Questions for Transgenders.

[Onylex 2,837]

I know this might be a very neish question to post in a thread, due to it relying heavily on forum member % numbers but I'm fairly curious and optimistic about it so here goes nothing.

 

BTW:

My intention with these questions is not to be too impersonal nor get too personal. So please, feel free to leave questions unanswered if you're feeling uncomfortable.

 

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

(If so, in mostly positive or negative way?)  

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?

(Please explain why or why not)

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

(was it also difficult to make that decision?) 

 

Huge thanks in advance to those who post their answers.   

[Hastur 505]

Well, I'm pre-everything, so let's try this.

1) Well, my body structure has always been more...female than most others. So I was always pushed around for it. Ever since I have been open about becoming a full fledged woman, a mixture of negativity and positivity has found me. Though it is a 50/50

2) No, I can't say I have. But at the same time, it wasn't much of a choice for me. Unless you mean regretting coming out, well, yes, I did sometimes.

3) No, not yet.

4) My love life a dead dog in a ditch, but I've gotten used to at this point

5) Not really different, my aunts and cousins got all excited for me try their clothing for a while.

6) Positive: The fact that I now know that am being truthful with everyone my family.

Negative: the weight and sorrow that comes with trying to be beautiful, though it is hard to be content with my own beauty as I have not started transitioning yet.

7) I've been wanting to do this since I was able grasp the meaning and key differences between boys and girls.

 

 

Hope I helped!!!

Edited December 5, 2016 by Hastur

[Guest]

Well, I'm pre-everything, so let's try this.

1) Well, my body structure has always been more...female than most others. So I was always pushed around for it. Ever since I have been open about becoming a full fledged woman, a mixture of negativity and positivity has found me. Though it is a 50/50

2) No, I can't say I have. But at the same time, it wasn't much of a choice for me. Unless you mean regretting coming out, well, yes, I did sometimes.

3) No, not yet.

4) My love life a dead dog in a ditch, but I've gotten used to at this point

5) Not really different, my aunts and cousins got all excited for me try their clothing for a while.

6) Positive: The fact that I now know that am being truthful with everyone my family.

Negative: the weight and sorrow that comes with trying to be beautiful, though it is hard to be content with my own beauty as I have not started transitioning yet.

7) I've been wanting to do this since I was able grasp the meaning and key differences between boys and girls.

 

 

Hope I helped!!!

Yeah thanks I appreciate it. 

[honk friend 1,978]

It's not just a process that happens overnight, but I'll still try to answer most of your questions

1. I still get treated like a boy by my family but a girl by most of my friends, it's not something everyone can just grasp but it's still really frustrating

2. I don't have anything to regret in the first place since being trans isn't exactly something you choose

3. Not exactly, my "lifestyle" is just less jarring when people see me as a girl and not a boy

4. Quite well actually, I have a boyfriend and we have a lot in common

5. This is the one I can't answer, since again, there isn't really a solid end point to transitioning and it doesn't all just happen over night

6. Feeling comfortable in my body is a huge plus, considering the amount of people out there who hate trans people and go out of their way to bully and harass me, I'd say it evens out.

7. I would just like to emphasize that it isn't a choice

[Sphinx-Ara 3,569]

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

Yeah, I get called gay and such because I technically crossdress and such. I sometimes get odd looks at the bathroom (no matter which one I go to) but I also get a lot of people (on here) that tend to fall for me and compliment me.. heh

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?

Not at all, I've been happier than I've ever been

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

Well, there's the crossdressing, wearing bras, using the female toilets, having to shave a lot more and trying to lose weight so I can wear more feminine clothing

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

Pffft hahaha! Oh you were serious? Sorry, but actually it's the complete opposite. Before the change, I was having little to zero luck finding a partner, now though..well just read my profile and signature, there's more than those too..(open relationship)

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

I haven't had the surgery yet but if you mean first few days of switching gender, it was rather scary to be honest.

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

Positive: I feel happier than I have ever in my life

Negative: Having to lose weight cos I'm now too self conscious about my appearance

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

After thinking on it for fourteen years. talking to multiple people about it and seeing a specialist.

[Zyrael 1,471]

I know this might be a very neish question to post in a thread, due to it relying heavily on forum member % numbers but I'm fairly curious and optimistic about it so here goes nothing.

 

BTW:

My intention with these questions is not to be too impersonal nor get too personal. So please, feel free to leave questions unanswered if you're feeling uncomfortable.

 

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

(If so, in mostly positive or negative way?)  

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?

(Please explain why or why not)

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

(was it also difficult to make that decision?) 

 

Huge thanks in advance to those who post their answers.   

 

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

(If so, in mostly positive or negative way?)  

 

yes, mostly positive though

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?(Please explain why or why not) 

No. It's too hard a choice to make to regret it later

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

 

My morning routine goes on forever

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

 

romantic life? I hardly have a life

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

 

like jumping out of a plane

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

 

positive-  I get to do what I like without hiding it

negative- buying expensive products

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

(was it also difficult to make that decision?) 

 

Well I just thought I'd do it eventually so it wasn't hard once I got there

[Thuja 3,659]

I'm pre-T but I'll give this a go.

 

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

(If so, in mostly positive or negative way?) 

Sometimes but I'm mostly around people(like social workers) that are normally supportive.  My family has disowned me and still treats me like a girl on FB.  The worst I got was being called a lesbian for my short hair(even though I'm a guy) 

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?

(Please explain why or why not)

The only thing I regret is not knowing or understanding what LGBT+ was before hand.  My family tended to keep my brother and I sheltered so most things I had to figure out for myself.  Didn't even know what gay meant until I was in my late teens(probably 16?  So I guess mid-teens??), to give you an idea how sheltered I was growing up.  I regret the most not transitioning when I was younger, it would have saved me years of depression and the such.

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

Well, I do have to think about my safety what with the "trump affect" effecting Canada a bit.  I live in a small town where most people know each other either through some event or through another person.  Some things I have to think about, for example, is: "If I join the gym, will they let me use the men's locker room?  Will it be safe to use the locker room?  Will I be attacked?"  It's more of thinking of how others will react to me, you know?

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

I've always had a crappy romantic life so not much has changed since then but I do worry that the person that I'm attracted to will be grossed out with my trans-ness.  I haven't tried dating to see how it goes because I really have no attraction to anyone right now.

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

I still haven't started T yet but I hope to soon.

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

The biggest positive has been realizing why I've been so depressed for a while.  I've been having issues with depression since I was 13, I think?  So in total 12 years?  This might not be related to being trans but I do feel freer to explore who I am than I've ever had before, maybe it's because I don't have my mom breathing down my neck all the time but it's nice, whatever started that feeling.  The only negatives I can think of are having to worry more about my safety than ever before and my family disowning me because I'm trans(my mom would probably say that I bullied her but I didn't and besides, that's not really a good excuse to disown your own kid).

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

(was it also difficult to make that decision?) 

Maybe some time last year?  Maybe January?  The more I looked into what transgender meant, the more things were making sense to me.  At first I was scared to talk about it but I did start talking to certain people about it which has lead me to this point in my life.  I came out to my mom in February of this year. 

Edited December 6, 2016 by Thuja

[Nerdy Luigi 2,065]

Note that I have undergone no treatment as of yet, and probably won't for a while, since it isn't cheap and my certainty on whether I really want the long-winded effects of it or not isn't complete.

 

 

1. Only a few actually know I'm transgender in real life. They've been supportive for the most part. But these are mostly LGBT+ people though. Also, almost all of them were friends of mine. Well, some were just friends of friends of mine (the few I had, the few I really wanted)

 

2. I haven't regretted to change the way I identify, actually. I have had no reason to really regret it. It only made me understand myself better. Nothing to regret about self-discovery to me. After all, I've been on that journey since I was 11 years old.

 

3. Not really. I'm still hiding behind a façade of semi-masculinity. I feel like it isn't entirely safe to go public with it. Plus, I can't really afford an updated wardrobe these days, particularly if you include make-up into the equation.

 

4. I always have, and it's only because of my distant personality. I have had an ex since I changed my gender identity. He was really nice about it, well until I had a sense of why he liked me. Now I'll only pounce if just the right man comes, one that genuinely loves me for me and not something else.

 

5. Cannot answer this question yet. I'm still biologically male, with no injected estrogens.

 

6. Positive: It was a step in the right direction in figuring out who I am. I was on the quest of self-knowledge since I first felt a romantic/sexual attraction to a man (that was what I was referring to since 11)

    Negative: It's made me work to hide my identity from bigots. Though the work is nothing too stressful. Just try to avoid the real me as much as possible.

 

7. I made the decision to transition (in the future sometime) in April of 2015. I had been trying to figure out who I was and here specifically... Why I feel so feminine compared to everyone else who is biologically male. I came out to my best friends at the lunch table (and one of their older sisters while riding in their car on the way home from summer band practice one day), but never spoke a word to anyone else about it other than online (I actually feel more secure with this online than I do offline for some odd reasom. Guess it's the fact I don't feel like speaking out about it.)

Edited December 11, 2016 by TwillyFSniper

[Guest]

It's not just a process that happens overnight, but I'll still try to answer most of your questions

1. I still get treated like a boy by my family but a girl by most of my friends, it's not something everyone can just grasp but it's still really frustrating

2. I don't have anything to regret in the first place since being trans isn't exactly something you choose

3. Not exactly, my "lifestyle" is just less jarring when people see me as a girl and not a boy

4. Quite well actually, I have a boyfriend and we have a lot in common

5. This is the one I can't answer, since again, there isn't really a solid end point to transitioning and it doesn't all just happen over night

6. Feeling comfortable in my body is a huge plus, considering the amount of people out there who hate trans people and go out of their way to bully and harass me, I'd say it evens out.

7. I would just like to emphasize that it isn't a choice

 

 

There are quite a few mistakes and false assumptions in your questions so I will do the best I can.

 

1) This question is weirdedly worded, the definition of transgender is that the persons gender does not allign to their biological sex, so is this question aimed at post op transexuals , people who have done years of HRT?

 

Personally I have been on HRT (hormones and blockers) for about 5 months, I have no come out to anyone and dont plan to until I can no longer hide the physical aspects of HRT transition, even then I will present as I present now, neutral.

 

2) No, If anything I am very privelaged to have access to HRT and procedures exist to allign you closer to your correct gender. I never enjoyed living as a man and always had very low T anyway, ever since starting HRT I have felt in general much happier. The only negative I can see is that I wont be able to have kids, but thats not something that conerns me that much anyway.

 

3) Not really apart from having to buy bras and the like, to me gender doesnt define who you are neither does being transexual, so I dont see the need to massively change lifestyle.

 

4) I dont actively look for relationships and dont have a massive amount of interest in them. Going on HRT though has made me more in tune with my emotions and I have had several crushes since then which is unusual for me, but I havent tried dating anyone so I cant really answer the question.

 

5) This question has no context so is hard to anwer, do you mean after surgery? I havent had surgery, but the first few days of being on HRT felt great. Just a note, HRT can take 5 years for full effects and alot dont get surgery until that time, or at least the two to three year mark.

 

6) Biggest positive is being true to myself, biggest potential negative is being made fun of or shunned by people, which hasnt happened yet.

 

7) I have known I didnt feel like a boy since a very early age so for quite a long time.

 

My apologies to the both of you.

I did not mean to cause confusion nor include misguided questions. I'm simply asking because well... I'm ignorant on the subject.

 

A question that is asked in order to expose ignorance/lack of knowledge. 

 

My ignorance leads to questions. Questions that lead to an idea for a thread. A thread in which I may post my questions in hopes of becoming more well informed.

 

If I also came off as rude at all I really do apologize. It's more that I do not know how to properly address the idea or rather, bring it into context due to my lack of knowledge/gravity on the subject. 

[Zeal Crown 196]

Some people may have mentioned some of these already, but just to be sure, I'll say them myself.

 

Before I start answering questions, I'd like to address a few things with how you wrote your questions.

 

Firstly, try to avoid saying things like "transgenders." It sounds much more polite to say transgender people. (Or just trans people if you're cool. )

 

Secondly, you must know that we aren't necessarily "changing genders" but more of realizing we aren't the genders we're assigned with and changing our bodies to match that. A trans individual is the gender they tell you, despite being pre or post.

 

Now that that's covered, I'll happily answer.

 

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

 

I don't know if you're meaning coming out of the closet, or making the full transition, but as you'll probably be told a lot, the process of the transition doesn't happen overnight. It's a long and painful process that takes years. I started my physical transition in, probably, April or May. Since then, I have been treated drastically differently by everyone. My friends have been nothing less then supportive, but I have come across a few transphobes in my times. As a trans person, I just remember that they are not important to my life and naturally move on with my own life.

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?

 

After some tough times, I have had thoughts of regretting the start of my transition, but I always know that this is what I truly want. I sometimes get thoughts of living an easier life in the closet, but I know that I would be incredibly unhappy to do that.

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

 

Honestly, my life hasn't changed all that much. It may be different for some people, but I still do about the same thing. I go to school, hang out with my friends, and just do the normal teenage stuff. What has changed though, is my P.E. credit. My principle and I have made a compromise so that I won't have to gain my P.E. credit through a gym class, so that I don't have to share a changing room.

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

 

My romantic life has actually and probably had the most drastic change. I'll occasionally get crushes, but then I remember, in this age of society, people still do not want to date anyone that is trans. Either for not being able to have sex, or just them not being able to fathom the idea of real trans people, my crushes have always been crushed by transphobic thoughts like these. At the same time though, I'm pretty thankful for this. When I actually get into a real relationship, I'll know that the person will look passed me being trans and love me for who I truly am.

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

 

The first few days out of the closet were scary, but I'll never be able to thank my friends enough for standing up for me when I was having to tell everyone.

 

The first days on my physical transition though, they were gross. Blood draws and drugs that made me feel sick were common, and I was miserable. It's the honest answer, but everyone gets passed it.

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

 

The biggest positive for me was that I was able to express who I truly was instead of having to be expected to do all the boyish things that I never liked.

 

The biggest negative is, honestly, just the thought internally that I won't be able to birth kids. Not being able to do normal girl things like having periods and such just makes me feel fake. When I really get sad from these thoughts, I usually just talk to my friends about it and eat ice cream. They always make me feel better.

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

 

For as long as I can remember, I always felt out of place hanging out with my boy friends, and feeling much more in-place with my girl friends. It wasn't until about 2 years ago that I was actually exposed to the idea of someone being transgender that I found that I was trans, and ever since then, I've just always knew that this was the right path of my life.

 

It wasn't actually difficult to know, but it was more difficult to be able to accept myself as having to be okay with myself.

 

I hope I was able to help, and I must thank you for this too. It's always comforting to know that there's people who truly want to know these details and learn, instead of just brushing trans people off as a sickness. So again, thank you.

[honk friend 1,978]

My apologies to the both of you.

I did not mean to cause confusion nor include misguided questions. I'm simply asking because well... I'm ignorant on the subject.

 

A question that is asked in order to expose ignorance/lack of knowledge. 

 

My ignorance leads to questions. Questions that lead to an idea for a thread. A thread in which I may post my questions in hopes of becoming more well informed.

 

If I also came off as rude at all I really do apologize. It's more that I do not know how to properly address the idea or rather, bring it into context due to my lack of knowledge/gravity on the subject. 

It's not really that you offended me, It's just really hard to answer a misunderstood question

[alpinefroggy 451]

 

I know this might be a very neish question to post in a thread, due to it relying heavily on forum member % numbers but I'm fairly curious and optimistic about it so here goes nothing.

 

BTW:

My intention with these questions is not to be too impersonal nor get too personal. So please, feel free to leave questions unanswered if you're feeling uncomfortable.

 

1. Do you get treated differently by others since you changed genders?

(If so, in mostly positive or negative way?)

 

2. Have you ever regretted your choice?

(Please explain why or why not)

 

3. Has there been any drastic lifestyle changes for you once you swapped genders?

 

4. How is your romantic life? Do you find it hard to date?

 

5. What was it like during your first few days of conversion?

 

6. What was the biggest positive and negative for you?

 

7. How and or, when did you know that swapping your gender was the right choice to make?

(was it also difficult to make that decision?)

 

Huge thanks in advance to those who post their answers.

 

I reiterate crowns concerns as well.

 

For reference, I am in the very early stages of things, I am on the verge of coming out to my family. While I still present as male I have opened up to a few select people and I feel like I can answer these questions semi effectively.

 

I have been treated marginally differently everyone realizing that in not the dude they knew. One particular girl had a largely different reaction. She confessed romantic interest in me after I came out to get (I felt similarly) that was muddying our ability to interact on a professional level. She was very shy. Now she is treating me like a girl and trying to learn about it. She thinks it's fascinating but it's having a fun time talking to me about her interests. She now wants a friendship girl to girl. Overall mostly positive as I am being selective on the people I come out to. I don't need to get shit for my transgenderism. I need support and understanding. Ain't nobody got time fo dat.

 

I have not regretted my choice. It's not really a choice I am free to make. My body disagrees with my mind. My mind wins. I don't regret making the decision to want to go forward with a transition. It's just going to make me happy if I am a girl.

 

No drastic lifestyle changes thus far.

 

Romantically I'm closing myself off because I don't have the willingness to deal with a relationship with school and this. How do I explain to someone that the person they like as a guy is the same person but a girl instead whilst transitioning. Not something I want to do.

 

Not applicable yet

 

The biggest positive is allowing myself to realize I'm a girl. It's a bizzare world because I feel like the person I knew I should have been. I'm not changing me as a person on the inside. I still like mlp, science, hiking and camping etc I'm just not a guy.

The largest negative is the internal anguish knowing I have a difficult road ahead of me and dysphoria. I didn't pay attention to dysphoria because I had to just accept to live as a guy. Now that options are open a whole new can of worms is born.

 

For now. it was 3 months ago and it was not hard. For someone who is cis it's very odd to want such a drastic change. I can't adequately describe it. Try describing pain to an alien who can't feel it. You probably find it difficult. That's my challenge to cis people and my parents who will likely be ok with it but weirded out. Being a girl is who I am supposed to be so that's who I will be. Very easy decision in a vacuum. Difficult in the abstract because of potential discrimination, ignorance and other such things but I live in an accepting area so I'll be ok in the end.

 

You are very welcome.