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Mother's Day


Eloquence

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I don't often make blog entries here, but given that this is on my mind I suppose I'll go ahead and share.

 

I imagine many of you have noticed today's holiday. Perhaps you've observed the holiday by calling your mother, or giving her a gift, or posting something about her on social media. For you all, I'm glad, and I hope you and your mothers are enjoying this day.

 

For me though, Mother's Day is not a nice, pleasant little holiday. The pressure to celebrate my mother, the sight of everyone discussing the importance of appreciating what she's done, is not an easy thing for me to face. For me, it is a sharp reminder of the pressure to love and respect someone who hurt me greatly, who abused me. I do not talk about this part of my life much outside of my closest relationships, but today, I think it's an important thing to share. I know I'm not the only one going through this, and I want others to know that they aren't alone as well. To those going through the same thing as me, I want to tell you that I'm here, that I understand, and that you don't have to feel guilty for not sending flowers or writing facebook posts. You do not owe her, and your feelings are valid <3

 

To those who do have positive, loving relationships with your mothers, I hope you do celebrate that. You are very lucky to have something so special as that, and you should cherish that every day.

 

That's all I really have for you all. Whatever you have, a loving mother, an abusive one, or no mother at all, I hope you all have a lovely day, even if the holiday is hard for you too. Stay strong my darlings <3

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Wow.  She hurt you?  That's terrible.  No disrespect to your mother, but I hope you become a better one that she would be in your future.

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Yeah, I really, really don't like Mother or Father's day for reasons just like this. 

 

It implies that each of us are close enough to our parents that we should all collectively set aside a day for them, but how about those of us with abusive parents, or those of us whose parents have died?  All this holiday really serves to do for them is shove those unpleasant feelings back in their faces. :okiedokieloki: 

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As always Elo I admire you for how much strength you have. While I won't pretend to know the entirety of the situation you had to deal with, I remain happy and proud of the woman you have become. <3

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I agree with what's been denoted here, sometimes there's people whom don't deserve the title nor the honors. In spite of myself not being a victim of such a situation, I still do appreciate how you offer your support for those who suffer from this. As always, we are for you as well miss.

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Thank you for stating this, Eloquence. From a person who also had to deal with your same situation, I can finally agree with someone that dealing with the years of abuse does not give the parents the right to expect something on their "special" holiday.

 

A parent that thinks they deserve a gift for Mother's or Father's day has to earn it by actually taking care of their child with the love and affection they needed, NOT abuse of any type.

 

Again, thank you for giving that statement, miss. I'm sorry to hear about what you had to go through, and even now if you are still dealing with it. I hope that there are many others that support and care about you, thank what your mother was supposed to do.

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