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What's so great about being female?


Clover Heart

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I really wanted for this to be a forum post, but I think it might be a bit too self-centric and rambly for the forums... I just hope I can get some sort of actual response...

 

I want to preface this with saying that I'm not trying to tear down women or femininity. I'm not trying to tear down anyone's view of these things either. I'm simply trying to understand, which is why I'm asking. I also ask you to recognize that I'm not you, and I may see the exact same thing you see as an advantage as a burden.

 

I'm just wondering, what's good about being female? Everything I associate with being female has to do with being marginalized, oppressed, objectified or stereotyped. This may have to do with the fact that I'm agender, but I just can't see anything really good about being female, and the recognition of such tends to bring more bad than good.

 

I looked up lists about this sort of thing, and the vast majority of the answers were either tongue-in-cheek ("So-and-so is female,") don't apply to me ("We can wear make-up," I hate wearing make-up...) or are incidental things ("Women live longer," And? I can control that? Furthermore, that affects how society sees me?)

 

I just can't see the benefit of being female and it tends to bring me a lot of frustration and sadness. I don't believe I'm transgender. I have no problem with my body at all. I just can't help but constantly wish that that body didn't affect every aspect of the way people look at and treat me. Especially since they're trying to peg me with something I don't even identify as. Why should I have to change the way my body looks for people to treat me how I feel? That's some bullshit. Why isn't physical sex and the views surrounding it more incidental? Why do I have to be shoved into this box that I don't fit into? And anyway, even if I were to change sex, I don't think that would solve anything. I just think I'd have all the same problems from a different angle.

 

If I'm unconvinced by responses... well... I don't quite know what that says about me... Yeah...

 

I'm really tired and blithering, but I wanna know if there's any reason I should even like my physical sex outside of, well, sex. I dunno. I guess I'm done talking about it for the moment. I appreciate your responses. Thanks.

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No, but thanks for the recommendation.

 

And I know being male comes with its own set of problems. It'd be nice if people didn't think they could separate people in their entireties into only two categories and all the presumptions and baggage that come with them. That'd solve a lot of problems...

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I'm a girl. I like being a girl. And I cannot imagine me as a boy, despite I like so many mainly things- many people (mostly men) thinks that that is cute and cool. When man like girly things people told, that he is weird. So I can like what i want, and nobody told me any bad word. It's unfair for men.

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You girl are a tough one, I like that. I usually judge a girl by their personality and you're the one who stays true to herself. Being man is hard but people look up to them as leaders, gentlemen. That's the good part.

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I'm guessing because girls have more stereotypes than guys do. Both males and females have their disadvantages, fair to say. lol

 

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Yeah, the genders thing can be frustrating sometimes because you're always being viewed through that lens to an extent - even if people don't box you in with it.

 

That said, both of the sexes have things they're more or less allowed to do. Where I live (US) it's considered more socially acceptable for women to do things like dress in a masculine style and be sensitive, while men can get a lot of flak for dressing in a feminine style or being seen crying.

 

Pick your poison, I guess...

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There's nothing great about being female, and there's nothing great about being male. You are what you are, and you don't really have a choice to shrug off this "box" you're talking about, so unfortunately, you have to live with what you got.

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Yeah, what you're all saying makes a lot of sense.

 

In my freshman year of college, I thought I was pangender and that I might be transgender. The reason was that I wanted to be male (and actually, what I was wanting was not to be male, but male privilege) and that I didn't have the same want to be female. Then I realized that I can't have a desire to be something that I already am. I guess I just forgot that.

 

Thanks for all your comments. You've all really cheered me up.

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i am a girl and hate it I'm 10 and 1/2 and i don't feel like I'm a girl i don't like being stereotyped. my friends ditched me cause i like my little pony and I'm a ''tom boy'' i hate that saying.

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