So...the Forums....
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This is kind of a rant about what I've observed a whole lot lately on the forums, so if you're not one for rants, I'd imagine you'd know to not press this entry any further.
I don't really know if I'm considered an old-timer. I've seen some members who have been here since 2011; I think Zygen is one such member if I recall correctly. Despite this, things have changed so much on the forums and it is a change I dislike and even despise to a certain degree.
I remember when I first joined back in August of 2012, I had alot of happy and wonderful people to greet me. For the longest time I don't remember a whole lot of sadness being amongst the forums; it wasn't put out in the open, it was at the very least confined to the Life Advice section. But as many of you can tell, people have pretty much taken their grief to status updates and or blogs.
My main issue is not the fact that there is so much sadness (although that does disturb me a bit, but what can one do?), it's more of the fact it's so openly advertised. I swear to God, It has been a long time since I've seen the lack of a depressive status update for a whole day. It's rare for an hour to pass by where there isn't one status update that bears presence of neither happiness nor hope. I am aware it's possible I will get hate for this, but so be it. In all honesty, I am quite annoyed at some people on these forums. There are people who have bad days, I hold not contempt for them, there are people who are depressed but are trying to hold on to what little semblance of hope they have left, unable to let a few depressive statuses leak out, I hold not contempt for them either. It is those who are so utterly determined to remain in sorrow, to remain in depression, and intend to do nothing but complain and wallow in pity, not caring who they bring down with them. I grant you this, I have wallowed in my own self-pity on occasions, even I am not exempt from it, but even I, myself, when enough time had passed had grown sick of being sad and began to sincerely look for a solution, yet it seems there is no end for some people; it seems all they want to do with their lives is sit in the depths of darkness without even considering how it affects others, much less how to get out of it.
It bothers me even more that these people care not to express themselves in the Life Advice section. I mean, does anyone have any doubt that it was the reason it was put there in the first place, for people who are sad and upset can go to vent and/or receive help? They do not articulate their anguish in a section it is meant to be articulated in, but instead do so in the openness of status updates. Has it ever occurred to anyone that there are people who may not wish to see a status talking about the hopeless of life or the desires of ending it in every other status? Do I like helping people? Yes, I do, but do I enjoy seeing a bunch of status updates from people who half of the time will only reply to an act of kindness with some snide and smart-ass remark? No, I don't, in fact I do indeed despise it. When people attempted to help me, I tried myself to get out of the dark pit, I asked them the questions I had pondered that had kept me within the confines of said pit, I asked for their advice and their opinions, I asked for their answers to the questions, and within time I rediscovered myself, but when people are given the chance over and over again and do nothing more than reply with a smart-ass and uncaring responses, it shows me that they do not care about reaching happiness once more, and if they do not care about reaching happiness once more, then it is of my opinion that they have no right to complain.
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