Friends Or Family?

[King 5,625]

People Do not choose family, and in many cases can become distant from the people that they call family.

 

In my own personal case, Im not that attached to all of my family, just a few select people.

 

The way I see it, friendship can be alot stronger then family, infact I ave a chosen family of my own amongst the best of my friends, and we regard each other as brothers and sisters respectively.

Our Relationships to each other feel alot stronger then the one I have with my biological family.

 

So Im wondering about all of you...

 

What do you think is stronger, Blood ties? Or the people you choose?

[NavelColt 22,880]

Family is anyone you care about deeply, who you accept into the very core dynamics of your life. Friends can be family. So...family.

[bladereaper07 42]

Well, honestly, I could break that thinking...Family is the first group of friends you have. In a way, you are as easily attatched to your family as you are to friends. Why? 'Cause an average person will have this unexplainable bond to their own flesh and blood. They will usually hold their kin at higher regards/priority.

 

I had a larger "rant" in mind, but I'm too lazy to post it.

[King 5,625]

Family is anyone you care about deeply, who you accept into the very core dynamics of your life. Friends can be family. So...family.

Actually I do like your way of thinking...

Since I truly do treat my closest friends as kin.

 

So you have given me something to think about really...

[Concord 1,982]

Hello!

 

Definately family... I've never had that many great friends to truly understand the Magic of friendship... But i've always had a great circle of relatives around me...

[Lisa 5,553]

I don't know, I guess it's just who YOU choose to care about the most.

 

In my case, I'd probably choose Family.

Family is your home, where you belong and be loved.

[Staticboom 33]

My family are definitely not the most caring people in the world, especially me, their freak of a son.

 

But my friends are always there, I've lost plenty of friends sure, but those people whom I've always had faith in have never left my side. It has been said many times already, but they are like the family I never truly had.

 

So I guess friends.

[King 5,625]

My family are definitely not the most caring people in the world, especially me, their freak of a son.

 

But my friends are always there, I've lost plenty of friends sure, but those people whom I've always had faith in have never left my side. It has been said many times already, but they are like the family I never truly had.

 

So I guess friends.

You're not a freak ...

Anyone who says or thinks that is ignorant and stupid...

Everyone is different, everyone is unique....

And trust me, its better to be unique then a clone of everything around you

 

And Its true, sometimes biological family isnt there for you. So its nice to have a chosen family, the people who YOU care about most, and who care about you....

 

also *hug* Hugs for you

 

Actually...

 

*hug* Hugs for all!!! 

[Zygen 6,066]

I would say friendship because talking to your family about problems or just hanging out with them can be akward. I mean I love my family and all, but there's some things only friends can do they can't.

 

Unfortunately I don't have any really good friends IRL heck I don't hang out with anyone like ever. But I do think friendships are very strong.

 

Heck some friendships can be practically family.

[Powderpuff 390]

I moved thousands of miles away to get away from my family, and I've had great, amazing friends that I would consider some of the greatest people I've met...yet I think I think I still choose family. And mine's about to be broken apart, and my mom will very soon move to the other side of the world...I think sometimes it takes something like that to realize how much something means to you.

Edited March 24, 2013 by Powderpuff

[LittleSis 62]

Friends. Because you choose those people. You love them and protect them because you think they're special. Family is something you're kinda forced into. It's all really random and I think it's wrong that people say blood ties MUST run deeper than friendships.

 

For example, my brother is a little jerk and does nothing for my life except piss me off. If somehow he gets in a fight with my friend, I'm probably gonna side with the friend. I don't owe my brother anything and he's never given me a reason to defend him. My folks are really against this and they say I am obliged to defend him as the older sister. But why?? He's always either trying to piss me off or get me into trouble and I'm supposed to stick up for him JUST because he happened to also be born to my parents?

 

No. I stick with my friends and I will defend and protect them because I love them I know that they would do the same for me.

[Hawk Moth 390]

It depends on the people. Too many times, people will pull the friend and family cards.

 

"How could you not think of me/us! We're family/friends!"

 

For instance, the son of one of my mom's aunts who was known to be a real ne'er do well scumbag turned up in jail with a drug/alcohol problem. The day after, my mom's cousin calls, saying that everyone in the family needs to chip in to help this guy. This was pretty quick and easy to do, considering my mom was just a phone call away. Now yesterday my mom gets a call that her cousin got in a bad car crash and sent to the hospital with injuries that may keep her there for two months. The wreck happened last week, and it took the family that long to call her. Other members of the family were informed that day, but they waited a week to call my mom, and the thing is that we're close enough to go down and visit her, and it would only take a day's drive that we plan on taking in the coming weeks.

 

Some friends on the other hand would make that call the second they catch their breath. At times family members will do things just to spite other members of the family.

 

Again, in the end it just comes down to the actual people. Some family members are family in name and blood only, and some friends just use the word as a way to get things out of you.

[Night Shine 767]

I agree with you 100%, Dawn.

 

In my life, my friends have always been the ones that I trust the most. I often use you guys--my TRUE family--to help cheer me up when my "family" has got me down, either by mocking my MLP obsession or by putting on academic pressure. They are very insensitive to my feelings, often expressing disgust at my depression whenever I am feeling down. With you all, I know that I am safe.

 

...although I'd never come onto these forums when I'm depressed. I always watch sum MLP before going online at night to keep me good and chipper, so I'd never drag you all down

 

And that's another thing. I feel very little to no remorse about going behind my family's back, as I know that my true self has to exist behind their backs, but I couldn't stand the thought of hurting any of you; again, you are all my real family.

 

I love you guys! <3

 

*hugs all*

[King 5,625]

Oh and I should Clarify. When I say Family or friends, I mean Biological family, or Chosen Family/Friends...

 

I love my friends to death and I know Id do anythign for them, but then I have my chosen family, the close group of friends I truly consider my brothers and sisters. If people ask me if I have siblings I tell them plainly that I have a few, even if they aren't my biological family.

[Hawk Moth 390]

That reminds me of the "Band of Brothers" line from "Henry V". I know for a fact though that my adopted cousin is not family, neither blood nor kinship. Neither is his asshole of a father.

[Envy 6,162]

My family has done a lot for me (specifically my parents and grandparents) but when it comes down to it, they just really don't understand me. It's really been bothering me, especially those who go love to make insulting remarks about how they think I should be (my sister =/).

 

My new group of friends and my ex (yeah, for real... Lol.) are the people I want to be with. It makes me sad to say such a thing. I have to be forever grateful of everything my family has done for me. I just wish we could get this one basic ordeal out of the way so I could be able to be fully grateful.

[Lunas Husband 2,777]

Friend,

 

Only because I don't have any family, what family that is still alive hates me or dose not know I'm still alive and thinks I died some time ago.