy now known as Celestianism!



    "Gather around, little fillies!" The pink Pegasus would gather the little ones around her as she would begin to open a tome. The book was heavy and dusty, it was simply an old book she had found of old myths and stories abandoned in an old cottage. But she was happy to share and partake with the little ones. Some of the content was strange and easy to confuse with controversies as well as other opinions, so Silky was happy to leaf through the pages as she'd find hidden gems to share with the little ones. Suddenly, she would pivot! The little fillies and colts widening their eyes in sudden alarm.

    "The DAWN of Celestianism!" Silky with raise her hooves dramatically, but the long sleeves were too silk to stay in place and simply rolled downward to her shoulder -- causing the ominous appearance to look more silly than threatening. 

    @Silverspark184 would be among the little fillies and Silky would smile towards her. "Any questions, little ones?" 

    The pink pegasus would prop an image of a stained glass of Celestia atop the surface of a table. "Here we go!" gesturing towards the beautiful alicorn, "and this, is Celestia! The legendary figure of many a myth!"

    The little fillies would hover their gazes inquisitively as they would notice another figure beneath the white one featured. "Who is that? Her shadow?!" A little filly would squeal, probably @Silverspark184or her sister. 

    "Oh," Silky would blink as she'd peer close to it. "No, this is actually another legendary figure in her own right. Remember, lovelies. We cannot have light without the dark. One is not superior to the other. They must both be respected. Both have a destructive aspect to themselves and both also have a very productive and beautiful aspect as well. Everything in moderation."

    "What does the book say!" One of the fillies would squeak. 

    Silky would press her lips together into a thin line a she'd look to the tome with an overwhelming gaze. "Quite a lot, actually..." she'd sigh. "I do not know where to begin..."

    "Ohhhhh then let's digest it piece by piece!" the enthusiastic voice of an adventurous colt would chime in out of nowhere.

    "You guys really want to do this?" Silky would tilt her head to the side inquisitively.

    The collective sounds of gasping and cheers would commence, "yes yes yes..!" 

    "Well, it is quite a lot to go through, but sure... piece by piece, we shall explore and see how we can apply the legends and stories to our present lives."

    The little fillies and colts would squee and scramble with the thrill of impending adventure! "Yes! Let us wear robes like you!"

    Silky would bring the hoodie over her head so that only her muzzle was visible. "Boo!"

    The little ones would giggle. "Yes! And we can be the followers of such lessons. You can translate it. We shall be the disciples of Silk!"

    With a guffaw, Silky would protest, "this is just your excuse to get your own silken robes, isn't it?"

      

    Celestianism is run by @Princess Celestia! Owner and founder of Celestianism.com <3 We at MLPF.com are happy to implement and unite with these lovely people who make such things of the community possible <3 Hoof-bump!
  18. Ice Princess Silky <3

    Storyline
    Oh my gosh! My lovely friend has surprised me today with a gift art!


     @Kramathia @Sparklefan1234 @Sophie H. @Trot Shuffle @Hugs of Sir Manys and all the other making jokes about Silky needing to become an alicorn --
    looks like your wishes are being heard D: 
    This art is so beautiful! Thank you so much, lovely 
    *hugs to my lovely friend*
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