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My Promise Hasn't Been Kept, and it's Showing in the Forums.


Geek0zoid

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I've posted little tidbits of depression and leaving the forums quite a bit over the past couple months, but I never really did it in the long run. People always gave me reasons to stay, as in "You have friends that care about you alot" or "The forums wouldn't be the same without you." With so many reasons, it honestly made me sad. So, I decided to stay.

 

But now, people can't give me anymore reasons. I can safely say that at least half of the things I've been told are lies. The forums are getting more and more depressing every time I come on. It's becoming more of of a burden than a getaway from the troubles of real life. The forums has been plagued by superiority, depression, and disagreement. I can name a few reasons that were given to me that I think were just to keep me here.

 

1. "The forums wouldn't be the same"

When members like Dsanders, Sir Flutter Hooves, and Pink Mist were around, EVERYBODY loved them, me included. They were some of the best members the forums has ever had. Hell, there was even a thread about Sir's departure. THAT'S how popular they were.

Fast forward to the present day. Are the forums the same without them? Obviously not, but it's not like they can't survive without them. They left, and no one has talked about them since. Sadly, they have been reverted to glitters of the forums' past.

 

2. "The Forums Aren't as bad as you think"

Do I need to come and bonk you all on the heads with a wrench? People, I haven't gone a single day in the past two months without having a soap opera happen on here. These people need help, and I'm trying my hardest to help them, but I need your help to do so. Because, obviously with the amount of depression I see everyday, just me helping them isn't cutting the mustard. Wake up, people!

 

3. "Just because people are leaving doesn't mean you should too"

The forums' most popular members are fading away like ghosts. In fact, I think it's one of the main reasons why people are so depressed. Dsanders, Pink Mist, Sir Flutterhooves, and many others were good at creating a good, happy, positive atmosphere. So far, I have yet to see someone to take that role, not even myself. There's barely any positive feeling left here, so it's a no-brainer why these people left.

And it should also be a no-brainer why I'm contemplating my departure as well.

 

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: I love you guys.Some of you are better than my IRL friends. But this place has become more of a burden than a getaway. I would like to see a legitimate reason why I should stay here, because I don't see this place getting better for a long time. I want to stay here, and make friends, and chat on topics, but until I see a good reason for me to stay, I'm going to continue thinking about taking my leave soon.

 

But, no, I'm just a completely oblivious attention whore, and you guys shouldn't do ANYTHING about the forums' current place. According to the overall member satisfaction, it seems to be working wonders.

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People aren't going to constantly sulk and complain about the departure of certain members at all times. Of course people miss the users you mentioned, but they certainly aren't "forgotten".

 

I'm sorry I have depression, anxiety, and am not always positive...I'm only a reflection of what's going on inside and around me...How am I supposed to be positive when everything around me is negative? There isn't much I can do about it...The same applies to some other members who may post gloomy or sad status updates, blogs, and so on. I thank you and others for helping, but you can't expect people's problems to just disappear just like that.

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People aren't going to constantly sulk and complain about the departure of certain members at all times. Of course people miss the users you mentioned, but they certainly aren't "forgotten".

 

I'm sorry I have depression, anxiety, and am not always positive...I'm only a reflection of what's going on inside and around me...How am I supposed to be positive when everything around me is negative? There isn't much I can do about it...The same applies to some other members who may post gloomy or sad status updates, blogs, and so on. I thank you and others for helping, but you can't expect people's problems to just disappear just like that.

That's exactly the issue: How can ANYONE be positive when everything is negative?

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Truthfully, no matter what people say, it is ALWAYS your decision in the end. It has been great to have you as a friend here on the forums, so I would like to do something in return. If you wish for help for this depression you are having, I am open to help. :) Skype is something I've been using lately (not for calling, mainly for text-communication), so if you want to you can add me as a contact there. I might not be on 24/7, but when I have the time I always put my friends above anything else. :) After all, we all must know by this point: "Friendship is Magic."

 

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck and that you start to feel better. 

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Truthfully, no matter what people say, it is ALWAYS your decision in the end. It has been great to have you as a friend here on the forums, so I would like to do something in return. If you wish for help for this depression you are having, I am open to help. :) Skype is something I've been using lately (not for calling, mainly for text-communication), so if you want to you can add me as a contact there. I might not be on 24/7, but when I have the time I always put my friends above anything else. :) After all, we all must know by this point: "Friendship is Magic."

 

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck and that you start to feel better. 

Here's the thing, Techoh: I won't feel better until the forums feel better.

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That's exactly the issue: How can ANYONE be positive when everything is negative?

 

I'm not talking about the forums. In real life, everything around me is negative. It leaks into my online presence as well.

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I'm not talking about the forums. In real life, everything around me is negative. It leaks into my online presence as well.

You should talk about it with someone in real life as well. Not just us here on the internet. A person IRL can do a hell of a lot more than we can.

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I'm not saying you should leave forever but honestly...I think getting away from the forum'll do you some good, even if it's just for a few days.

 

I've done that a couple of times myself now and each time I come back after doing so I feel right as rain. Don't feel so pinned down by this sense of responsibility, you can't help everyone, and some people will only be able to be helped by themselves (If that makes any sense).

 

You're not supposed to come here and allowed yourself to be swallowed by this 'wave of depression', someone needs to be able to stand up and combat the depression itself, not just the depressed. Take some time off to get everything in order, then come back with a healthier attitude so that you can really do something about it :D

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You can't force people to be positive just for you, buddy.

But I wish this place has a more positive atmosphere.

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But I wish this place has a more positive atmosphere.

 

Don't we all? I wish the Internet stopped having idiots everywhere.

 

But evidently that's not going to happen in a billion years. That's why people adjust to it themselves. 

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Don't we all? I wish the Internet stopped having idiots everywhere.

 

But evidently that's not going to happen in a billion years. That's why people adjust to it themselves. 

I'm probably never gonna adjust though, Clars.

It makes me sad, but I dream of a better internet, where everyone can enjoy themselves

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I don't like the atmosphere here either, that's why i'm as positive as possible (excluding the fact i'm a bubbly and easily entertained person...hehe)...to be the change I want to see here. 

Now, when you mention the other past popular members, just because a ton of people loved them in particular, does not mean they were the only gems here. Hell, i've met a TON of members who were under their criteria but got little attention, for God knows why. They weren't the only ones who used to make this place really amazing.
Miss them we will...not sure why Hooves left in a blink, but I know why Dsanders and Pink Mist went.

Be the change you would like to see, and keep your head up, Geekie. :)

 

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You're just feeling burnt out from the constant negativity as I am. We can't expect it to go away, but we can try to spread as much joy as possible. Without people willing to fight negative emotion this forum will get worse, but don't feel as if you have to stay. Like you said the forums won't die without you, but for every few members who leave there's just as many new recruits attempting to fill their void. That's why you should stay, there's power in numbers, friend. The more the merrier, as they say.

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You are right on every point,really,but even you leaving the forums would be an overkill,really,who of the "well-know-members" would be left? Makusu? and who else? Probably I don't know other of them but still,if every "veteran member" goes away this place would become a ghost house,not beacuse everyone else would go away but because there would not be discussions,like the ones in the status updates and all of those things,there is just one thing that can be done,we have to stick together to try to make this place what it used to be I can't think of anything else. 

Also,what is this thread you were talking about?

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