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[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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I've apparently gotten so bad at talking I can't even interact with my parents anymore.

[Lordav 3,428]

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I think the hardest thing is to start a convo =o

[Raritas 6,820]

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Why'd you think that? You're fine talking to us =P

[Lordav 3,428]

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i think he means actual talking.. not typing =p

[Admiral Regulus 2,769]

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[Raritas 6,820]

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I know but it's practically the same. You're just typing out what you would be saying.

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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Because I just can't. Anytime they talk to me I'm just in my head "Stop talking, stop talking, stop talking" and usually all I can do is nod or give one word responses. If they try bringing up a subject I'm uncomfortable with I literally shut down and just don't even respond until I'm forced to...

 

 Hi Regulus.

Edited February 20, 2015 by BasementPrincesses

[Lordav 3,428]

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Admiral On deck!

 

[Raritas 6,820]

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Hmm... Do you think it's a confidence thing? I'm not an expert so I'm not a great deal of help.

[Ice Fox 1,146]

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I'm pretty much like that most of the time, though perhaps not quite as far as that.

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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It's partially that most likely, but also because I feel like talking to other people is a lot...harder with words. I've gotten a lot of people mad at me before for using a certain "Tone" but I never notice when I'm using it. Or I'll just accidentally say the first thing that comes to mind, which upsets them. Or I'll try to lighten the mood with a joke and they get offended.

 

 It's also because typically they don't tend to stop when I really need or want them to. If I'm feeling uncomfortable and try to express that it just seems to make them angry.

[Raritas 6,820]

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Sounds like it is. There are a lot of times when I don't know what to say next, especially when talking to strangers. I'll be afraid that what I say they'll think is stupid. But you've got just as much right to say what you want as them, the way I see it. I think personally talking on these forums has helped me.

 

Maybe if you spoke to your parents or someone about it if you're worried. 

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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I'd really rather not talk to them about this, they might take it the wrong way...

 

 Honestly, I just feel like I don't trust them with anything that isn't the most basic of things.

[Raritas 6,820]

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Is this because there's been issues before? Sorry, don't want to get too personal =P 

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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Sorta? Not with them necessarily, though there has been issues with them, but just people in general. I could never seem to interact with others too well, unless I would literally act like a completely different person, and even then I'd still have problems.

 

 Even finding people with similar interests never really worked, since I'd still almost always do something to make them uncomfortable, or they'd just eventually stop trying to talk with me, or something. So, I've just gotten gradually less confident and worse at interacting with people.

 

 With my parents I still kinda feel like...I'm a little kid. Sort of, which is stupid, because I'm not. But they just kinda scare me really.

[Lordav 3,428]

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Well... im going... Night

[Ice Fox 1,146]

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It's partially that most likely, but also because I feel like talking to other people is a lot...harder with words. I've gotten a lot of people mad at me before for using a certain "Tone" but I never notice when I'm using it. Or I'll just accidentally say the first thing that comes to mind, which upsets them. Or I'll try to lighten the mood with a joke and they get offended.

 

 It's also because typically they don't tend to stop when I really need or want them to. If I'm feeling uncomfortable and try to express that it just seems to make them angry.

Pretty much has "Eeyup" written all over it for me. Save for the joke part ( though people often tend to ask me why I laugh when I do, even if it should be obvious. )

 

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Edited February 20, 2015 by Frozen Fox

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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Night Lordav!

 

 Yeah, I just don't really "Get" people and how to interact with them, because even when I put in the effort it just seems to go all wrong.

[Raritas 6,820]

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Well, all I can say is when you've talked to me you've been fine Base. I personally don't see that much of a difference between text or face to face speech. You're still talking to someone. I'm sure it's hasn't gone as bad with people than you think, all you really need is some confidence. I'm not much help in telling you should build it to be honest, as mine is pretty crap as well lol, but the more you open up to people, and practice talking to people, the better it becomes.

 

I've been trying to teach myself to become more confident for the past couple years now. A year ago, I probably couldn't have walked into this thread and post what I post today. I suppose a lot of it has to go down to what you've experienced in your life. 

 

Sorry, as I said I'm not the best person at giving advice, but we're all here to help you  

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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It's easier here though. I don't have to worry about some stupid "Tone" that everyone can hear but me, there's no body language involved, people don't expect me to respond super immediately, I can take the time to think out responses. And if I can't, it's much easier to just leave and come back later, since you can't really follow me.

 

 I used to get really comfortable around people really easily, but that kept causing problems.

[Ice Fox 1,146]

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Personally, I've accepted it as a part of me. Even when I'm on good terms with people, I still have a feeling of being separate. Maybe it's a figment of my imagination, maybe not. But, I just don't enjoy face-to-face interaction. Generally, it just irritates me.

Edited February 20, 2015 by Frozen Fox

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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Yeah, it's kinda like that. I really enjoy talking here with text, but a lot of "Real" interaction is just more frightening/worrying/at the least agitating than anything else.

 

 I'd like to try having offline conversations with some people here at a meeting of some sort someday, but outside of that and some other instances I really just don't like talking in person. I hate phone calls too.

[Raritas 6,820]

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Maybe you're just a introverted person? I suppose it's ok to dislike interaction once in a while. All I can say is try talking to people you feel you're closest to. Maybe that'll help

Edited February 20, 2015 by Raritas

[BastementSparkle 20,334]

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The people I feel closest to are here.

 

 Don't feel close to anyone in my family, don't have any friends outside of here. I always leaned to the introvert side but the older I get the more and more I just hate offline interaction, and the worse at it I seem to get.

[Raritas 6,820]

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I obviously don't know the situation regarding your family or anything, so I can't help there. Unless you bite the bullet and get some help for it if it bothers you, that could help you in the long run.