Confessions of a Attention Seeker

[codenameHarmony 2]

I often do things like:

 

-Seek approval of others

-Attempt to get myself noticed

-Draw the spot light towards myself over someone else

-Throw someone else under the bus

 

All of these things are terrible. I just wan't to know what I should do so I can stop being like this.

 

[Zygen 6,066]

I will admit that I can sometimes let myself become an attention seeker at times. It makes me feel bad when i do such things though.

 

Really the only advice I can offer you is to try and keep telling yourself that the world doesn't revolve around you and that you need to learn when its appropriate to give others the spotlight and not yourself.

 

Sometimes you just simply have to train your mind to not do these things, try you best to stop yourself, maybe even repeat it to yourself, you'd be suprised that you can actually get your mind to alter a bit if you repeat yourself something. Kinda like how you can solve low self confidence by telling yourself "I'm awesome" everyday. Just using something else like "The world doesn't revolve around me" Or "I don't need the approval of others" anything like that, you can get yourself to change sometimes by doing that, but it'll still take some discipline.

 

Good luck .

[SCS 7,537]

I have a possible explanation for why you are doing this, but it is only a possibility. I offer this for your consideration, but don't take this as a definite answer.

 

It's possible that you need the approval of others in order to feel good about yourself. I'm sure we all feel like this to some extent, but if you feel this especially strongly, then that may be way you are doing those things. I struggle with this issue myself, but I respond to it differently, as I am a shy introvert. 

 

You need to love and accept yourself for who you are, regardless of what anyone else thinks of you. There are billions of people on this planet, and if we rely on what others think of us in order to feel good about ourselves, we would have to change ourselves to fit the expectations of every individual person we encountered. This just doesn't work. I don't know whether or not it's possible to not care at all about what other people think, but it is definitely possible to put self validation over seeking validation from others. If you love and accept yourself for who you are, then you do not need to depend on others for validation, and you can be yourself without feeling like you have to act in certain ways to be accepted by others. 

 

 

 

 

I will admit that I can sometimes let myself become an attention seeker at times. It makes me feel bad when i do such things though.

 

Really the only advice I can offer you is to try and keep telling yourself that the world doesn't revolve around you and that you need to learn when its appropriate to give others the spotlight and not yourself.

 

Sometimes you just simply have to train your mind to not do these things, try you best to stop yourself, maybe even repeat it to yourself, you'd be suprised that you can actually get your mind to alter a bit if you repeat yourself something. Kinda like how you can solve low self confidence by telling yourself "I'm awesome" everyday. Just using something else like "The world doesn't revolve around me" Or "I don't need the approval of others" anything like that, you can get yourself to change sometimes by doing that, but it'll still take some discipline.

 

Good luck .

 

I agree with what you're saying. I know from personal experience that repeating things to yourself works, at least for me. I used to be depressed, because I hated myself for many different reasons. I didn't even try to love myself. However, one day, I decided that I would just tell myself that I loved myself, even if I didn't believe it. I didn't believe it at first, but after awhile I started believing myself when I told myself that I loved myself. I realized that the truth was that I loved myself for who I was, and any moment at which I thought otherwise was just me allowing my vision to be clouded by negativity and falsehood. 

 

So, my assumption is that this same principle applies to codenameHarmony's situation.

Edited March 20, 2013 by SCS

[Splashee 28,568]

I sometimes talk out way too loud, to get attention. It can work, but it most often gets people annoyed.

[TBD 17,257]

I WOULD ALWAYS TALK IN MY CANTERLOT VOICE TO GET EVERYONE’S ATTENTION!

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[ExplosionMare 18,090]

I used to seek approval from my English teacher a long time ago and I kinda hate myself for it now. It’s more satisfying to be happy with your work yourself than to let someone else decide if it’s good.