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My story about how I realized that friendship is important

ComanderZhabikKlavik

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Hi everypony! :flutterbat:I was inspired by @Street Light blog about friendship that I read today and decided to write my story about how I realized that friendship is important. Here's my story:

I used to be like Twilight back then, I was a recluse, never talked to anyone and was not friends. I thought that I shouldn't make friends with anyone, because I thought that many people are evil. I thought so because of the bullying at school, but I knew that there were good people and still I didn't want to be friends with anyone. In my penultimate and final year of school, I started doing workout and self-development and the bullying stopped, I even began to be respected more and I even remember how my classmates once supported me in something. Probably they began to respect me more because I began to respect myself. After finishing school, I went to a technical school, I wrote in my profile on a social network that I was a hermit and would not be friends with anyone. But it turned out that on the first day at the technical school I met a person who is now a friend to me. He became my first real friend. He has some similarities with me and it is pleasant to talk to him and in general he is a good person, I think even better than me. I especially like the fact that he often reflects on some topics and shares his thoughts with me on Telegram. About a year or two after I entered the technical school, I decided to look for MLP forums on the Internet and came across MLP Forums. I looked at this forum and registered here on the same day. I had no idea how to communicate, because I had little experience in talking to people, mainly only with my friend and my classmates from the technical school. And here I needed to learn how to communicate with people from different countries. The first thing that happened after I registered on the forum was that @Ice Princess Silky <3 sent me a personal message. I don’t remember exactly what was there, but one of the questions was something like this: “How are you feeling?” I was scared by this message, :awwthanks:I thought that I would hide for a while, and then start writing in the topics a little, but I was immediately sent a personal message and I did not expect that everything would happen so quickly and I would need to communicate right away. I panicked :blush:and tried to reply to the message, quoted it and somehow deleted the message or what happened there? I don’t remember exactly. It’s pretty funny to remember it now! :ButtercupLaugh:The first year on the forum, I didn’t communicate much. I was very rarely sent personal messages. Then I started sending messages to some users myself sometimes. When I first sent messages, I was very worried, but everything went well. Gradually, I started communicating with some forum users and they became my friends. In the Tea Talks topic, I kept a diary, so to speak, in which I talked about my life and this interested some people and they answered me and supported me. Thanks to this, I began to feel better. Then I started writing them personal messages and we became friends, I still communicate with them. For the first time in my life, I understood what friendship and support are. This place is amazing, it unites people from different countries, I met many amazing people here and some of them became my friends. This is the only place that helped me understand how important friendship is and where I managed to make the most friends. I am grateful to this forum and all its users! Friends and this forum helps me to survive the dark times that I have now in my life. Friendship is Magic!!! :yay:

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The time spent here, the communication experience I got and the new friends are priceless! A few years ago I could not even imagine that I would have many friends and support from different parts of the world. I will always be grateful to you, yes, to you! Thank you! :eager:

I would like to tell you about one lesson that I learned while being here. Do not be afraid to make the first move. If you want to communicate with a person, write him a personal message. I understand this can be hard for shy people, it was hard for me too because I am shy:blush:, but now it is easier for me to write a personal message (But sometimes it can be difficult). Nothing bad will happen if you send the first message, the users of this forum are friendly.:))

Thank you for reading this blog! Do you have your own story about how you realized that friendship is important? If yes, you can share it in the comments.

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Ice Princess Silky <3
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Probably they began to respect me more because I began to respect myself.

This one right here really got me. 

As an Admin observing many community activities, as much as we try to offer kindness and support from the outside -- it isn't until the person accepts themselves on the inside or loves themselves to some degree that the kindness and support truly come into full effect. :coco:

This was a really inspirational blog post, Comander.

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I met a person who is now a friend to me. He became my first real friend. He has some similarities with me and it is pleasant to talk to him and in general he is a good person, I think even better than me.

I love this feeling. I am happy that you found a friend despite your expectations. Even better than you? Hmm... not sure but it definitely shows you have a lot of respect for him and that tells me that having a friend of such a high regard means you know you're worthy of being friends with someone you see as better than you and that is very healthy! I approve. Even though I disagree about who is better than whom. :grin:

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How are you feeling?” I was scared by this message, :awwthanks:I thought that I would hide for a while, and then start writing in the topics a little

*roars with laughter* O my gosh, did that really scare you? Goodness -- you really were the shy one. Now you have come so far and I am very proud of you. 

I hope more people who are too shy (and wanting to overcome that shyness to connect more) can be more like you and realize there is so much more to them than just hiding. (Unless that is all they wish to do, of course. Nothing wrong with that. But I always tend to imagine that people might get lonely.) :coco:

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Sorry, I accidentally hit the wrong button and added this spoiler here.:sealed: I can't remove it on my phone:pip-err:

omg I can't stop giggling. You are such a gem. 

Btw, I laughed so hard that I made a tiny comic of what you said. 

 

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This place is amazing, it unites people from different countries, I met many amazing people here and some of them became my friends. This is the only place that helped me understand how important friendship is and where I managed to make the most friends. I am grateful to this forum and all its users! Friends and this forum helps me to survive the dark times that I have now in my life. Friendship is Magic!!!

this was really sweet to read >w< i feel the same, and i really do think it's awesome how so many people from all over the world can bond together in a shared space!! humans are social creatures and we're meant to bond with one another. 

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Do not be afraid to make the first move.

this is something i do still struggle with though :twilightsheepish: i'm very much one of those ponies who replies more than they message first :pip-err: but it's a work in progress!!!

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9 minutes ago, Crypty Scribbles said:

It was a joy to see your growth, @ComanderZhabikKlavik

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You stomped onto a friendship landmine when you came here LOL

I cannot tell you how many people have shared such a similar experience. It makes me smile when the outcome is of a more positive nature. But makes me sad when I imagine the fear and shock they initially go through. Poor darlings. :coco:

This one has been a tough one to balance for me. I've given a lot of people who seem shy A TON of space because, I want them to feel safe in the long run... but everyone is different. Some people ask for the space and expect you to give it, and some people ask for the space but look at you from afar, longing for you to reach out and tell them they don't have to hide, then feel forgotten when you respect their space and take it to mean that you do not care. :blush:

So, I always find myself trying to find new way to make shy ponies come out on their own or take initiative or let me know they're ready to interact. But everyone is just far too different and it takes a long long time. This pony over here joined two years ago and he has been such a blessing ever since. :twilightsmile: So, it was worth the wait.

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10 minutes ago, Ice Princess Silky &lt;3 said:

But makes me sad when I imagine the fear and shock they initially go through. Poor darlings. :coco:

It's friendship starter pack. You let them to taste friendship, cuz everyone have to start somewhere :pinkie-innocent:

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ComanderZhabikKlavik
1 hour ago, Samurai Equine said:

You went to a tech school?! :0 That's so cool!
I thought about doing that once.

Yes, I study at a technical school, but I study for a specialty that I hate and I also work in this profession related to this specialty. Next year I am going to take the Unified State Exam and go to university to become a programmer, because I like programming:flutter-smile:. And also, with the help of this profession, I am going to move to the USA (maybe to Canada, but I'm not sure). Unfortunately, it is hard for me to prepare for exams now because I am attacked by procrastination. The exams are difficult and I have little time.:worry:

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14 hours ago, Ice Princess Silky &lt;3 said:

 *roars with laughter* O my gosh, did that really scare you? Goodness -- you really were the shy one. Now you have come so far and I am very proud of you. 

I hope more people who are too shy (and wanting to overcome that shyness to connect more) can be more like you and realize there is so much more to them than just hiding. (Unless that is all they wish to do, of course. Nothing wrong with that. But I always tend to imagine that people might get lonely.) 

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Yes, it scared me and I was more shy then.:ButtercupLaugh:

Thank you!:fluttershy:

I also hope that shy users will be able to overcome their shyness and communicate with someone. Communication here has changed me for the better. If someone shy is reading this, remember that we are all capable of many things and you are capable of overcoming your shyness. Take the first step, write a message to someone, you will succeed!:sweetie-squee:

And one more piece of advice. Don't be afraid to seem weird, be yourself.

14 hours ago, Ice Princess Silky &lt;3 said:

 Btw, I laughed so hard that I made a tiny comic of what you said. 

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Ahaha, this comic perfectly describes the situation that happened then^_^

13 hours ago, Street Light said:

this was really sweet to read >w< i feel the same, and i really do think it's awesome how so many people from all over the world can bond together in a shared space!! humans are social creatures and we're meant to bond with one another. 

this is something i do still struggle with though :twilightsheepish: i'm very much one of those ponies who replies more than they message first :pip-err: but it's a work in progress!!!

Thank you! I enjoyed reading your blog too!:flutterbat:

I'm glad you're working on it, it may be hard at first but it will get easier.:fluttershy:

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9 hours ago, Ice Princess Silky &lt;3 said:

I cannot tell you how many people have shared such a similar experience. It makes me smile when the outcome is of a more positive nature. But makes me sad when I imagine the fear and shock they initially go through. Poor darlings. :coco:

I think it needs to be experienced. If I hadn't experienced it, who knows what would have happened, maybe I wouldn't have overcome shyness. If you don't overcome difficulties, it's unlikely you can achieve anything.

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