Closet bronydom is part of a major social justice, feminist, and LGBTQ+ issue. Treat it seriously and with respect.
Coming out of the closet as LGBTQ+ is more impactful than coming out of the stable as a brony. But that doesn't mean coming out of the closet as a brony shouldn't be taken any less seriously. I live in a very liberal society, have a very liberal family, and hugely hate gender norms. The liberal feminist in me is proud to live in this type of society.
Not everyone is so lucky. Often, people in many socially conservative areas like the Bible Belt depend on living through social and gender norms to survive. Dating back several decades, there's a sociocultural fear of men liking feminine products, including FIM.
A few years ago, a brony on here was bullied by his family in real life after he came out as one. Some members here might remember reading it when it first surfaced. I still do.
Michael Morones attempted suicide as an eleven-year-old because he was bullied for liking FIM.
A brony was bullied by classmates for bringing his Dash backpack to school. Rather than punishing the bullies, the school blamed the victim for it by telling him not to bring it because it was a bullying trigger.
Near BronyCon in 2013, Mom and I talked with a brony who came from Kentucky with friends. He was a proud brony to us, but back home, he was a closet brony: He really believes his family will spew ableism and homophobia towards him if they find out.
Other anecdotes where male bronies are called "gay" or "autistic" simply because they love the show are out there. Other bronies witness blatant homophobia and sexism by their family and keep their love for FIM in the closet as a result. Bronies ought to be able to express their love for the show and not be stuck in sexist gender roles. Closet bronydom doesn't live in a vacuum.
The opinion — hell, even the idea — that anyone needs to refocus on how they live because they fear they'll be bullied for liking the show by their friends, peers, or family is one of the most homophobic, sexist, ableist, and overall dangerous morals I've ever heard. Anytime I hear something similar, you admit you don't give a damn about social justice.
What makes this opinion so harmful? You blame the victim. Rather than blaming gender roles, you blame closet bronies. To blame closet bronies for being in the closet is to scapegoat a girl/woman for wearing attractive clothes for having men/boys gawk at her. Whenever you say, "It's your fault for being in the closet, brony," you're actually telling the LGBTQ+ community to stay in the closet. Nobody should be forced to hide who they are and what they like. You send genuine unfortunate implications by downplaying a very real fear.
The common solution to closet bronydom is to just admit you're a brony. This is no less dangerous than One Bad Apple's moral. Just like how there's no one solution to the bullying epidemic, there's no one solution to closet bronydom. Some families don't care about their peers being bronies. Some merely tolerate it. Some can disown them for bring a brony because they refuse to give up on it. To many of us, this looks trivial, but to some closet bronies, it's anything but. Parents have disowned their kids for something much smaller; if that can happen, so can closet bronies for liking a show. Each problem is individual; what works for one brony may not work for others. You can't throw a blanket solution and hope it works. Real life doesn't work that way.
Like I wrote before, coming out as LGBTQ+ has far more impact than any brony coming out as a brony. But once again, that doesn't mean we shouldn't treat the issue of bronies keeping their love for FIM in the closet with respect. Closet bronydom is a byproduct of a larger societal problem: It exists because society peer-pressures us as a people to live by social and gender constructs. Nearly all of us feel the pressure of pandering to gender norms every day for our entire lives, even if that pressure is a smidgen. Sometimes, fighting them is no problem. Sometimes, it can be a royal struggle. Many bronies succumb to this pressure. We should be aware of that.
Social justice and civil rights aren't picks and choices. They intertwine and affect each other. The fear of shame just for liking a product that "violates social normality" — male bronies liking a feminine product — is a very real social and feminist issue, and we should be sensitive towards it.
Why feminist issue? Feminism breaks down and eliminates gender inequality. Normally, girls and women aren't persecuted for liking feminine and masculine products. But whenever we see women being ostracized by gender norms, don't ignore them. Extend our hands to help them fight these norms. Remember, closet female bronies and closet bronies of minority genders exist. Sexism towards men liking feminine products dates back generations; FIM/bronydom is one example. As a people, extend our hands to help them, too.
Endorse the idea that anyone (male, female, or minority gender) can love the show without fear of gender roles and the people who support gender roles bullying them. Challenging social and gender ostracization as a whole impacts communities vying for civil rights, including the LGBTQ+, African-American, Muslim, and so on. By spreading awareness to sexist roles and challenging them, you're telling other communities that they can do the same. Downplaying closet bronydom and trivializing this sexist societal problem tells us you don't care about not only challenging social constructs, but also addressing the civil rights issues the other communities face.
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