writing What not to do in a relationship (my exes and their failures)

[Shankveld 4,950]

This is me exposing my personal information about my past failed relationships. Since I'm getting married now I really don't care and thought you could either learn something from reading this, or at least get a good laugh.

I only start counting relationships from 12 years of age and up, because without hormones or sexual pressures, it's just puppy love.

I had my first 'relationship' when I turned 12.

 

J : 2 years

It's hard for me even to consider this a relationship since we were just too immature kids. In all honesty we should have broken up WAY before the 2 year point, I honestly don't know why we dragged on such a dead relationship. We both hated each other by the end, it was a completely mutual break-up (I know everyone says that, but this one is actually true). I originally agreed to date him because he was nice, that was literally the only thing going for this kid. We had been friends before and well now obviously we're not. I'm pretty sure he's gay now, which is surprising since he had a creepy thing for his cousin during our 'relationship'. We haven't spoken since we parted on my fourteenth birthday, best present ever.

Lesson: Don't waste time trying to make a dead relationship live. It's emotionally draining and a waste of two years time. Time you could have spent with someone worth your time.

 

L : 18 months (1 year and six months)

This is probably my relationship I'm most ashamed about having. He's the kind of guy that if people ask, "didn't you date him?" You'd answer, "oh no way." He literally had nothing going for him. He was ugly, stupid, a high-school drop-out with no life ambition, a complete asshole and not even funny. I can't even for the life of me remember why I dated this loser. Anyway I was young and stupid, and wasted more of my life with a loser. He actually treated me horribly, never did anything I wanted to do. It was always take, take, take. Anyway, by the end he actually ended up dumping me. He dumped me for another girl, a girl who had no interest in him. Which resulted in him harassing me for a few weeks after, trying to 'get me back'. That didn't happen. Four months ago he messaged me on facebook a naked picture of himself. I reported and blocked him.

Lesson: A loser will always lose.

 

M: 1 month

This relationship ended up teaching me an important lesson. Me and this individual HAD nothing in common. Hanging out with him always left me bored out of my mind. He also had terrible taste in music, which I pretended to like. I agreed to date him because he was attractive. After about a mouth his 'romance act' faded and I just dumped his ass over text. #class. He's never tried to contact me since.

Lesson: Beauty fades, and then you're just left with the insides.

 

K: 1 month

This relationship is classic 'daddy issues'. For those of you who don't know, I didn't have the greatest relationship with my father, so this made me seek out older guys. Which is the only reason I dated this guy. We really again had nothing in common and he was more interested in his friends than respecting his girlfriend. The funny thing is that he had a younger brother that was my age and I actually spent most of our relationship hanging out with him instead. We both liked anime, so it was cool. I remember hating his mom, every time she'd see me she'd tell me how to dress or wear my wear. Like bitch, back off. Anyway I ended up developing feelings for his best friend, and dumped him for him. Anytime I was single after this he would always ask me out on a date, I rejected him though.

Lesson: Similarities are the foundation of any good relationship.

 

C: 9 months

Ugh. So this was my first relationship with real feelings, and I ended up getting my heart severely broken. All my life I had been an odd ball, and all I wanted was another odd ball to spend my life with. Well, I should have been careful of what I missed for. From the ceasepool of 4chan itself and I'm talking /d/ here. I blindly trusted this individual and told them all my secrets (secrets no one but I knew), which ended up biting me in the ass hard. Soon his sweet and selfless act faded and I discovered his true self: a narcissistic psycho. He ended up blackmailing me for the majority of our relationship and I endured both emotional, physical and verbal abuse for months. Eventually I couldn't take it anymore and cut him off completely. He exposed my secrets and I lost some friends, but I was free. He send me several e-mails a day to this day. Ranging from 'I'm going to kill' you to 'I'm so sorry'.

Lesson: The truth will set you free. A donkey in a lion's skin will eventually show it's a donkey. There are really so many.

 

T: 2 weeks

This wasn't really a relationship but it stills gets honorable mentions. I was SO scared from my previous relationship that I rebounded with this guy. Basically he's your typical 'nice' guy that 'helped' me get over my ex. He would support me through all the really hard times and self loathing, because he had a crush on me (shocker). I didn't feel the same way, but out of pity I dated him. I quickly ended it because he was just a stupid kid.

Lesson: Helping her won't make her love you.

 

W: 3 months

I like to call this one the robot. Don't hate me, but I dated him for his money. I was still too hurt to even consider a 'real' relationship. Don't worry, I made it very clear to this individual I was just interesting in having fun and nothing serious. So he bought me everything I wanted, took me anywhere I wanted. I had fun, but that only takes you so far. My heart deeply craved that intimacy that all hearts crave. I tried to open up to him about my feelings and he froze up. He was as emotionless as a robot. So I dumped him.

Lesson: So you got the moves but have you got the touch? Don't get me wrong, yeah I think you're alright. But that wont keep me warm in the middle of the night.

 

And that's when I decided I was done with boys for awhile. I was just going to be happy being single and learn to love myself. I decided to improve myself and get over the emotional issues life had given me. Because whoever was deserving of my love, deserve the best me I could be.

And that was the most valuable lesson I could have ever learned.

Because it was after that, when I found the perfect man for me.

I couldn't be happier.

​Finally I wasn't trying to fill the 'emptiness' with a relationship. Inside I filled the 'emptiness' myself and decided I wanted to share my love and happiness with another.

[Fizz. 1,078]

This was a really good read. Well written Shank. Judging from your other topics, I really think you should spend a bit of your free time writing relationship guides. Maybe you could even get them published!

[Shankveld 4,950]

This was a really good read. Well written Shank. Judging from your other topics, I really think you should spend a bit of your free time writing relationship guides. Maybe you could even get them published!

 

Life is the best teacher, if you're willing to learn.

Thanks though ~

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Thanks for the information

although i wont have any need for it

[Finesthour 7,287]

*Sigh*

I know what I have to do.

[Shankveld 4,950]

Thanks for the information

although i wont have any need for it

 

Who says?

You are your own worst enemy.

~

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Who says?

 

 

me

[Aphelion 253]

I've had some of my fetishes exposed on DA and FA before by a nasty ex mare after a horrible break up, you just don't do that crap to anyone, no matter how bad you think they are. Sex lives are private Celestia dammit!

[Dreadmallon 353]

Great read, have to say I feel bad for some of your past relationships. This also gave me some more knowledge about girls (will help in my relationship).

[Shankveld 4,950]

me

 

If you want a relationship there isn't any reason why you shouldn't have one.

 

 

And that's when I decided I was done with boys for awhile. I was just going to be happy being single and learn to love myself. I decided to improve myself and get over the emotional issues life had given me. Because whoever was deserving of my love, deserve the best me I could be.

And that was the most valuable lesson I could have ever learned.

Because it was after that, when I found the perfect man for me.

I couldn't be happier.

​Finally I wasn't trying to fill the 'emptiness' with a relationship. Inside I filled the 'emptiness' myself and decided I wanted to share my love and happiness with another.

 

[Akemi Homura 7,680]

C: 9 months

.... I blindly trusted this individual and told them all my secrets (secrets no one but I knew), which ended up biting me in the ass hard. Soon his sweet and selfless act faded and I discovered his true self: a narcissistic psycho. He ended up blackmailing me for the majority of our relationship and I endured both emotional, physical and verbal abuse for months.

 

Yikes, I hope this doesn't affect your judgement with us, then. I can sort of relate, but I have to question the level of trust you're willing to put into other people. It's understandable, but now after reading this I'll take extra measures into not blindly following things.

[Finesthour 7,287]

I kind of want to share all of my ex stories.

I'm 15 and I have 16 of them..

 

And most of them ended in HORRIBLE tragedies.

[Aphelion 253]

I kind of want to share all of my ex stories.

I'm 15 and I have 16 of them..

 

And most of them ended in HORRIBLE tragedies.

 

Dayum....

[Shankveld 4,950]

I've had some of my fetishes exposed on DA and FA before by a nasty ex mare after a horrible break up, you just don't do that crap to anyone, no matter how bad you think they are. Sex lives are private Celestia dammit!

 

Sexual or not. If you put your trust in someone about something private to you, they should never reveal that out of spite. ~

Sorry to hear you had to deal with that though

 

Great read, have to say I feel bad for some of your past relationships. This also gave me some more knowledge about girls (will help in my relationship).

 

Glad to could learn from my mistakes ~

 

Yikes, I hope this doesn't affect your judgement with us, then. I can sort of relate, but I have to question the level of trust you're willing to put into other people. It's understandable, but now after reading this I'll take extra measures into not blindly following things.

 

I was under the delusion that this individual actually loved me and cared for my well being. I trusted too early, I should have waited. There is only so long a person can fake who they are. ~

[Aphelion 253]

Sexual or not. If you put your trust in someone about something private to you, they should never reveal that out of spite. ~

Sorry to hear you had to deal with that though

 

Yeah, I finally realized who my true friends were at that time. And I'm glad they accept me for who I am and what I do in my private time.

[Shankveld 4,950]

I kind of want to share all of my ex stories.

I'm 15 and I have 16 of them..

 

And most of them ended in HORRIBLE tragedies.

 

Maybe you should take this post as a learning experiences.

Grow in yourself and learn to love yourself,

you don't NEED to be in a relationship.

When I learned that, that is when I was able to find true love and happiness. ~

 

Yeah, I finally realized who my true friends were at that time. And I'm glad they accept me for who I am and what I do in my private time.

 

I know that feeling very well.

I'm glad those judgmental people aren't my friends anymore. ~

[Strafe 594]

Great post Shank! It sucks that most of us will go through bad relationships after reading this anyway, because the only way to learn anything in this world is to learn it the hard way.

[Finesthour 7,287]

The thing about me is, I get AMAZINGLY desperate when I'm alone.

That's why I'm so afraid of it.

[Aphelion 253]

I know that feeling very well.

I'm glad those judgmental people aren't my friends anymore. ~

 

The real challenge is dealing with them whether they're friends or not, There's a few people who I run into who have a problem with my affinity for ponies and just can't seem to shut their mouth, taking every chance they get to get in my face about my business. And to be honest, it's my own bucking business, if I wanted their comments, I would have bucking asked. :/

[Shankveld 4,950]

Great post Shank! It sucks that most of us will go through bad relationships after reading this anyway, because the only way to learn anything in this world is to learn it the hard way.

 

What was it that Gummy once said?

"If you don't test drive a few bad cars first, you'll never know when you find one worth buying"

~

 

The thing about me is, I get AMAZINGLY desperate when I'm alone.

That's why I'm so afraid of it.

 

That's only more of a sign that you are not ready for a relationship.

You need to love yourself before you can love another.

And if you can't be happy by yourself, you don't love yourself.

Maybe you should seek professional help to aid you in fixing any emotional issues you have.

~

[Twiliscael 3,960]

I could be your oddball, Shankveld <3.

I'm joking, by the way. That was pretty funny but I feel like I shouldn't be laughing because it's your personal stuff. So yeah, I'll try not to be like any of these people.

And NEVER EVER EVER trust a /b/tard.

[Shankveld 4,950]

The real challenge is dealing with them whether they're friends or not, There's a few people who I run into who have a problem with my affinity for ponies and just can't seem to shut their mouth, taking every chance they get to get in my face about my business. And to be honest, it's my own bucking business, if I wanted their comments, I would have bucking asked. :/

 

It's hard I know. I've been there. I was being condemned to hell for some of my choices. Which I to this day think I made the right choice, but people will people. Eventually I just learned to stop caring what people thought and said. I was confident in who I was, and that's all that mattered. You don't owe anyone an explanation. ~

[Finesthour 7,287]

[Shankveld 4,950]

I could be your oddball, Shankveld <3.

I'm joking, by the way. That was pretty funny but I feel like I shouldn't be laughing because it's your personal stuff. So yeah, I'll try not to be like any of these people.

And NEVER EVER EVER trust a /b/tard.

 

He was a /d/tard.

And although I appreciate the sentiment you're over 2 years too late ~

I'm glad you've learned from my past,

and don't worry about it.

I laugh about it now,

you can't let your past old you back.

[Aphelion 253]

It's hard I know. I've been there. I was being condemned to hell for some of my choices. Which I to this day think I made the right choice, but people will people. Eventually I just learned to stop caring what people thought and said. I was confident in who I was, and that's all that mattered. You don't owe anyone an explanation. ~

 

I know, but sometimes they keep on asking why, why, why. Maybe one of these days I'll just tell them to shut up and just give them the cold shoulder.... As hard as that can be sometimes when you just want to snap instead.