So, this is nothing like a short thought of mine...

I know a few people (in real life I mean) who have a minor problem with their posture.

And I mean it in the sense of the word, physically.

Now it´s something I didn´t really give a flying **** about earlier, but had to realize that it´s more important than I tought it was, in a lot of situations in real life (doesn´t matter if at the club, at a party, at a job interview or just when you meet friends/ get to know people). Especially for men, that is, but I can only speak for myself, so: derp.

The thing is that a lot of people you´ll meet, especially guys when getting to know other guys will judge you on your 1st impression (rivalry under men, all that jokes), they look at you and know by your posture: "that is a guy I wouldn´t mess with" or "this is a friendly, self-assured but calm guy" or "this is a wuss" (again, it doesn´t matter if in casual life or at a job interview). That doesn´t belong to all cases, but it happens very often, at least to me.

Now, if a person once has this idea of you it´s pretty hard to get that off of him. Means, if he thinks you are weak, he will treat you like it, and he´ll keep doing it.

The first impression is just pretty important... So, some people are just the type who usually don´t like to look people in the eye, walk in small steps (literally) and have their shoulders and arms hanging. Not a problem if you do that at home, but if you are socializing that can be a curse.

I don´t mean to say you should walk around like the genuine douchebag, I´d just tell ya to ffs look at your posture in certain situations.

It isn´t really hard to just seem strong (even if you don´t feel like it, geez, now don´t go like "you´re faking!") and it can help you so much and spare you a hell of a lot of bad times.

You probably can imagine what you should do, how your posture should be, but just to tell you my opinion:

1.

Look people in the eye. That doesn´t mean to make eye contact with every random guy running around, but if you talk to someone, make at least somewhat eye contact with them. But please don´t make a game of "who blinks first" of it, ffs.

2.

A firm handshake (especially for interviews, but in other cases, too). When you give someone the hand you wanna look them in the eye, short, but you should. And you don´t have to grab their hand like you wanna rip it off, but if they have a firm handshake yours should be firm, too.

(Before someone is awkward, if you give a girl the hand you usually shouldn´t do it that firm...)

3:

You wanna have your shoulders "up", not hanging. It can look cool if you just slouch along, but usually it´s not that much of a good idea to run around with your shoulders hanging and inbound. It might seem archaic, but it really makes a better impression if you walk just.

(That mustn´t mean you should walk like you swallowed a broom or are a soldier on parade, or have you shoulders so far up that they constantly make contact with your ears)

4:

Keep your head up. xD I know how that sounds, but seriously... if you walk around looking at the ground in front of your shoes like you are searching for coins constantly that won´t make you seem very self-assured.

Of course all of that is just how I do it, and how I experienced it. If you think different do your thing (and to most people everything I wrote here won´t be big news, so *lol*).