Ugh, I feel for you. I, personally, do not want children. And honestly... whenever the topic of kids comes up, I've learned to just not say anything, lest I be jumped on with the age old adage of "You'll change your mind!" As though I'll hit some mystical age where my entire personality does a backflip and I feel the irrepressible urge to procreate.

Even if I did want kids, I'd feel completely horrible if people were trying to rush me into it. What you do with your body should be done at your own pace.

My wife and I decided, before we got married even, that children would not be wise. The two of us have enough wrong genetically that passing a combination of it on to a child would be extremely unfair to that child. If the child survived, which according to the doctors wasn't necessarily a given and may not even be probable. Especially since we got together relatively late in life.

So you can imagine the response from our parents when we told them that. That was over ten years ago now, and we still get flak.

It's your child, not their child. In all honesty, they have no right to impose upon you like this. Your mom wanting a grandchild is not more important than whether or not you are ready to have a child.

If you and your husband want children, you should go for it when you are both ready to do that, without regard to whether or not anyone else is ready.

LOL, I really like the humor you put into this blog even though it deals with some serious well meaning but misguided pressure from loved ones. Sigh. First they ask when are you going to get married. Then they ask when are you going to have kids.

I'm sorry you're being hassled like that. Just thank them for their concern and remind them that you're very happy with where you're at right now. In the mean time, they can go out and rent some grandchildren if they like.