As someone who is in not only a long distant relationship, but an open one as well, it is my thoughts and opinion that, as long as you work at it and that there is trust, honesty, respect, love and equality coming from both sides of the relationship, then yes it can work. 

For any kind of relationship to work, there must be honesty, respect, trust and equality, for without a single one of those, none of the others can not exist/co-exist and there is no love, and if there is no love, then there is no relationship.

But this is just my opinion.

As someone who is in not only a long distant relationship, but an open one as well, it is my thoughts and opinion that, as long as you work at it and that there is trust, honesty, respect, love and equality coming from both sides of the relationship, then yes it can work. 

 

For any kind of relationship to work, there must be honesty, respect, trust and equality, for without a single one of those, none of the others can not exist/co-exist and there is no love, and if there is no love, then there is no relationship.

 

But this is just my opinion.

There is a lot of truth in that. I appreciate you're input a lot as well.

Also two it has to be both ways as in effort put into that relationship. 

Exactly, I knew I forgot something, so thank you for putting that in. If you would like any advice on your relationship and how to make it better and such, please feel free to ask me, I am always willing to help out ^^

I was in one in 6th grade with a boy who was at my school, but moved away in the next district. We barely talked, and it really didn't last long. All was good though, because before I called it quits, he did and we both laughed about it in the end. The relationship didn't last, buuut at least we were still friends. C:

Well, here's my thoughts:

Any "relationship" with someone you've never even seen before is silly. If you know the person in real life and can meet up occasionally, that's one thing. But if you don't know them beyond a name on a computer screen... well... I think you should probably take a step back and consider just what it is that you're doing.

I'm not saying that you can't meet someone online, meet up, and then pursue a relationship, but to jump from meeting someone online to a relationship before you've even seen their face really spins my head around backwards. It strikes me as being... childish. Honestly.

Well, here's my thoughts:

 

Any "relationship" with someone you've never even seen before is silly. If you know the person in real life and can meet up occasionally, that's one thing. But if you don't know them beyond a name on a computer screen... well... I think you should probably take a step back and consider just what it is that you're doing.

 

I'm not saying that you can't meet someone online, meet up, and then pursue a relationship, but to jump from meeting someone online to a relationship before you've even seen their face really spins my head around backwards. It strikes me as being... childish. Honestly.

I understand where you are coming from and what you said there makes a lot of sense.

Well, here's my thoughts:

 

Any "relationship" with someone you've never even seen before is silly. If you know the person in real life and can meet up occasionally, that's one thing. But if you don't know them beyond a name on a computer screen... well... I think you should probably take a step back and consider just what it is that you're doing.

 

I'm not saying that you can't meet someone online, meet up, and then pursue a relationship, but to jump from meeting someone online to a relationship before you've even seen their face really spins my head around backwards. It strikes me as being... childish. Honestly.

Ah yes, you see this is where, in my opinion things can be left to personal experience and opinions. For most people, yes not being able to see someone's face is a bit of a turn down, because they focus on physical attractiveness (some, not all) but do not forget there are also people who are pansexual who go for someone's personality, which once again, can be difficult to determine if they are real or not, but for some people (myself included) it can be pretty easy. Once again just my opinion, so you can take it how ever you want.

Ah yes, you see this is where, in my opinion things can be left to personal experience and opinions. For most people, yes not being able to see someone's face is a bit of a turn down, because they focus on physical attractiveness (some, not all) but do not forget there are also people who are pansexual who go for someone's personality, which once again, can be difficult to determine if they are real or not, but for some people (myself included) it can be pretty easy. Once again just my opinion, so you can take it how ever you want.

Yeah... but no.

It's much more difficult to tell if you're being played if this is all happening over a computer screen. This isn't about physical attractiveness so much as it is sanity. There is a lot you can hide on the internet, so I think it's important to hold off on any commitments until you're sure you actually know the person.

When you only know someone on the internet, you're going to develop this mental image of them. That's not just in terms of appearance, but also personality, habits, mannerisms, and so on. Your perception of them may or may not be accurate, and when you do eventually meet, they may not live up to your expectations. It's important to make sure your perception of the person is accurate before you jump into anything serious. Otherwise, you're counting your chickens before they hatch.

Yeah... but no.

 

It's much more difficult to tell if you're being played if this is all happening over a computer screen. This isn't about physical attractiveness so much as it is sanity. There is a lot you can hide on the internet, so I think it's important to hold off on any commitments until you're sure you actually know the person.

 

When you only know someone on the internet, you're going to develop this mental image of them. That's not just in terms of appearance, but also personality, habits, mannerisms, and so on. Your perception of them may or may not be accurate, and when you do eventually meet, they may not live up to your expectations. It's important to make sure your perception of the person is accurate before you jump into anything serious. Otherwise, you're counting your chickens before they hatch.

That is true, hence why I usually ask if they have Viber (so we can call each other for free) or Skype, that way we can still see each other, if not in person but at least see each other on Skype..

Also, i apologize if I seem to be a bit all over the place about this sort of thing, i don't mean to, I'm kind of actually 50/50 on it. Half for it, as I am in quite a few L/D relationships, so i am for it, and for some, it may seem that long distance is all they are capable of, but at the same time, i am somewhat against it, for the reasons that were stated.. I hope this makes sense

Yeah, well I'll give you that. I knew someone who was wanting to marry someone she met online... but couldn't even Skype the person out of fear.

LOL... as long as you're not that crazy, you're probably not the type of person I'm speaking of. xD

Yeah, well I'll give you that. I knew someone who was wanting to marry someone she met online... but couldn't even Skype the person out of fear.

 

LOL... as long as you're not that crazy, you're probably not the type of person I'm speaking of. xD

Yeeeah,  i admit that is really crazy, I mean I met my ex wife on iMVu but the thought of marriage didn't even occur until after we had been together for about half a year and we had lived together for a while too.

Long Distance can definitely work just as long as you and the other person can make it work. Which includes not dating anyone on the side offline (unless you're in a polyamorous relationship and all parties involved are okay with it). 

I've been in several which none have worked for me personally but there are a decent amount of people which it worked for. 

Really I have no problem with it as long as you eventually meet up with your other (which may take several years so people dating online should always be prepared for that).

I'm in a long distance relationship (which I'm sure everyone on the forum knows), and I'm not so sure if they can "work" since I haven't been able to meet up with SparkWolf yet, but we both care about each other and plan to meet up someday. I think it sort of depends on the person; some people will be able to handle long distance relationships more than others. 

My biggest advice... Skype often (or use another program that allows you to video chat frequently). I think it really helps to be able to see the person and talk to them with your voice. Finding fun things to do together (playing online games, drawing pictures, watching movies, etc.) helps too.

And of course, try to meet up soon if you can.