Do you know of Lord Alfred Tennyson? If not maybe you know his famous quote from his poem "In Memoriam A.H.H."

"'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

Essentially it is saying that love is such an important experience that even the pain of losing someone you love is better than not having loved that person at all. It's an idiom used by many people, and, in my personal opinion, I disagree with what this quote states.

Love is such a fantastic emotion. So immensely large and powerful that finding words to describe it can be hard. Death is an awful event, especially when it is tragic or otherwise unexpected and sudden. I disagree with Tennyson because, in my opinion, the pain of losing a loved one is something that overtakes the previous notion of love.

I loved my wife. I truly can't use words to say how much I loved her. Her death changed me. That pain haunts me everyday and I can't lose it. I will forever love my wife, but I think that never having met her and not falling in love with her would've been the better option. Losing her love is not better. I have debated this constantly and I know that life, at least for her, would've been better without me in it.

I'd have rather never found love than having my true love taken from me so tragically. It seems like a pessimistic view on it, but I won't change my opinion on this. Though I love her with so much of my being I still feel that not having even known her would've been better.

I knew I loved her since I first saw her. Being with her was a feeling of pure amazement. I can't describe it still. This is my take on this quote. Is it right? No, because thousands of people have analyzed this quote and came to their own conclusions on it.

My take is from personal experience. Yeah, it's depressive because of what happened to me and rather biased because of my experience, but that's my take on it...