If one of your close relatives was still alive

[~Sugar Sprinkles~ 638]

I am pretty sure we have all lost a close relative. Maybe you have lost a relative you are not close with.

 

Well, have you lost a REALLY close relative and so much has changed since they left? What changed after they left? What if they were still alive? How would life be now?

 

I had lost my (favorite and nicer) Grandma last September due to Leukemia. Now, I know that was not very long ago, but things have REALLY changed now. I was always close to my Grandma and Grandpa, but I was more closer to my Grandmother than my Grandpa. Ever since I lost her, I have gotten so much closer with my Grandpa. We have out a lot more and we have bonded more. I take care of him more and check on him. Everything seems to weird and different, ever since I have lost her. I know things will shape up more in a year and everything will be less sorrow. We have gotten passed that she died, but have no gotten over it yet. This goes to my whole family. Another thing is, is no one comes around anymore. I, and a few of my other relatives see my Grandpa, but the whole family has not been seen in awhile. This summer we will not be attending the family reunion of my Grandmother's side (because no one wants to go). 

 

If my Grandma had not passed away, I would not have been this close to my Grandpa as I am now, and I would be seeing my family a whole lot. It would still be like how it was when my Grandma was alive, but a lot has changed when she passed. 

Edited April 1, 2014 by ~Sugar Sprinkles~

[Gone Airbourne 21,977]

I say stay close to your grandfather as that has to be a very hard loss for him as it is to you as well. I am sure he really appreciates your concern for him as well just try to comfort him and spending time with him too. Losing a loved one well probably there is nothing harder than that honestly. I wish the best for you and your grandfather and I am terribly sorry to here for your loss as well. Try and be there for him though which you have and I am sure it means the world to him that you are doing so. 

[Shanks 10,816]

As someone who has lost a few loved ones I know that it has a way of putting things in perspective the first to go that had a profound effect on me was my grandmother of my mom's side who suffered in silence for many years and passed unexpectedly at the age of 64 when I was only 12 years old. If there is any event that took away my innocence I would say that would be it, if she was still alive things would be quite different and perhaps my grandfather on my mom's side would also still be alive as he died 10 years later in large part because the grief had such a profound effect on him though in his case all the smoking and drinking he did in his younger years also caught up with him. Sadly the family drifted slowly apart after her death but would this have still happened if she was alive? I don't know as there were so many other factors that came into play.

 

My grandparents on my Dad's side also passed but they were much older and their deaths weren't nearly as painful, my Dad passing away 2 years ago had a profound effect on me and my family but not as much as my grandmothers death. My Dad's suffering was obvious, he was sick most of his adult life Lupus in his 20's, kidney failure for a few years until my Mom gave him one of her kidneys which failed 8 years later and serious decline in his quality of life since a severe infection and bad drug interaction in 2008 where I am my mother had to step in more and more to take care of him. Simply put he suffered than anyone else I have ever seen and ever hope to see again, though I didn't know when he would die I saw his death coming. As painful as it is for me to admit, it was his time. 

[Scootaloodle 1,623]

The only person “close” I lost was my Grandad:

 

To be honest, I didn’t really see him very often as we didn’t live in the same city as him or my Nana: and I only really have vague memories of what he was like at about 4, dementia sadly got a hold of him so I never really got to know the real him as it were.

 

Nothing changed for me when he left, because I never knew him that well: if he hadn't died or got dimentia I'd have liked to get to know him because from what I'm told and seen on old 1992 family videos he seemed like a really nice guy.

 

But aside from that, I’ve not really lost anyone: only people who I admired from a distance, like famous people but that’s kinda different.