All I needed to see was 'I Like My Little Pony". According to Saberspark, a very prominent Brony, that is all the definition is for a Brony. Don't fear, man, you are A Brony. If the community is not for you, then so be it. (I should point out I love Brony music and the community in general, so maybe you don't want my advice)

If you like the show then you're a brony. I am a gamer, but the gaming community is full of idiots. That doesn't mean I am not one just because I don't like the community. Also, brony music? People talk of "brony music" like it's a genre. There are lots of different kinds of music made by bronies, electro, metal, rock and lots more! It's like calling any song made by girls "girl music". It just sounds silly to me .

I mostly avoid the community as well, to be honest. I RP ponies because I'm an avid roleplayer and I like to RP stuff, not really because it's ponies. Hardcore bronies are far too much for me, and I get a little weirded out by people who stay they hate earth and want to live in Equestria. I also don't think love and tolerate is a particularly realistic philosophy, and don't believe it in myself.

So really, I feel you. Most of the time, within all the memes and stuff, I feel out of place in the community too. I just enjoy the show, and I create art because I like to draw it, but I'm not really IN LOVE with it like some people are. You can still be a fan of the show. Most of the time, I keep to myself in the things I like and stay away from their communities. I find my experiences better that way. You're just not a community goer.

You don't have to like the community to be a brony. I'm a big Sonic fan but I can't stand the community. It's always "The old games are better because I said so. How dare Sega try to mix it up and keep Sonic from going stale" Oh and don't get me started on the Pokemon fanbase.