Don't worry, LF, i know this feeling, my dad also drink and drive, but i don't like it, all i can do is to get worried and pray for him to get home safe (since i don't live with him) and i learned something: you can't change someone's nature, you just have to love and tolerate him the way he is, or deal with it do something that shows how his life is at risk while doing it.

As someone that actually crashed their car due to drunk driving i know how you feel. I got lucky in that I had a friend with me and we didn't kill anybody and neither of us were hurt. The cops showed up of course and my friend tried to concoct a story for the cops saying that i swerved to avoid a dog on the road. The cops didn't buy the story and when it was my turn i told them exactly what happened and how much i had to drink over what period of time. The cops left me off easy with only a 24hr license suspension.

   I couldn't deal with the loss of my car (write off) so a binge drank for three days straight. I felt so ill by the third day my legs were on fire and I had awake hearing hillucinations for two days. It litterally took a whole week for my body and head to start feeling normal again.

   I quit drinking for two whole years before my head finally cleared enough that i think right again and learn to drink responsibly. Even today I almost never drink and it's never to exess. (breaks down your dna after all) I'm also no longer friends with the people i drank with.

  I think what would concern me is that you dad said he'd lay off the hard alcohol. That still leaves that open to interpretations which from my experience still says he will be drinking more of the less hard stuff.
  Admittedly I can't say for sure as i don't know your family and only my experience but i did go to AA for a year.
  Your story is an example of things that you don't see as a drinker and that includes the harm one brings to others (thus, a pony darketh the earth; and grew to be resentful) I'm glad that i was finally able to see the light. Unfortunately, I can also say from experience that one does not quit drinking until they choose to. After all, that is the power of choice.

I'm glad to hear it's gotten better. I've honestly gotten really worried when you told me...that...and I think you're really brave to stand up to him. Very brave indeed.

I'm glad to hear it's gotten better. I've honestly gotten really worried when you told me...that...and I think you're really brave to stand up to him. Very brave indeed.

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However like Twilight said, he only mentioned hard alcohol which still leaves opportunity for those... moments... and like I said, he's said things like this before and not kept his promises.

That must have taken a ton of guts. You should be proud of yourself, it's never easy to stand up and speak out in these situations, but someone had to and I'm glad you did. I only hope he takes it to heart. I'll be praying for both of you.