Why are you single?

[Clawdeen 14,862]

I can see why I’m single now 💀 

 

[GodlyWolf Gusty 2,148]

Basically anyone I developed feelings for, never feels the same way for me and vise versa. Now in life, looks don't really matter. I'll accept you and you flaws and hope you'll accept me with mine. But I guess we will see if life decides to grant me this luxury 

[Impulse 477]

9 hours ago, Clawdeen said:

I can see why I’m single now 💀 

 

why  the emoticon xd

[Clawdeen 14,862]

5 hours ago, shyponeh said:

why  the emoticon xd

I use it to express the feeling "I'm dead/I've died". I have to make do with my tablets Skull emoji to express that unless we plan to add a dead pony emoticon.

[Retro*Derpy 3,186]

I feel like I'm approachable, but I'm just to shy I suppose. I don't like to start the engagment even if I really like the person. Being sad and alone doesn't hurt as bad as rejection. 

[Sunny_Skyes 148]

Only guys are ever interested in me.

I only like girls, if I have never said that on here before.

Edited June 17, 2024 by Sunny_Skyes

[Justin_Case001 4,896]

Because I am completely undatable.  I am incapable and/or unwilling to do any of the things in life that are required to make a person datable.

[The Kaeya Simp 13,989]

Because people dont want to date me 

Mostly because I'm not the most mentally stable, and transgender 

[Rafa Stary 3,213]

Because I like to be single in real life, I'm already happy enough with my beautiful 2D wife 

[BritishBrony2012 821]

Cos I don't see myself in a relationship,

Not great with ladies, 

Life hard enough and diffcult,

Still living with my mum and nearly 40, 

Not be the person they want me to be.

 

 

[Bright Honor 2,678]

Shyness, not that great with people sometimes, and honestly i am not sure if I work in today's dating culture. It sure is a lot more competitive now. I don't really want kids so that kinda limits the pool for me too.

Edited April 29, 2024 by Bright Honor

[Rock-O-Jello 221]

My ex-boyfriend made a couple of callous "jokes", so I dumped him.

[donutmasterjoe 202]

Maybe because I'm a hermit. Maybe because I'm obsessed with My Little Pony and Care Bears. Maybe because I'm letting my beard grow into a neckbeard. Maybe because the men I'm into aren't interest in me. Maybe because I'm socially awkward and seen as a weirdo when I try to talk. Or, maybe, the only reason afterall is that I'm not searching enough for anypony, that I'm waiting it'll come to me as a delusional teenager despite being an adult now, or that I use 'anypony' in such discussions.

[Xada 413]

Because i don't socialize much.

[Iforgotmybrain 5,734]

I just don’t really feel like putting much effort into dating right now honestly.

[Evil Pink One 13,507]

Because i aint double hahaa get it

[~Chaos~ 3,967]

I'm single because I enjoy being just that. Don't want to be in a relationship 

[Moch 133]

I'm single because I'm not emotionally mature enough to date and waste someones time 

[Igloostellar Snow 1,325]

Haha, because I'm a child.

[Starlight Serenade 3,428]

I am single because I broke up with my last partner in the past year. We were together for around three years. It was an amicable breakup and we still talk to each other once in a while. Yes, you can still have a healthy relationship with an ex, as long as you can discuss things like adults. I always thought it was childish when one side refuses to speak to another or makes things super dramatic.

Every situation is different, but as you grow older, you must understand that relationships are very nuanced and layered.

I did meet some really cool people that interested me here in the past few months and admittedly even had a new crush on someone a little while back; however, a crush is simply a lack of information, and once I learned more about them... well I wasn't into them anymore.

[Winter Storm 244]

4 hours ago, Starlight Serenade said:

I am single because I broke up with my last partner in the past year. We were together for around three years. It was an amicable breakup and we still talk to each other once in a while. Yes, you can still have a healthy relationship with an ex, as long as you can discuss things like adults. I always thought it was childish when one side refuses to speak to another or makes things super dramatic.

Every situation is different, but as you grow older, you must understand that relationships are very nuanced and layered.

I did meet some really cool people that interested me here in the past few months and admittedly even had a new crush on someone a little while back; however, a crush is simply a lack of information, and once I learned more about them... well I wasn't into them anymore.

How do you even get so far as to learn so much about someone else here? I swear I feel like I can barely communicate with people beyond basic interactions.

[Clawdeen 14,862]

I’ve given the same reasoning multiple times. I really just do not like dating apps and they’ve also started to die off in my area. I’m mostly being shown people at least a half hour away. I rejoined bumble recently. I’ve got +700 people interested on me on bumble and it was even more prior to all the left swiping I do which brings the number down. The problems are for one thing people don’t bother to write any information about them. They use bumble like tinder now. I can’t go by just a picture of your face on whether or not we have anything in common or are going to get along. Sure you might be physically attractive but really if we have nothing in common or you’ve got a poor personality it’s not gonna work with me regardless of your looks. I auto left swipe people with blank bios. Along with the people who just put their social media username in their bio. I’m not gonna follow you. Theres also an increasing amount of bots and spammers on these apps.

The people I have matched with either don’t respond to your message at all, the convo dies out or they’re just bad at making conversation. I can’t put in all the effort on trying to get to know someone. You gotta give me something. If you act like you don’t want to be talking with me or on a date with me I can pick up on that and I’ll just end it. I’ve ran into this a few times and some of these individuals actually wanted a second date. It has me like but why? So you can play around on your phone and ignore me some more? You’re sitting there having coffee and trying to have a conversation with them while they’re on their phone the whole time. It’s rude.
 

Dating is so exhausting. I’ve dealt with people leading me on. I’ve dealt with people who were actually taken(not poly) and attempting to cheat on their spouse. I’ve been catfished by verified profiles. I’ve now got people interested in me solely because they see my job title and think I have a lot of money. People are now even trying to pass off ai generated images as their real photos or photots of themself. Trying to date has been an absolute circus these past years and I’m burnt out from it. My focus is now more on me, healing my issues and the kitten rolling around on my floor right now.

 

[Starlight Serenade 3,428]

14 hours ago, Winter Storm said:

How do you even get so far as to learn so much about someone else here? I swear I feel like I can barely communicate with people beyond basic interactions.

What I have learned over time is that connecting with people over shared interests is key. Whenever you ask people about their favorite hobbies and likes during interactions, you may also learn what they dislike. However, not everyone will want to engage deeply with you and that's okay. Do not take it personally. Some times people are busy or not in the mood for certain conversations.

I used to be much more open to discussions, but I'm currently reorganizing my life and focusing on people whom I feel that I have genuine connections with in my personal messages.

I found out over time that the more I interact with others with genuine passion and curiosity that the more meaningful conversations I make. In due time, you will be able to distinguish between potential friends and people who are just casual acquaintances. Essentially be patient, authentic, and open when interacting with others, and I truly believe that you will make friends. Don't give up.

[Starlight Serenade 3,428]

13 hours ago, Clawdeen said:

I’ve given the same reasoning multiple times. I really just do not like dating apps and they’ve also started to die off in my area. I’m mostly being shown people at least a half hour away. I rejoined bumble recently. I’ve got +700 people interested on me on bumble and it was even more prior to all the left swiping I do which brings the number down. The problems are for one thing people don’t bother to write any information about them. They use bumble like tinder now. I can’t go by just a picture of your face on whether or not we have anything in common or are going to get along. Sure you might be physically attractive but really if we have nothing in common or you’ve got a poor personality it’s not gonna work with me regardless of your looks. I auto left swipe people with blank bios. Along with the people who just put their social media username in their bio. I’m not gonna follow you. Theres also an increasing amount of bots and spammers on these apps.

The people I have matched with either don’t respond to your message at all, the convo dies out or they’re just bad at making conversation. I can’t put in all the effort on trying to get to know someone. You gotta give me something. If you act like you don’t want to be talking with me or on a date with me I can pick up on that and I’ll just end it. I’ve ran into this a few times and some of these individuals actually wanted a second date. It has me like but why? So you can play around on your phone and ignore me some more? You’re sitting there having coffee and trying to have a conversation with them while they’re on their phone the whole time. It’s rude.
 

Dating is so exhausting. I’ve dealt with people leading me on. I’ve dealt with people who were actually taken(not poly) and attempting to cheat on their spouse. I’ve been catfished by verified profiles. I’ve now got people interested in me solely because they see my job title and think I have a lot of money. People are now even trying to pass off ai generated images as their real photos or photots of themself. Trying to date has been an absolute circus these past years and I’m burnt out from it. My focus is now more on me, healing my issues and the kitten rolling around on my floor right now.

 

Wow! This, I totally understand where you are coming from. I tried dating apps many years ago and they are simply frustrating especially when people have no real intention or interest in dating you. Some people just want to be in a relationship so that they can say that they have a partner and not want to be in a true relationship. I recall and found it annoying when people shared only their social media handles, but they could not spend a moment to write a short bio about themselves.

It was one of the reasons why I am completely away from social media nowadays. Sorry, but some people have the personality of a shoe. I recall being on dates with people who were more interested with being on their phones rather than connecting with me in person.

Also I really dislike the amount of people I encountered who were seeing others or were in relationships behind their partner's backs. It's sad what the state of dating that we are in nowadays. 

I am still in the search of a long term and serious relationship as casual dating was never my thing.

I think focusing on your own self-healing and happiness is the way to go! Your kitten sounds like a great addition to your family. Hang in there buddy.

[Clawdeen 14,862]

16 hours ago, Starlight Serenade said:

Wow! This, I totally understand where you are coming from. I tried dating apps many years ago and they are simply frustrating especially when people have no real intention or interest in dating you. Some people just want to be in a relationship so that they can say that they have a partner and not want to be in a true relationship. I recall and found it annoying when people shared only their social media handles, but they could not spend a moment to write a short bio about themselves.

It was one of the reasons why I am completely away from social media nowadays. Sorry, but some people have the personality of a shoe. I recall being on dates with people who were more interested with being on their phones rather than connecting with me in person.

Also I really dislike the amount of people I encountered who were seeing others or were in relationships behind their partner's backs. It's sad what the state of dating that we are in nowadays. 

I am still in the search of a long term and serious relationship as casual dating was never my thing.

I think focusing on your own self-healing and happiness is the way to go! Your kitten sounds like a great addition to your family. Hang in there buddy.

Yeah the people with just their social media in their bio give me vibes of people just wanting to accumulate followers on that platform. Apps originally started out well as people originally used them to meet others. But over time they've just turned into a cesspool especially with how much they charge people for premium. I've never paid for them but the people I've spoken to that have had said the same thing. It's overly expensive and not worth it.  

 I also think it's a sad state of dating we're in. I don't ever remember the standard being so high in regards to looks as it is now. I've seen people really put themselves into debt trying to keep up with todays standards all in hopes that someone might love them. Botox, fillers, lip fillers, high dollar skincare, etc. It's all expensive. Doesn't help with influencers pushing it so hard now. Some of these skincare brands being pushed aren't very good. I used one brand a few months ago and it destroyed my skin barrier to the point everything made my face burn. It itched horribly. Even water. My face couldn't even handle water from a shower. Red spots appearing immediately after anything touched my face. It took me two months to heal my face. I'm now able to put stuff on my face again and not have it burn/itch horribly. 

I had a friend message me saying she was going to buy this high dollar perfume (like 300 bucks) just to impress some guy when she's struggling with money. I'm like girl why are you spending so much just to impress someone, not only that most of these high dollar perfumes have cheaper dupes made out there. She's like because X, y and Z say you need to do this, this and this in todays dating scene. I've been sent a lot of insane stuff with a lot of views and likes. I think majority of the people following a lot of this bad advice are going to end up sad and alone. If you need to pay $700 per side of your face for fillers just to get someone to go on a date with you...I think that says a lot about the sort of person they are and how you're going to be treated by them. It doesn't really scream loving relationship if that's what you have to do to get them to "love" you.