Love, to me, is more an action than a feeling. If you have an attraction to someone and feel "in love" with them, then that is infatuation. Nothing wrong with it, it's good to find your partner attractive, heck it's essential. But to me, love is when you put someone else's needs above your own. So, if you say you love someone, then you have to prove it to them. Love is making a personal sacrifice, whether that be free time, opportunities at work or something along those lines, for the benefit of another person