What's so great about being female?
I really wanted for this to be a forum post, but I think it might be a bit too self-centric and rambly for the forums... I just hope I can get some sort of actual response...
I want to preface this with saying that I'm not trying to tear down women or femininity. I'm not trying to tear down anyone's view of these things either. I'm simply trying to understand, which is why I'm asking. I also ask you to recognize that I'm not you, and I may see the exact same thing you see as an advantage as a burden.
I'm just wondering, what's good about being female? Everything I associate with being female has to do with being marginalized, oppressed, objectified or stereotyped. This may have to do with the fact that I'm agender, but I just can't see anything really good about being female, and the recognition of such tends to bring more bad than good.
I looked up lists about this sort of thing, and the vast majority of the answers were either tongue-in-cheek ("So-and-so is female,") don't apply to me ("We can wear make-up," I hate wearing make-up...) or are incidental things ("Women live longer," And? I can control that? Furthermore, that affects how society sees me?)
I just can't see the benefit of being female and it tends to bring me a lot of frustration and sadness. I don't believe I'm transgender. I have no problem with my body at all. I just can't help but constantly wish that that body didn't affect every aspect of the way people look at and treat me. Especially since they're trying to peg me with something I don't even identify as. Why should I have to change the way my body looks for people to treat me how I feel? That's some bullshit. Why isn't physical sex and the views surrounding it more incidental? Why do I have to be shoved into this box that I don't fit into? And anyway, even if I were to change sex, I don't think that would solve anything. I just think I'd have all the same problems from a different angle.
If I'm unconvinced by responses... well... I don't quite know what that says about me... Yeah...
I'm really tired and blithering, but I wanna know if there's any reason I should even like my physical sex outside of, well, sex. I dunno. I guess I'm done talking about it for the moment. I appreciate your responses. Thanks.
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