Facebook Parenting for the Troubled Teen

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Alright, firstly, I'M NOT Saying what the Daughter did was WRONG. It is wrong. Yeah, I get that it is wrong. Yes, the father has a right to be mad. But using force to solve problems is WRONG and on par with a fear relationship.

 

Spanking is already incredibly bad as proven by several social and scientific analysis. Parental relationships are key and if a parent uses force to control the child, then that child will have a lower parental connection.

 

A child is essentially a blank slate. When you shout, yell, kick, spank, or threaten a child, even with the most mundane things, it writes that into a child. Subconsciously. Even at the age of 15, parental relationships are even more important at that age. What that father did is despicable, abhorrently terrible, and repulsive.

 

You say that child will not see that as an act of force, well she will. Even at Age 15, a child still has lots of space in the brain to observe and mimic. Force does not induce respect through love. Force induces respect through fear. That child may look normal and comply normally, but will do so out of fear.

 

Rather than punishment, why not sit down and chat with the child? Why not actually talk to the child? A teenager's act of rebellion is either a cry for attention or a cry for acceptance. Talk to the child. Reason with her. Explain to her the dangers of her post. Monitor her social life for a few months.

 

While not all Southerners aren't maniacs, that one is. That is NOT how a normal family functions.

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Alright, firstly, I'M NOT Saying what the Daughter did was WRONG. It is wrong. Yeah, I get that it is wrong. Yes, the father has a right to be mad. But using force to solve problems is WRONG and on par with a fear relationship. Spanking is already incredibly bad as proven by several social and scientific analysis. Parental relationships are key and if a parent uses force to control the child, then that child will have a lower parental connection. A child is essentially a blank slate. When you shout, yell, kick, spank, or threaten a child, even with the most mundane things, it writes that into a child. Subconsciously. Even at the age of 15, parental relationships are even more important at that age. What that father did is despicable, abhorrently terrible, and repulsive. You say that child will not see that as an act of force, well she will. Even at Age 15, a child still has lots of space in the brain to observe and mimic. Force does not induce respect through love. Force induces respect through fear. That child may look normal and comply normally, but will do so out of fear. Rather than punishment, why not sit down and chat with the child? Why not actually talk to the child? A teenager's act of rebellion is either a cry for attention or a cry for acceptance. Talk to the child. Reason with her. Explain to her the dangers of her post. Monitor her social life for a few months. While not all Southerners aren't maniacs, that one is. That is NOT how a normal family functions.

You don't know what happened after this. And you nor I can know what is going on in her mind or what will happen to her mind. You and me as mere primates, cannot posses this knowledge.

 

I was spanked as a child and turned out to be perfectly fine. The only reason I was spanked, was to get my mind to snap out of what ever fit I was in, and it worked. Have you seen how animals treat their young? It can be brutal. We, humans (the animals we are) picked that up. We disipline our children in different ways. Social norms can change that. Sure, maybe spanking fucks a kid up for the rest of his life. Maybe not (my case). And I have a younger brother who I have spanked. Hes fine as well. The whole pooint of what the father was doing, was to teach her a lesson. What if she said about her father 20 years later about her BOSS? He might find it, and he will fire her. Then she will have no means of supporting herself. That is what he tought her. What she gets from it, we may never know. But her father isn't beating her, or raping her. He home seemed to be perfectly dandy from what CPS says.

 

The point is. What can we do? Should the governement come into this families home and take her away? Should we regulate spanking? And having the luxery of having a child moniterd, is something that could never be done with every child. If that is what you suggest, then I would have had this done to me years ago. I was a shit child for a while. And I got hard punishments. One thing my mom made me do? GET A JOB. Yes I was in highschool, and worked small hours, but it tought me responsibility. And gave me the chance to work with people. (There was a video response of someone at a local coffee shop offering her a job.)

 

But I will still have to disagree with you on the ground that, she will be psycologically damaged and haunted by this in her subconscious. I guess we will have to agree that YOU don't know that will happen. And I don't know what will happen.