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Marriage Prelude (Opinions are helpful!)

Lightning Bliss

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This is a sample of where I am to go in the wedding cermony prolude for me and my fiance. Its incomplete on song choices because he and I still need to talk about them so that in mind, feel free to critique our setup!

 

Ceremony Events at 2pm

 

Guests Please be seated at 2:15

 

Prelude

 

Song ~

Selected by the Bride

 

Enter -

 

Groom

 

Bridesmaids & Groomsmen

 

Matrion of Honor & Bestman

 

Ring Bearer & Flower Girl

 

Song ~

Stepfather & Bride

 

Greetings to Assembled Guests -

 

Welcome, to all of you who have gathered today to share in this ceremony with _______ and _______. The words which will be spoken here today are sacred, although these words are not what joins these two. Indeed, it is not I who is joining these two today at all, nor is it this ceremony.

We are not here to mark the start of a relationship; we are here to recognize a bond that already exists. _______ and _______ have joined themselves together, and we have gathered so that they might bear witness before us of the oneness that has grown up between them. Here, they will affirm this oneness and this dedication formally and publicly, as they have already affirmed it to each other. As they now exist as one in their own eyes; so may they exist in yours. This union has already occurred in the giving and receiving of their love and in the myriad ways in which they have entwined their lives together.

We are here to witness their statement of love and commitment. This is an act as ancient as the human race, and as new as each morning, for it speaks of the past and of the future, of the life of the individual and the existence of the community.

Marriage is a going forth, a giving up of one way in search of a greater fulfillment than either can achieve alone, risking what they are for what they might be. _______ and _______ come now to declare their love and solemnize their commitment. Today we celebrate their faith in the continuance of that growth as they come to be united in marriage.

 

Meditation on Marriage -

 

Eternal God, creative source of life, in the midst of which we live and move and have our being; in thy name are we met together, to witness and to bless the union of these two lives. May they be a blessing and a comfort, each to the other, sharers of each other's joys, consolers of each other’s sorrows, helpers of each other, in all the chances and changes of the world. In perfect love and creative peace, may they keep themselves, fulfilling in their very beings the laws of creative life. Amen.

 

Reading from “Blessing of the Hands”

 

 

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children. These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

 

Song ~

Selected by the Groom

 

Recitation of Vows & Exchange of Rings

 

Pronouncement of Marriage

 

Song ~

Song selected by Bride & Groom

 

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RockinRarity

A couple things:

 

The order for procession should probably be:

 

Groom

Bridesmaids & Groomsmen

Matron of Honor and Best Man

Ring Bearer & Flower Girl

Stepfather & Bride

 

I say this because this is how most weddings are ordered... this is so that the matron of honor and best man can be seated right next to the bride and groom, making it easier for them to stand next to you as you say your vows. Also, that is traditionally the order, so for it to get mixed up might confuse people as they go down the aisle.

 

Is this a Christian wedding? If it is, maybe some of your songs should be songs that you would sing at church. Essentially the songs that my fiance and I have picked for our wedding praise God for his love and mercy for us because He is the one that has taught us these things, and we can celebrate our marriage together because of what He has done for us on the cross and in our lives.

 

And if you want my REALLY HONEST opinion... the reading that you picked is nice. But I think that it lacks depth. It uses powerful words like "sacred" and "eternally," but to what end? The poem does not convey why these things are true, or even practical application for achieving true love... because this poem also seems to treat love like an automatic and destined thing, where if the fire of love dies, then that must mean that it's not true love. But that is not true!! Again, if it is a Christian wedding, in my opinion, go with a reading from the book for First John chapter 4. That whole chapter talks about love of God and love of neighbor. If it is not a Christian wedding but some other religious wedding, then my suggestion would be to use a different religious reading about love.

 

But like I said, it is just my opinion, and you can take it or leave it. Because it is, after all, YOUR wedding. I am planning my own wedding so I don't need to try to make your wedding how I would like it, haha.

 

Good luck with all your planning. Don't procrastinate on stuff, don't go crazy, and don't shy away from getting people's RSVPs because you need your final count by a certain day and there are gonna be some people who just don't RSVP or they lost their invitation or it got lost in the mail... and choosing vendors who don't charge you an arm and a leg for their products is also a plus.

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Lightning Bliss

I deeply appreciate your advice and will take notes on the rearranging. However despite this is a close realtions to a Christian wedding, me and my fiance arent going to be all traditional. For instance some of our music choies are gonna be a bit hip, or playful and not so much churchy since we arent gonna be in a church. We have a bit of a Sci Fi theme going for us so we are being more flexible with the music.

 

As for the True Love word, it was something I found to branch away from being too godly involved. I am Christian but I'm not obessed and a bit more openminded, whilst my fiance isnt religious at all but wants to keep some traditions in. So the notes on the organization of who comes first that will defienatly help me out. I may give the True Love word another look and might even write or look for another, but far as I can tell its as best as what me and my fiance aim for. Again I appreciate the opinon and will be re-editing this more since I now have the songs we want to use lol

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