Midnight Insight 114 February 18 Share February 18 Many of my closest friends have had this kind of experience, and since I'm feeling nostalgic today, I really want to hear your stories about it. I'll share mine: 13 years ago when I was a kid, I was playing modded minecraft in one of those wild and anarchic servers where almost everybody wanted to find your base to rob and grief it. I tried several times to progress and have my own base, but there was always a group of experienced players who found out and destroyed it. I was trying to rebuild my base again when I saw him for the first time. Instead of destroying everything, he wanted to team up, and so we did. We shared our Skype and started playing together every afternoon, I remember those days as the best time I've spent playing online with anyone... But I guess nostalgia might be adding more to the mix. I remember the excitement of leaving classes knowing that that afternoon I'd be happily playing with him, and that was it, until one day he didn't show up anymore, he vanished from the server and wouldn't connect to skype anymore. I remember entering the server with the hope of finding him there, but that day never came. After a couple of months, I stopped trying. I hope he's okay wherever he is right now. I know I'll never hear from him again, and probably he doesn't even remember me, but I still wish he's doing well. I miss you shurtu32. So that's my story, sorry for the drama overdose, but I wanted to throw this message in a bottle to the bast ocean of the internet. One last thing: Remember to be careful with your personal information. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shigaraki 292 February 18 Share February 18 (edited) Yes, on the 3ds in ACNL. This person I would chat and play with in the game. I knew his sisters before I meant him. I didn't know he shared the 3ds with his sister so when I first meant him I was confused when he said he's not his sister. But I played with him and his sister many times. They were nice and I would look forward to talk everyday. But suddenly one day he said he won't be able to chat because he's going for a vacation. And after that he disappeared and his online status went offline. Him and his sisters. His second sister online status would still go online time to time. But suddenly she disappeared too. Back in 2016 October I first meant them, then disappeared 6 months later. I eventually deleted them from my friend list after noticing they haven't been active. So we may never know if they ever came back. To clarify it was a vacation for a week. But after 2 months I declared he disappeared and waited and waited. I still remember their names and nicknames to this day. And his friend who was jealous of me for being closer to her friend than she was. I still dont understand her behavior she had with us haha. It was funny sometimes Edited February 18 by Shigaraki 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RafaStaryStory 3,501 February 18 Share February 18 Well, countless, I really got used to it honestly. But one that was quite "unique" for me was a gaming youtuber, I met him in 2017 throughout some Sonic videos, we became really good friends and that would continue for a few years as his channel wasn't very popular, sometimes he would reach a peak in his videos or live streams, but that never changed him, he always continued being that awesome and friendly guy, my interactions with him in the chat of his livestreams were really fun, with other users as well, his gameplays were very funny and entertaining. We got really close to the point where he made live streams where I participated, with me reacting to him and even giving some tips about a few of the games he played, it was awesome. But then in May 2020, during the pandemic, he suddenly disappeared, no more news from him, no updates in any of his social media, his instagram disappeared or was deleted, nothing, he vanished, his final video was a GTA Online video, and that's it. In some videos made before that one, his health was fine, but he said that his financial situation wasn't going so well. I really hope he's okay, if one of the reasons he disappeared was because of covid, I hope he recovered from it. If it was due to money, hope he's now financially good. He was the only Youtuber that I could feel it was a close friend for me, from time to time I still go check his channel, with that final upload from 5 years ago, though I have no hope that he'll return, but he gave me good memories ~☆ Source 1 1 "Stand quiet like the Sky, and Move faster than Lightning" Follower of the ultimate power, spirit, divine dreams and wishes of the Heavenly Eastern Angels of Stars (Starys), Husband of Mary, The Eastern Stary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Insight 114 February 18 Author Share February 18 6 hours ago, Shigaraki said: But suddenly one day he said he won't be able to chat because he's going for a vacation. And after that he disappeared and his online status went offline. Him and his sisters. His second sister online status would still go online time to time. We won't ever know what did happen in that week, at first while I was readding your story I thougth they might have lost or broken the 3DS, but if her sister still got online some days later, couldn't be that, another mistery to the list of disappeared friends. 5 hours ago, RafaStaryStory said: we became really good friends and that would continue for a few years as his channel wasn't very popular, sometimes he would reach a peak in his videos or live streams, but that never changed him, he always continued being that awesome and friendly guy Non-popular streamers and youtubers are the best IMHO... Don't get me wrong, I wish them the best , but the quality of the interaction and the wholesomeness of seeing them happy when they realize you are there is charming! 5 hours ago, RafaStaryStory said: He was the only Youtuber that I could feel it was a close friend for me, from time to time I still go check his channel, with that final upload from 5 years ago, though I have no hope that he'll return, but he gave me good memories ~☆ Wow, that really hit me in the feels... I truly hope he's doing well, but at least those good memories will be with you forever 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vrantusmusicofficial 11 February 18 Share February 18 hey, I saw your story, it speaks to me about the past, and even if not exactly the most based, it brings a feeling in my heart. reminds me of the 2010s when things were creative and more simpler. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Envy 6,202 February 18 Share February 18 I've been the one who disappeared... Had a lot of friends online twenty years ago but I was so rotten as a teenager and noticed that very quickly as I grew up and so I couldn't bear to remain a part of those communities. I was so embarrassed. When I say "rotten", I mean I was sometimes mean and caused drama. Nevertheless, I actually kinda reconnected with a few of them a few years ago. Kinda. On-topic, though: Actually in those same communities, there were a couple of members that I really liked. I'm not sure I could call myself their "friends", as I just don't think it was that way, but maybe acquaintances. They disappeared without a trace in like 2004 or early 2005. One of them disappearing was a big deal in the community, since she had made TONS of posts in a short amount of time and then was gone. It was sad. I hope she's okay. Flash forward to a decade ago, I had another person in a (non-Brony!) MLP community that I liked to talk to a lot. She worked at Walmart, as did I, so we could always vent with each other about that experience. One day she stopped responding and eventually I looked up her profile and she hadn't signed in since. I wonder what happened, and hope she is okay. 1 2 Everything needs more woodwind! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparklefan1234 172,976 February 18 Share February 18 Yes. The same person twice. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crypty Scribbles 5,382 February 18 Share February 18 (edited) Well, no. But I thought yes before. But I was much younger and less wise so I thought that every person who was nice to me is my new best friend till the end of life. Now I see that sometimes people are just taking their relationships not equally seriously. And if we are venting, here's a story. When I joined the forum the first user I was talking in DM was @BlueSkies. She seemed nice, smart and witty. We were exchanging several messages every day. I was so thrilled! And then she just vanished and it was a big drama for me. But! Now I see that she was here just couple weeks at all and couple dozens messages in mailbox left. It was my fault that I bloated such emotional attachment from such small thing. Edited February 19 by Crypty Scribbles 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clawdeen 15,519 February 18 Share February 18 Sure. I've also been the one to disappear. Quite a lot actually. Things happen. Life happens. Connections die off and other ones are born elsewhere. Some people you realize aren't good people and its easier to let things fizzle out then say it to their face. Online communities change. Places I was once happy being apart of I'm not any longer for reasons. Peoples friend groups change. I routinely get invited to some parties by someone however....her friend group isn't very welcoming to people not already established in their clique. Her friends suck to put it bluntly. I'm not dealing with that behavior. People themselves change. As a woman I've dealt with people trying to be my friend just so they can try to get in my pants. Which you know I wasn't born yesterday I know what you're doing. I've had people attempt to get close to me just for some sort of gain or other selfish reasons. I don't always catch onto things fast and I think I give people too many chances to prove my gut feeling wrong but I do figure it out. Always. So yeah I've just disappeared from peoples lives for some of the reasons stated above. That being said there has only ever been two people in my entire life I fully lost contact with that I miss. The rest of the people who I'm close with I'm still in contact with even if it isn't as much as it used to be. My good friends I have managed to maintain some form of contact with. I've been fairly lucky in that regard. I hope you hear from them again someday. 2 1 * Freaky Just Got Fabulous * Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shigaraki 292 February 18 Share February 18 4 hours ago, Midnight Insight said: We won't ever know what did happen in that week, at first while I was readding your story I thougth they might have lost or broken the 3DS, but if her sister still got online some days later, couldn't be that, another mistery to the list of disappeared friends. He had 2 sisters. The youngest one had her own 3ds but the other sister was the one who shared the 3ds with the brother. The youngest one was the one who went online sometimes after the other 2 disappeared. I never got a chance to talk to her before she disappeared. I was able to add her on the Nintendo switch from 3ds list but even on that she barely went online. To this day she's been offline for 4 plus years now. Animal Crossing did became lonely after they left. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrator Ice Princess Silky <3 14,748 February 18 Administrator Share February 18 As someone who has been here for years, I have seen this happen more often than I care to admit. Sometimes, the person simply gets busy with life. Sometimes, they have no time for online communities... other times.. it is for something a bit... darker. I think the hardest part is not being able to talk about it out of respect or request of the families, etc. So when users ask us about it, we have to ask to be respectful of their absence, etc. But luckily the ratio is not that high compared to the common reason for disappearances. In either case, it is always nice to drop a note and check up on them in hopes that they do return. It is always nice to be remembered and to know that you are missed. I remember it being particularly painful back in the day during the forums when a user would disappear or be unresponsive. Eventually, I got back in touch with most of the hidden folk from back then and that gave me some closure. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparklefan1234 172,976 February 18 Share February 18 6 minutes ago, Ice Princess Silky <3 said: I remember it being particularly painful back in the day during the forums when a user would disappear or be unresponsive. This has happened to me more than once and I didn't even get to say goodbye, thank them for their friendship and wish them luck in the future.😢 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Insight 114 February 18 Author Share February 18 Thank you everypony for sharing your stories Hearing them makes me feel much more comforted 8 hours ago, vrantusmusicofficial said: it brings a feeling in my heart I'm glad my old story made you feel something 6 hours ago, Envy said: I've been the one who disappeared... Had a lot of friends online twenty years ago but I was so rotten as a teenager and noticed that very quickly as I grew up and so I couldn't bear to remain a part of those communities. I was so embarrassed. When I say "rotten", I mean I was sometimes mean and caused drama. Nevertheless, I actually kinda reconnected with a few of them a few years ago. Kinda. Wow, I really didn't expected to get a glimplse of the other part of the story 6 hours ago, Sparklefan1234 said: Yes. The same person twice. Nooooo 4 hours ago, Crypty Scribbles said: And if we are venting, here's a story. When I joined the forum the first user I was talking in DM was @BlueSkies. She seemed nice, smart and witty. We was exchanging several messages every day. I was so thrilled! And then she just vanished and it was a big drama for me. But! Now I see that she was here just couple weeks at all and couple dozens messages in mailbox left. It was my fault that I bloated such emotional attachment from such small thing. A couple of weeks is more than enough to develop such a strong attachment, don't be too hard on yourself, some people just leave a mark 5 hours ago, Clawdeen said: Life happens. Connections die off and other ones are born elsewhere. Some people you realize aren't good people and its easier to let things fizzle out then say it to their face. Sometimes its a hard pill to swallow, but it's absolutely true: People do change, the things that once connected us may change and make us take different paths, and there are friendships that slowly fades away even though they have been forged for a lifetime, those are te most painful IMO. 5 hours ago, Shigaraki said: Animal Crossing did became lonely after they left. And so did that Minecraft server with my friend, I know that feeling... 3 hours ago, Ice Princess Silky <3 said: I think the hardest part is not being able to talk about it out of respect or request of the families, etc. So when users ask us about it, we have to ask to be respectful of their absence, etc. I hope you had a private space to talk with other close friends about how you felt about that, bottling up emotions for too long can cause problems It makes me happy to know that some of you finally reconnected with those old friends Spoiler Am I going completely crazy and flooding by answering absolutely everyting? 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crypty Scribbles 5,382 February 18 Share February 18 7 minutes ago, Midnight Insight said: Am I going completely crazy and flooding by answering absolutely everyting? Nope. It's just being polite. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ganondorf8 11,391 February 19 Share February 19 I've had this happen to me over the course of the past 25 years. Not once or twice but rather dozens of times. Initially, I was upset that old friends suddenly just up and vanished without warning, but in recent years, I've come to an understanding where it's just a factor of life. No sense in dwelling on things beyond one's own control. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Insight 114 February 19 Author Share February 19 3 minutes ago, Ganondorf8 said: No sense in dwelling on things beyond one's own control. It's true, but it's so hard to make the heart understand... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iforgotmybrain 5,827 February 19 Share February 19 Spoiler I have a bad habit of just dropping out of online conversations at random. Be it due to lack of interest, depression, just not having anything to talk about. I have a similar habit IRL where I will just forget people exist and kinda do my own thing. I guess that applies online as well, I just do my own thing, do what makes me happy/content. I had a good online friend named Sara who up and disappeared one day back when I was a teenager. Deleted all her social media, Skype, and everything. No idea what ever happened to her. On the flip side this one guy I used to play BF3 with on PS3 back in like 2012 is still active on PSN. Don’t talk to him anymore but it’s kinda endearing to see him still online after well over a decade. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samurai Equine 52,534 February 19 Share February 19 I am going to avoid mentioning anyone on this forum, and instead focus on someone I knew a LONG time ago... Before the days of Discord or Skype, there were many different direct messaging programs on the internet. One of the most popular was AIM (America Online Instant Messenger). I had made a friend on AIM. We met through an anime. They helped me find a song I was looking for. We clicked right away and became fast friends, even learned each other's names. Over time, we stopped talking as often, mostly because my friend wasn't as active on AIM. They kept their account logged in, but hardly ever spoke up. Then one day, AIM decided to shut down its services. I tried my best to reach out to my friend, to let them know what was happening and all the other places they could reach me. However, they never responded to me. And then, AIM shut down. For all I know, they never got those messages... I sure do miss that friend. I hope they managed to find a happy life. I still have a copy of that song they gave me. 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Insight 114 February 19 Author Share February 19 3 hours ago, Iforgotmybrain said: I had a good online friend named Sara who up and disappeared one day back when I was a teenager. Deleted all her social media, Skype, and everything. No idea what ever happened to her. That behavior really intrigues me. Not connecting online anymore is something I can understand at some point (life happens), but deleting all social media seems too aggressive... I've met only one person who did that because her therapist recommended it, but even then, she said goodbye to her closest online friends. 2 hours ago, Samurai Equine said: Then one day, AIM decided to shut down its services. Here in Spain, we had a similar experience with Tuenti, they decided to shut it down, leaving us without the only trace we had of many people we met there. 2 hours ago, Samurai Equine said: For all I know, they never got those messages... I sure do miss that friend. I hope they managed to find a happy life. I still have a copy of that song they gave me. Wait, they gave you a song they made? That must have been hard to get over 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clawdeen 15,519 February 19 Share February 19 9 minutes ago, Midnight Insight said: That behavior really intrigues me. Not connecting online anymore is something I can understand at some point (life happens), but deleting all social media seems too aggressive... I've met only one person who did that because her therapist recommended it, but even then, she said goodbye to her closest online friends. Here in Spain, we had a similar experience with Tuenti, they decided to shut it down, leaving us without the only trace we had of many people we met there. Wait, they gave you a song they made? That must have been hard to get over Not really. I've done that a few times in my life and each time I realized how much happier I was not being on social media at all. 2 * Freaky Just Got Fabulous * Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samurai Equine 52,534 February 20 Share February 20 16 hours ago, Midnight Insight said: Here in Spain, we had a similar experience with Tuenti, they decided to shut it down, leaving us without the only trace we had of many people we met there. Wait, they gave you a song they made? That must have been hard to get over They didn't make a song. I was looking for a song from Sailor Moon, and they gave me a copy of the song (MP3). I still have that song on one of my USB drives. And I wouldn't say I "got over" it. When you lose contact with a good friend or become distant with a good friend, there will always be part of you that misses them. But life goes on, and we all have our own lives to live. I am glad I came to this community, because there are friends and potential friends around every corner! Thank for you caring. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Insight 114 February 20 Author Share February 20 8 hours ago, Samurai Equine said: They didn't make a song. I was looking for a song from Sailor Moon, and they gave me a copy of the song (MP3). I still have that song on one of my USB drives. Still lovely, so it's more of an "I can live with it" rather than an "I got over" kind of thing. Makes sense. 8 hours ago, Samurai Equine said: there will always be part of you that misses them. 8 hours ago, Samurai Equine said: I am glad I came to this community, because there are friends and potential friends around every corner! So am I , @abronymouse and @Ice Princess Silky <3 made me feel at home when I first arrived. I also love seeing so many of you are OGs and still being here every day. 8 hours ago, Samurai Equine said: Thank for you caring. Thank you too. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treeglow Flicker 13,890 February 21 Share February 21 Too many it feels like. But one particular one that sticks with me is this. Well over a decade ago, I had a friend online who I would speak with for hours everyday that just sort of vanished. We were confidantes and I always enjoyed speaking with her and talking about various different things. We ended up knowing each other for a good number of years. I'm not sure whatever really happened to her, but a distance grew between us to the point that someday it just all ended. Not sure how or why. No drama or falling out. Our connection sort of just vanished. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Insight 114 February 21 Author Share February 21 33 minutes ago, Treeglow Flicker said: but a distance grew between us to the point that someday it just all ended. Not sure how or why. No drama or falling out. Our connection sort of just vanished. If your friendship slowly faded out and you still miss her, have you ever thought of texting her again? Maybe she feels the same. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treeglow Flicker 13,890 February 21 Share February 21 32 minutes ago, Midnight Insight said: If your friendship slowly faded out and you still miss her, have you ever thought of texting her again? Maybe she feels the same. This was many years ago through Windows Live Messenger. There are no longer any routes for contact sadly. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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