Sadly it's a part of life with humans. I been complaining and even got depressed  on just how selfish people can be when it comes to friendship. I go out and try to make friends with people and like over 95% of them just don't want me around them after small chats to build up friendship.

Ones that do will most likely always be fake friends just to used the person friendship to get anything out of it. I had a best friend who I known since two years, changed on me months ago and he gotten more selfish. It's a long story to that.

Sometimes it just tiring to deal with these fake people. I'm not sure if you partly seeking for true friends but if you partly are, I would like to be your friend..

I'm sorry you feel that way. I want to make things better for you.

Thing is, Surprise, there are indeed individuals who aren't good with emotional and social conventions such as friendship. Not in the traditional sense. I, personally, am absolutely terrible at making small talk, and so I typically don't go out of my way to strike up conversations unless they're about more practical topics. It actually tends to perpetuate feelings of guilt and uselessness, for I am not at all able to properly convey my respect and admiration for the friend in the form of those warm, fuzzy feelings that can be instilled by idle chatter.

Of course, I am unfamiliar with Mr. Glimmerlicious's situation and yours, and I am sure that you both have indeed been subjected to abusive friendships. I am sorry to hear this, and can certainly empathise. Should either of you wish to add to the number of your close acquaintances (I will not be so presumptuous as to assume that I make for a good friend), then I would be more than willing to oblige. Do mind, though, that some of us genuinely are trying to connect, and want to; we just have absolutely no idea how to do it. It's like jumping straight past Calculus and into Differential Equations.

Now, for perhaps an even more controversial view: selfishness can be a boon to relationships. I don't speak of selfishness in the sense of greed and manipulation oft attributed to it. I speak of selfishness purely as having a sense of self. To love oneself enough to improve one's life that they may extend the same kindness they have shown themselves, to others, and have it be absolutely genuine. Too often have I seen people make claims of and for selflessness, and too often have I seen the same people despair over their lack of esteem and actions. When one lives for others, and gives away that sense of self, then they begin to base their worth on ever-changing external values. The connections they forge with people under the flag of selflessness become pieces of a fragile shell holding itself together, and at some point, when a piece is removed (be it by the worry that some form of external validation is no longer true, or by an action perceived to have an ill intent that doesn't truly exist), that shell begins to crumble.

This is not to excuse any violation of the boundaries and trust on the part of people selfish in the sense of greed. That can never lead to a fruitful relationship, and it absolutely baffles me that there are individuals who can behave in such a manner towards others deserving of a principle respect as a human being. What I am suggesting, simply, is that, when it comes to friendships, people should be allowed to take time for themselves to grow, before they can start helping others grow in turn, otherwise it's just a husk of a relationship that could be, that can fall apart at the first sign of trouble.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just a bit too sentimental when it comes to depth in a relationship over any superficial emotions and experiences. It could well be that I have a very different idea of what friendship is compared to others, as suggested by my own little rant. But I truly believe that striving for that depth, that understanding, that ability to speak out and push through a difficulty with your friend, and strengthen the bond in the process, is vital for a successful relationship. I'd take a friend like that over one more concerned with warm, fuzzy feelings any day.

Welcome to the game of life. The objective is to stay alive, have offspring, keep them alive, and help them get offspring too for the game to continue. Everyone loses when there are no more humans

Straight sex makes babies, money/resources help people stay alive, war eliminates enemies who want to end your game. Good luck and play well

Don't ask for others to help you for nothing in their return if you don't do things for them for nothing in your own return. You'll be a hypocrite. But even if you do things for others without any return, stop it. You're making a tool out of yourself when you clearly want to be someone's friend. Associate with someone who will trade equally with you. Be valued and value others

I have a similar ish view.  I am sick of seeing all the damage that is being done to this planet and seeing  all the greed.  It is just awful seeing what people will do for money sometimes or what they will do to get ahead.  I am also fed up with seeing idiotic hate for certain people.  

So being selfish automatically equals being a jerk? It seems pretty logical to me why people would care about themselves more than others, at least from my point of view. I do so too. Why judge all people that way though? It's not like everyone is selfish and greedy just because the people you know apparently are. I say accept it. It is just how the world looks like. If you literally mean that people around you never do things for you, it might be time for a change of company.

I have a similar ish view.  I am sick of seeing all the damage that is being done to this planet and seeing  all the greed.  It is just awful seeing what people will do for money sometimes or what they will do to get ahead.  I am also fed up with seeing idiotic hate for certain people.  

I too am sick of the damage done to the planet in favor of big companies, etc. However, it is not their reasons for doing it that annoys me. They do it for money and their own desires, of course they do, and I don't really care. What I do care about on the other hand is that these people are going against my will and my desires. Say, if you had a big red button that instantly would kill ten thousand people from a country far away in exchange for assurance that you and everyone you hold dear will live long and healthy lives, would you press it? Actually, you don't need to tell me but just think about it. I know what I would do. I'd slam that button without hesitation. Does that make me selfish? Yes, of course. Does it make me a jerk? I don't know.

Thats how the world works sadly. Sometimes there is truth in that Sharp mouth. If you cant feel positive atleast be quiet i dont know if im trying to be sarcastic