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Why I Don't Want a Girlfriend (or Boyfriend, You Never Know...)


Otter

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It seems like all the time, be it here on the forums, on Facebook, or any number of other sites, I see people who have been completely destroyed by a break-up or some such similar circumstances. (Unintentional Alliteration FTW) My brother recently broke up with his girlfriend, whom he had significant feelings for. She didn't return them. The break-up hurt him a lot. Everywhere, I see an ever-increasing number of broken relationships, and I just don't need that.

 

I like being a loner. I don't need a significant other; they'd just weigh me down. Also, I'm way to selfish to provide for someone else. It'll be bad enough supporting only myself, I can't imagine trying to pay for a wife and possible a child. And although I find members of the opposite gender attractive, I've never felt any need for a relationship. I'm not quite sure why, but I just find the prospect of a relationship bothersome.

 

Now, you're probably thinking: "Well HT, you say that now..." I honestly don't think I'll ever find the idea of a relationship to be a favorable one. Also, I'm not exactly very friendly in real life. (Not like I'm that friendly on here either, but I'm certainly more amiable on here than in real life.) Outside of my group of close friends, I usually act pretty irritable. Of course, I'm not, but how's anyone else supposed to know that?

 

But yeah, I don't think my lifestyle is suited for more than one person. Maybe I'll buy a VW Van and travel the country like a deranged hobo. Sounds fun enough...

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Just wanna comment on one thing that stuck out to me. You say that outside your close group of friends you act more irritable, but if you were to get a significant other then they would become one of your close friends thusly leaving you to act less irritable.

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But being that I'm irritable, no one wants to approach me. I haven't made a new IRL friend in years. I made all my good friends back when I was still a fresh little whelp, bright eyed, with no idea of what was to come... *ahem* Sorry. Anyway, yeah, I seriously doubt that someone would approach me, even if they did feel very strongly about me.

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It's good that you're not rushing things. Relationships are very tough to maintain. But maybe one day you'll be happy and content with a significant other.

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I quite agree with this. I mean, at this very moment, I have no need for relationships. I never liked relationships. I mean, why bother with the whole thing? I've no real sexual appetite, and to be quite honest, I can get the same emotional comfort from my friends.

 

Which is extremely beneficial, as I have an advantage over my peers! Haha! I shall be victorious! 

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You are just like me.

 

Relationships are nothing but trouble.

Then yet again, people overreact when someone leaves them.

 

The one thing that makes me facepalm so hard, is online relationships.

People actually think that they will stick together, even if they are from different countries?  To me its so obvious.

You become nothing but an obstacle. I'm sorry, but thats how it is.

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Relationships are very hard to maintain. You have to care about what the other person wants and sometimes give up your own goals for them. But they are very rewarding too. So you have to take the good with the bad on them :D

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i might have to leave my word here, as well.

 

i am a pretty selfish person myself, i admit. i've taken things from school, hell from other people, to further myself, even though my morals have kicked in at a few places where it has gone too far. and yet, i'm in a relationship since 2 years back that's probably going to last for like, ever, as cheesy as that might sound. selfishness doesn't necessarily have to impact a good relationship.

 

of course, from what i can see, you're really not interested in a relationship at all, whereas i've always had that in mind, so we differ on that point. i just wanted to say that.

 

 

You are just like me.

 

Relationships are nothing but trouble.

Then yet again, people overreact when someone leaves them.

 

The one thing that makes me facepalm so hard, is online relationships.

People actually think that they will stick together, even if they are from different countries?  To me its so obvious.

You become nothing but an obstacle. I'm sorry, but thats how it is.

relationships are troublesome when both parts doesn't equally love and trust each other. those two parts are main essentials for a relationship to stand on its feet. take that away, and it's BOUND to leave in broken bonds and heartpain.

 

also, i don't see how i am an "obstacle" in front of Fissy. we've been together for almost 2 years now, and i'm sure it's going to last much, much longer than that amount of time. online relationships CAN work if both parts work for it.

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i might have to leave my word here, as well.

 

i am a pretty selfish person myself, i admit. i've taken things from school, hell from other people, to further myself, even though my morals have kicked in at a few places where it has gone too far. and yet, i'm in a relationship since 2 years back that's probably going to last for like, ever, as cheesy as that might sound. selfishness doesn't necessarily have to impact a good relationship.

 

of course, from what i can see, you're really not interested in a relationship at all, whereas i've always had that in mind, so we differ on that point. i just wanted to say that.

 

 

relationships are troublesome when both parts doesn't equally love and trust each other. those two parts are main essentials for a relationship to stand on its feet. take that away, and it's BOUND to leave in broken bonds and heartpain.

 

also, i don't see how i am an "obstacle" in front of Fissy. we've been together for almost 2 years now, and i'm sure it's going to last much, much longer than that amount of time. online relationships CAN work if both parts work for it.

 

What i mean with that you are an obstacle is that you are holding him back for a real relationship. A relationhip where he is close to someone and someone he can hold close and love.

 

You and him share a few words on the internett, nothing more.

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What i mean with that you are an obstacle is that you are holding him back for a real relationship. A relationhip where he is close to someone and someone he can hold close and love.

 

You and him share a few words on the internett, nothing more.

a "real" relationship? it feels like you're implying that i'm in a fake kind of relationship saying that, which is entirely untrue. a relationship's a relationship, online or offline. nothing more to that.

 

true, he can't be near me right NOW, but is that a bad thing?  i'd like to think separation serves to enhance and make strong bonds in the long run, because you're able to determine, is it worth hanging around him/her? and i feel that it is worth having this kind of thing, than having nothing at all. hell, i probably wouldn't be here right now weren't it for him. for all i know, i might have jumped from the balcony at this point.

 

there's more to sharing a few words on the internet, you know. among other things, you can voice chat, video chat, send each other gifts, roleplay with each other...

 

there's far more to online relationships than sharing a few words on the internet, and nothing more.

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I already have my right ha--oh, yeah, joke's overdone

 

I prefer the company of the more rare species of hand,  Lefticus Handicus.

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Hmm. I am not currently in a relationship, but i must say i disagree with alot of people here, I am no super expert..but there are things you just figure out over time... Personally being single is overrated, it seems all fun and good but there will always be a hole and a void that no regular friend can fill, ALL dem late nights, and im not even talking sexually.

 

Alot of people equate relationships to "alot of work" that's where my "knowledge" on the subject differs, True meant-to-be relationships shouldn't actually take a ton of work, not too much more than a great friendship that is. Love embodies alot of things, you won't hurt them, lie to them, cheat on them, you will trust them, you will help them and accept help from them and so much more. If the love is real, HALF of the work is done, and the beautiful cycle of getting to know another person begins, Iunno, Like i said im not the man of 100 relationships by ANY MEANS. but i know the right one is nothing but joy. And being single....sucks.

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Hmm. I am not currently in a relationship, but i must say i disagree with alot of people here, I am no super expert..but there are things you just figure out over time... Personally being single is overrated, it seems all fun and good but there will always be a hole and a void that no regular friend can fill, ALL dem late nights, and im not even talking sexually.

 

Alot of people equate relationships to "alot of work" that's where my "knowledge" on the subject differs, True meant-to-be relationships shouldn't actually take a ton of work, not too much more than a great friendship that is. Love embodies alot of things, you won't hurt them, lie to them, cheat on them, you will trust them, you will help them and accept help from them and so much more. If the love is real, HALF of the work is done, and the beautiful cycle of getting to know another person begins, Iunno, Like i said im not the man of 100 relationships by ANY MEANS. but i know the right one is nothing but joy. And being single....sucks.

while i agree with your sentiment of people overthinking relationships as too much work and such, i do believe i have to disagree to your point with relationships with "the one" means not much work at all.

 

true, when you're being around a person you genuinely care about, and so does he/she, doesn't mean everything's going to be nice and dandy at the start. for one thing, how would you live together, when it should come to that? you'd both be able to have jobs that provide you a steady income to be able to survive, and then you have to share it with the other person. and with today's economy, it's HARD to get a good job. so maybe only one of you works, will the other person be okay with that? maybe he/she will feel useless not being able to contribute to the household.

 

maybe one of the persons have family and relatives the other one have a hard time being around? what if you're in a gay relationship? are they understanding of homosexuality? or beliefs, maybe one of the part is an atheist, the other one's family conservative christians. how will that work? and so on, and so on.

 

being in the right relationship DOES ease up things. but i wouldn't say it cures half of the work with a relationship. any relationship takes time and effort to nourish and flourish.

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