Please lock/forget two threads...

[)O( Scarlet )O( 1,259]

I was wondering if two threads could please be locked/forgotten.

 

The two I am talking about the ""Finding Your Special Somepony" thread and the "What Do You Look For In a Boyfriend/Girlfriend" thread.

 

Now my reasons for wanting them locked I will quote what I said in the thread:

 

 

 

You know something, this thought just popped up in my mind now... But, trying to find love, especially on a thread like this. it is forced somewhat, and most chances that any relationships stemmed from this thread won't last, for various reasons. Now I agree 100% with Mr. Skylar Where relationships that are stemmed from friendships first, are whole lot better and are a lot more likely to succeed. Another thought is this, that the unsuccess from this thread, can bring a person down, making them feel depressed, unliked and unloved. It can make them depressed, and yes I am speaking from personal experience. I think that maybe, as much as this was a nice idea and everything, but this thread should probably be locked and forgotten, and the "what do you look for in a bf/gf" thread is kind of going this way too...

 

and what @, said in return:

 

 

 

Yeah, thats kind of the problem with this thread. One: MLP forums isn't really a dating sight, it's a fan sight. Two: The gender ratio is wildly out of balance on this forum to have this tread be truly effective anyway. Three: People maybe putting their expectations two high and then end up very disappointed. All and all I can see what this tread was trying to go for but... it just doesn't work and why I never posted any sort of "about me info" in the tread. Im pretty sure that there was just that one instance where somepony found their special somepony here.

Also, I don't think anypony really took it that seriously, and those that did well they probably feel disheartened.

Edited December 30, 2013 by Blue Blur

[Guest]

@,I would maybe propose putting a poll on the thread, for other members to state their opinion on this subject nicely viewable.
( two options: "Yes delete em" or " Keep em.". Or maybe " delete this one"  )
since those threads wouldnt exist at all/be swamped, if noone here wanted them. Or at least is that my humble thought.

Edited December 30, 2013 by Guest

[)O( Scarlet )O( 1,259]

the poll has been added, happy?

[DarkestStar 31]

After looking through both threads it seems like you and ~OnylexOmnyPony have a point. It's mighty useless to have a thread dedicated to trying to find a special somepony. If you happen to find someone on here, that's fantastic and I congratulate you on your success, but it shouldn't be a big topic of discussion. If people need advice on their current relationships, that's fine, but trying to have it so people can get a relationship through this site is not ideal. There's a reason online dating sites like Match.com and eHarmony were invented.

[Slice0Pie 815]

After reading the posts, I agree. If you find a speical somepony, congrats, I'm happy for you, but there is no need for a huge discussion about it. This site is not a dating sight, so making a thread Find your Speical Somepony is sort of useless and may hurt other people.

 

I am also not a huge fan of the 'Who would you like to meet irl from the site' or whatever it's called. People seem to be getting 'hurt' from that thread because there not getting 'picked' I understand it's not a popularity thread, and some people may not be comfortable with meeting you, but it's just my opinion..

[Skylar 1,641]

The topics are causing no harm, just because you dont like them doesnt mean they should be locked.

 

The what do you look for in a girlfriend / boyfriend is just a general discussion and not a dating topic.  

 

With the finding your special somepony thread, again it's been up for a long time and it's worked for a few people. Again if it doesn't work for you or you dont like it dont look at it, simple. 

 

I actually really enjoy these sort of threads and seeing other peoples happiness. stop being so fucking negative or at least if you want to be negative then stop trying to bring down other peoples joy.  

Edited December 30, 2013 by Skylar

[MLPForums Phanact 1,374]

I do not like threads about religions. This isn't a religious debate site, it's a fan site.

 

Okay, that was sarcasm, but can you see my point? I agree with @Skylar that you can't just remove something because you don't like it. The logic that I used in the first sentence of my post just does not work or else only MLP related things could be posted here.

Edited December 30, 2013 by EllEssEss

[)O( Scarlet )O( 1,259]

Seriously you two? It isn't that I didn't like them, it was that they were bucking pointless! Who here has actually found someone using that thread, and if they did, how long did it last?

 

besides I think the majority of people using that thread did so as a joke

[Slice0Pie 815]

Actually, I guess Skylar and Ell also has a good point... I honestly don't know of the threads should be taken down or not now...

[MLPForums Phanact 1,374]

The "What do you look for in a boyfriend/girlfriend" thread had nothing to do with hooking up. It was to simply state the features you like best in people.

The "Finding your special somepony" thread actually did work for a friend of mine, if I'm remembering correctly.

 

Again, using your logic, who's religion has changed due to the massive amount of religious debate threads? I would imagine very few and by that merit they must be pointless.

 

^ I disagree with that logic, just because they haven't worked yet doesn't mean they won't eventually will. Leave the threads be, they're not affecting you in anyway. If you don't like them then don't post there.

[Skylar 1,641]

Seriously you two? It isn't that I didn't like them, it was that they were bucking pointless! Who here has actually found someone using that thread, and if they did, how long did it last?

 

besides I think the majority of people using that thread did so as a joke

 

Stop acting like the forum police, if you dont like them, like Ess said, dont view them, simple. 

 

I know at least 2 people who have found happy relationships from that thread and so what if most people joke? Joking is positive and a bit of a laugh, same with the other thread, it's just people stating what they look for it's not a thread where people go 'hey babe I love what your looking for, thats me we should totally hook up  :comeatus: '

 

A thread being pointless is a matter of perspective and if it was deemed pointless would have been taken down a long time ago.  

 

If you want to see pointless topics and argue about them go to the debate pit, theres plenty there xD 

[Moonlight 7,291]

Personally, I believe both threads are perfectly fine. The "What do you look for in a girl/boyfriend" thread is simply a preference thread and nothing more. The "Finding your special somepony" thread assists in helping people find a possible girl/boyfriend or just some friends. If you don't like them, don't look at them, simple, really. Don't try to ruin everyone else's interests in said threads or try to bring down their happiness at a chance of love. And just because YOU view them as pointless, doesn't mean they actually are pointless.

 

I definitely agree with both @Skylar and  in this. 

[Slice0Pie 815]

Yeah, I totally agree now that they should not be locked.

Wheatly, Skylar, and Ell have a very good point

[galaxysquid 2,122]

Skylar and Ell both have very good points. I agree with them.

 

The "What do you look for in a boy/girlfriend" thread is just to discuss what traits you'd like for your partner in a relationship.

The "Finding your special somepony" one does work for some people. And they do enjoy the thread. 

 

These threads are not useless or bad in any way. If you don't like them just leave them alone and let other people enjoy it. ^^

Edited December 30, 2013 by PrincessOfWinterWubs

[Techite Sparkle 354]

To be quite honest... And this is just my opinion. If your taking force from this well I'm sorry...

 

Based on what I have seen the  "What Do You Look For In a Boyfriend/Girlfriend" seems to be a good concept and therefore if there was a poll against that to keep it or trash it. I would vote to actually keep it. Because I seems to be a thread where you can learn some pretty important lessons from other people. But yeah then it comes to the BF/GF thing irl... Its all up to you xP.

 

 

But as for the "Finding Your Special Somepony" thread. I cant say I agree 100% with this as there is dating sites out there already... But if it works for you... that's great but come to remember that you are on a Forum. Not a dating site. I'm not fully against it. Unless somebody in the future gives me a reason for me to be against. I haven't seen any conflict regarding it yet so in my eyes at the moment it is not really a problem... and again unless somebodys make it a problem... 

Edited December 30, 2013 by Techite Sparkle

[Antismurf9001 1,271]

just because you dont like them doesnt mean they should be locked.

 

you can't just remove something because you don't like it.

 

I would argue that that is not the reasoning behind this (and I personally think that it's a little harsh to assume that this is the case).  The point isn't that he doesn't like the thread, it's that he sees that the thread is constantly disappointing people who seem to have high hopes for it and doesn't want that to happen anymore. (Note that I'm speaking specifically about the Finding a Special Somepony thread, I have no problem with the other one.)  You say that it isn't actively hurting people, but, despite its good intentions, in some cases it is.  And yes, it has helped some people; that's a fact that I won't deny.  I also won't deny that gambling hasn't helped some people, but the rest are likely to be left disappointed and penniless.

 

I'm honestly not sure where I stand on whether or not the thread should be locked, but I feel like this is a point that should be considered.

[Skylar 1,641]

I would argue that that is not the reasoning behind this (and I personally think that it's a little harsh to assume that this is the case).  The point isn't that he doesn't like the thread, it's that he sees that the thread is constantly disappointing people who seem to have high hopes for it and doesn't want that to happen anymore. (Note that I'm speaking specifically about the Finding a Special Somepony thread, I have no problem with the other one.)  You say that it isn't actively hurting people, but, despite its good intentions, in some cases it is.  And yes, it has helped some people; that's a fact that I won't deny.  I also won't deny that gambling hasn't helped some people, but the rest are likely to be left disappointed and penniless.

 

I'm honestly not sure where I stand on whether or not the thread should be locked, but I feel like this is a point that should be considered.

 

It is totally what hes implying, again if you or him dont like the thread so what?  Has it caused harm or conflict? No? So whats the problem?  

 

I wish people like that would stop kicking a fuss and slamming their negativity on to everything. Negativity is killing this forum and im sick of it. 

Edited December 30, 2013 by Skylar

[MLPForums Phanact 1,374]

I would argue that that is not the reasoning behind this (and I personally think that it's a little harsh to assume that this is the case).  The point isn't that he doesn't like the thread, it's that he sees that the thread is constantly disappointing people who seem to have high hopes for it and doesn't want that to happen anymore. (Note that I'm speaking specifically about the Finding a Special Somepony thread, I have no problem with the other one.)  You say that it isn't actively hurting people, but, despite its good intentions, in some cases it is.  And yes, it has helped some people; that's a fact that I won't deny.  I also won't deny that gambling hasn't helped some people, but the rest are likely to be left disappointed and penniless.

 

I'm honestly not sure where I stand on whether or not the thread should be locked, but I feel like this is a point that should be considered.

 

The whole gender ratio argument is a pile of wank. There are multiple members who are gay or bisexual and so applying the gender ratio immediately cuts out a large section of the LGBT fanbase.

 

People putting expectations too high is also another pile of wank. If you put your expectations high then this is YOUR fault and yours alone. Not the threads, not the OP's.

 

The thread is also not forced in any shape or form. You post a little bit about yourself and that's it. You wait for a PM from someone interested or you can PM someone whom you're interested in at which point you can form a friendship based on similar interests etc. or you can make the judgement that you're both incompatible and then you try again with someone new.

[Skylar 1,641]

Ugh, Edited because it sounded rude = / 

Edited December 30, 2013 by Skylar

[Antismurf9001 1,271]

Has it caused harm or conflict? 

 

Conflict?  No.  Harm?  Kind of yes.  Going through the thread, you can notice people getting progressively more negative and disappointed, followed by periods of inactivity, and the cycle repeats.

 

The whole gender ratio argument is a pile of wank. There are multiple members who are gay or bisexual and so applying the gender ratio immediately cuts out a large section of the LGBT fanbase.

 

Fair point, but that's addressing the ratio within the fanbase in general.  The ratio within this thread, however, is ridiculously imbalanced, leaning towards heterosexual males.  I can't give an exact number, but I can make an estimate of well over 50%, and is likely closer to 70-90%.

 

People putting expectations too high is also another pile of wank. If you put your expectations high then this is YOUR fault and yours alone. Not the threads, not the OP's.

 

Again, fair point, and I certainly don't think that it's the OP's fault, but it's sort of like blaming a child for being disappointed because they got nothing at Christmas.  That's an extreme example, but I think that it get's across the point.

 

The thread is also not forced in any shape or form. You post a little bit about yourself and that's it. You wait for a PM from someone interested or you can PM someone whom you're interested in at which point you can form a friendship based on similar interests etc. or you can make the judgement that you're both incompatible and then you try again with someone new.

 

True, very true.  I don't really have anything to say against this.

[MLPForums Phanact 1,374]

Again, fair point, and I certainly don't think that it's the OP's fault, but it's sort of like blaming a child for being disappointed because they got nothing at Christmas.  That's an extreme example, but I think that it get's across the point.

 

That is actually a very good thought and the example used is quite applicable to this. I can see how people might feel disappointed now which I didn't take into consideration before.

 

I think if you go into that thread thinking you will find someone though then you're going to fail. If you go in thinking that it's just a bit of fun then you'll be more likely to find someone and if you don't then it doesn't matter because it was just fun! 

[Doctor XFizzle 8,672]

This might catch me some flack, but I'm older and I don't care

 

I don't mind topics that have a "popularity" angle to them. I know members get upset or sad if they don't get picked for something, but I say tough nuggets. It's an internet website for pony discussion. If you have to derive your self-worth from strangers off the internet, then we won't agree. I get societal pressure and being a youth and having peer acceptance, but take it from a 24 year old, it's overblown. Be happy with yourself for yourself, not with others' interpretation of yourself.

[Onylex 2,838]

Damn it guys, I fell asleep and didn't see any of this happen or notice people were mentioning me and what not... this is why I don't like sleeping, I always miss out on the awesome stuff... :okiedokielokie: Okay, I lied I like it a little... 

I was wondering if two threads could please be locked/forgotten.

 

The two I am talking about the ""Finding Your Special Somepony" thread and the "What Do You Look For In a Boyfriend/Girlfriend" thread.

 

Now my reasons for wanting them locked I will quote what I said in the thread:

 

 

 

 

and what @, said in return:

 

 

 

Also, I don't think anypony really took it that seriously, and those that did well they probably feel disheartened.

 

Anyway, what I meant by what I posted in the 'Finding your Special Sompony thread' wasn't that I wanted to take the thread down or, lock it, I just simply meant that people shouldn't get their hopes to high.

 

Some get to the point where they put themselves down, people put themselves into the mind set of "Why is everybody able to find somepony accaept for me?" and "I must not be that great of a person".

 

I stated that the bigger reason that you may not find somebody if you are looking isn't because you are a bad person or, an unattractive person.

 

No, thats not it at all, its just that the gender ratio is out of whack, the thread is kind of difficult to skim through, especially if you may be looking for someone specific and, that it doesn't really work the way it wants to for many other reasons. 

 

Personally, I like these types of unique threads. I think that its awesome when it works out for someone and, I like seeing things work out for someone but, Im just saying don't through your hopes way up in the air expecting them to be caught with 100% certainty because you may see it work out for others.  -_-

Edited December 30, 2013 by Onylex

[NavelColt 22,883]

I was wondering if two threads could please be locked/forgotten.

 

The two I am talking about the ""Finding Your Special Somepony" thread and the "What Do You Look For In a Boyfriend/Girlfriend" thread.

 

Now my reasons for wanting them locked I will quote what I said in the thread:

 

I gotta be honest, this is the kind of thing that should be in a staff members' inbox, in a report, or in a Support Ticket. Why it's in a feedback topic and is being debated about by members, is honestly beyond me. While I can understand trying to get thoughts on what other people think, it's ultimately the staff's decision whether something gets locked or not, so rallying the opinions of members is rather pointless. That kind of feedback thread would be far better off in a thread talking about thread locking in general. Since this is two specific topics with a very specific reasoning why they should be locked/removed, this is best off as a staff-related matter.

 

Should you have a desire to have any threads of your own locked/hidden, please contact the staff through one of those mentioned mediums.